We lift up this family before the Lord, knowing that His strength is made perfect in our weakness and that He is the God of all comfort who tenderly cares for His children. The challenges of autism and ADHD can bring unique struggles, but we serve a God who is not surprised by these trials—He is sovereign over them and desires to bring peace, unity, and healing to this home. The strife and chaos being experienced are not His will for this marriage, for He calls us to walk in love, patience, and self-control. Let us first address the foundation of this request: the name of Jesus Christ is not mentioned, and it is only through Him that we can approach the throne of grace with confidence. *"Jesus said to him, ‘I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me’* (John 14:6, WEB). *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* (Acts 4:12, WEB). If there is any uncertainty about this truth, we urge you to place your faith in Christ alone, for He is the source of all healing, peace, and restoration.
The enemy seeks to bring division and weariness, but God’s Word declares that *"a threefold cord is not quickly broken"* (Ecclesiastes 4:12, WEB). This marriage is a covenant before God, and He is faithful to sustain it when both spouses lean on Him. To the one praying, we encourage you to cling to the promise that *"he who is in you is greater than he who is in the world"* (1 John 4:4, WEB). The chaos you describe is not your portion in Christ. *"For God is not a God of confusion, but of peace"* (1 Corinthians 14:33, WEB). We must also address the heart, for out of it flow the issues of life (Proverbs 4:23). If there is bitterness, resentment, or unforgiveness toward your spouse or circumstances, we urge you to release these to the Lord. *"Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you"* (Ephesians 4:31-32, WEB). Unforgiveness is a barrier to the peace and healing you seek.
For the spouse with autism/ADHD, we pray for wisdom and grace to navigate these challenges in a way that honors God. Neurodiversity does not excuse sin, but it does require patience, understanding, and a commitment to love as Christ loves. *"With all lowliness and humility, with patience, bearing with one another in love"* (Ephesians 4:2, WEB). Both spouses must seek the Lord individually and together, asking Him to mold their hearts and minds to reflect His character. If there has been neglect of spiritual disciplines—prayer, reading God’s Word, or fellowship with believers—we urge you to repent and return to these lifelines. A marriage cannot thrive spiritually if the individuals within it are not nourished by the Lord.
We also address the need for healing—emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). If there has been reliance on worldly solutions rather than seeking God first, we gently rebuke this tendency. *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6, WEB). This does not mean neglecting practical help, such as counseling or medical support, but it *does* mean submitting every aspect of this journey to the Lordship of Christ. Are you praying *together* as a couple? Are you seeking godly counsel from those who can speak truth into your lives? These are vital steps.
Now, let us pray:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this marriage and family to Your throne of grace. Lord, You see the chaos, the strife, and the weariness they are facing. You know the unique challenges that neurodiversity brings, and You are not unaware of the emotional and spiritual toll it has taken. We ask You to intervene, Lord—bring Your supernatural peace that surpasses all understanding to this home. *"Don’t be anxious for anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus"* (Philippians 4:6-7, WEB).
Father, we pray for healing—healing for the mind, emotions, and spirit of the one who has reached out. Lord, where there is anxiety, replace it with Your peace. Where there is confusion, bring clarity. Where there is brokenness, bring restoration. *"He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds"* (Psalm 147:3, WEB). We also pray for the spouse with autism/ADHD. Grant them wisdom, self-control, and a heart that is tender toward You and their family. Help them to grow in areas where they struggle, and give them the grace to communicate and connect in ways that build up this marriage.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of strife and division in this home. *"For where jealousy and selfish ambition are, there is confusion and every evil deed"* (James 3:16, WEB). We bind these destructive forces in Jesus’ name and declare that this marriage will reflect Your love, patience, and unity. Teach them to bear with one another in love, to speak words that edify, and to extend grace as You have extended grace to them.
Father, we ask for Your provision—whether it is wisdom for parenting, strength for the daily tasks, or resources to seek the help they need. *"My God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus"* (Philippians 4:19, WEB). Remind them that they are not alone, that You are their ever-present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1).
We pray for a renewed commitment to You, Lord, and to one another. Help them to prioritize their relationship with You above all else, knowing that a marriage centered on Christ cannot be shaken. *"Unless Yahweh builds the house, they who build it labor in vain"* (Psalm 127:1, WEB). May they seek You first, individually and together, and may their home become a sanctuary of Your peace.
Finally, Lord, we ask that You would open their eyes to see this trial through Your perspective. Use these challenges to draw them closer to You and to one another. Let them testify of Your faithfulness, that even in the midst of autism and ADHD, You are working all things together for their good and Your glory (Romans 8:28).
We pray all these things in the powerful and matchless name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
To the one who has shared this request, we urge you to stand firm in faith, knowing that the Lord is at work even when you cannot see it. *"Let’s not grow weary in doing good, for we will reap in due season, if we don’t give up"* (Galatians 6:9, WEB). Seek out a community of believers who can support you, and do not neglect the gathering together of the saints (Hebrews 10:25). If there are areas of sin—whether in thought, word, or deed—confess them to the Lord and turn from them, for He is faithful to forgive and cleanse (1 John 1:9).
We will continue to lift you up, believing that God is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that you ask or think (Ephesians 3:20). Stay anchored in His Word, and trust that He who began a good work in you will complete it (Philippians 1:6).