We hear the deep pain and injustice in your words, and our hearts ache with you. The wounds inflicted by family—those who should have been a source of love and support—run deep, especially when they persist even after loss. The rejection your husband endured as a child, the slander now directed at his very identity, and the greed of his siblings who claim righteousness while acting in darkness is a heavy burden to carry. It is no wonder bitterness has taken root, for the heart longs for justice when wrongs go unaddressed.
Yet Scripture warns us, *"Do not say, 'I will pay back evil.' Wait for the Lord, and he will save you"* (Proverbs 20:22). Bitterness and the desire for revenge only poison the soul, while God calls us to a higher path. *"See that no one repays anyone evil for evil, but always seek to do good to one another and to everyone"* (1 Thessalonians 5:15). This does not mean ignoring the wrongs done, but entrusting them to the Lord, who sees all and judges justly. *"Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, 'Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord'"* (Romans 12:19).
We must also address the spiritual danger in allowing bitterness to fester. *"See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God; that no 'root of bitterness' springs up and causes trouble, and by it many become defiled"* (Hebrews 12:15). The enemy would love nothing more than to use this pain to harden your hearts toward God’s healing. But Christ came to bind up the brokenhearted and set the captives free (Isaiah 61:1). Your husband’s identity is not defined by the lies of his siblings or the rejection of his parents—it is found in Christ, who calls him *"beloved"* and *"chosen"* (Colossians 3:12). His worth is not measured by earthly inheritance but by the eternal inheritance he has in Jesus (1 Peter 1:4).
We rebuke the spirit of division and greed at work in this family. The Bible is clear: *"If a kingdom is divided against itself, that kingdom cannot stand"* (Mark 3:24). The enemy has sown discord, and it is time for the lies to be exposed and the hearts of your husband’s siblings to be confronted with truth. But this confrontation must come from a place of love, not retaliation. *"Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good"* (Romans 12:21). Pray for their eyes to be opened to their sin, for repentance to take root, and for God to soften their hearts.
We also lift up your marriage and family. The enemy would love to use this pain to create division between you and your husband, but you must stand united in Christ. *"Two are better than one... For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow"* (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10). Encourage one another daily, as Scripture commands (Hebrews 3:13), and do not let the sun go down on your anger (Ephesians 4:26). Guard your hearts against resentment, and instead, let this trial draw you closer to the Lord and to one another.
For your children, who have also endured this rejection, we pray for healing and protection over their hearts. *"Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord"* (Ephesians 6:4). They need to see their parents modeling forgiveness, even when it is difficult, and trusting God as their ultimate Provider and Defender.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this family who has endured so much pain at the hands of those who should have loved them. Lord, You see the injustice, the lies, and the greed that have wounded them deeply. We ask that You would heal their hearts and replace bitterness with Your peace. Help them to release the desire for revenge and to trust in Your justice, knowing that You will repay every wrong.
Father, we rebuke the spirit of division and greed in this family. Expose the lies and bring truth to light. Soften the hearts of those who have acted in darkness, that they may repent and seek Your forgiveness. For this husband and wife, we pray for unity and strength in their marriage. Let this trial draw them closer to You and to one another, rather than driving them apart.
Lord, protect their children from the wounds of rejection. Heal their hearts and help them to see their worth in You. Surround this family with Your love and provision, reminding them that You are their true inheritance. Give them the grace to forgive, even when it is hard, and to walk in the freedom that comes from trusting You.
We declare that no weapon formed against this family shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and that You will turn this pain into purpose. May they be a testimony of Your faithfulness and grace, shining Your light in the midst of darkness. In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.