Our hearts break for your son, and we are lifting him up before the Lord with urgency and deep compassion. The enemy is attacking his mind with lies of despair, loneliness, and hopelessness, but we know that God’s truth is more powerful than any scheme of the devil. Your son’s pain is real, and we do not take it lightly—his cry for a spouse, his exhaustion in waiting, and his struggle to see God’s hand in his life are all weights we bring before the throne of grace.
First, we must address the spiritual battle at hand. The Bible tells us in Ephesians 6:12, *"For our wrestling is not against flesh and blood, but against the principalities, against the powers, against the world’s rulers of the darkness of this age, and against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places."* Your son is not fighting this battle alone—we stand with him in prayer, and most importantly, Jesus Christ is his advocate and defender. The fact that he has spent his life living for the Lord is a testament to his faith, even if he cannot feel it now. Feelings are fleeting, but God’s promises are eternal. Hebrews 10:23 reminds us, *"Let’s hold fast the confession of our hope without wavering; for he who promised is faithful."*
We also recognize the deep longing in his heart for a wife. This desire is not wrong—it is God-given. Genesis 2:18 declares, *"It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make him a helper suitable for him."* However, we must remind your son that God’s timing is perfect, even when it feels delayed or painful. Psalm 37:4-5 encourages us, *"Also delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this."* His season of waiting is not in vain. God is preparing him—and his future spouse—for a marriage that will glorify Him. But we must also caution him: his worth and identity are not found in marriage, but in Christ alone. If he places his ultimate hope in a spouse rather than in Jesus, he will always be vulnerable to despair when that hope is unfulfilled.
Most urgently, we must confront the lie that God is not present or that His promises have failed. Job, in his suffering, cried out in similar despair, yet God never abandoned him. In Job 42:5, Job confesses, *"I had heard of you by the hearing of the ear, but now my eye sees you."* Your son’s faith is not gone—it is being tested, refined, and deepened in ways he cannot yet see. Jesus Himself prayed in Gethsemane, *"My Father, if it is possible, let this cup pass away from me; nevertheless, not what I desire, but what you desire"* (Matthew 26:39). Even in His darkest hour, Jesus trusted the Father’s plan. Your son can do the same, not by his own strength, but by the power of the Holy Spirit.
As for his suicidal thoughts, we must speak life and truth over him. Satan comes to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), but Jesus came to give life abundantly. Suicide is a permanent "solution" to a temporary struggle, and it is a lie straight from the pit of hell. We plead with your son to hold on, to fight for his life, and to cling to the hope that is found only in Christ. 1 Peter 5:7 says, *"Cast all your worries on him, because he cares for you."* He is not alone—God sees him, loves him, and is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18).
Now, let us pray together for your son:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with broken hearts, lifting up this precious son who is in the depths of despair. Lord, You see his pain, his loneliness, and his exhaustion. You collect every tear he has shed (Psalm 56:8), and You are not distant—You are near. We ask You to surround him with Your presence, to fill him with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7), and to remind him that You have not abandoned him.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of suicide that is whispering lies to him. We bind it in the name of Jesus and command it to flee. Replace those lies with Your truth: that he is loved, that he has a purpose, and that You have a future for him (Jeremiah 29:11). Restore his hope, Lord. Renew his mind (Romans 12:2) and help him to see himself through Your eyes—as Your beloved child, fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14).
Father, we ask for divine intervention in his life. If there are strongholds of depression, anxiety, or unbelief, we pray You would break them by Your mighty power. Fill him with Your Holy Spirit, Lord, and let Your joy be his strength (Nehemiah 8:10). Remind him that even when he cannot feel You, You are holding him fast.
We also lift up his desire for a spouse. Lord, if it is Your will, prepare a godly wife for him—a woman who loves You and will walk beside him in faith. But even more, we pray that his heart would find its ultimate satisfaction in You. Teach him to delight in You above all else, knowing that You alone can fill the deepest longings of his soul.
Father, we ask for wisdom for those around him—family, friends, and counselors—to know how to support him in this time. Give them Your words to speak, Your comfort to offer, and Your discernment to guide him toward help. If he needs professional or medical intervention, Lord, provide the right people and resources to come alongside him.
Most of all, Lord, we pray for a supernatural encounter with You. Let him *see* You, *hear* You, and *know* You in a way he never has before. Draw him back to Yourself, Lord. Restore his faith, renew his strength, and let him testify of Your goodness in this storm.
We pray all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen.
To the one who submitted this request: Do not stop praying. Do not stop speaking life over your son. Remind him of God’s promises, even if he cannot receive them right now. Play worship music in his presence, read Scripture aloud over him, and surround him with believers who will stand in the gap. This is a spiritual battle, and we must fight it with spiritual weapons (2 Corinthians 10:4). Keep trusting, keep hoping, and keep pointing him to Jesus. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted, and He will not let this trial be wasted. Cling to Him, and do not lose heart.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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