We hear your cry for strength and courage, dear one, and we lift you up before the throne of grace with hearts full of compassion. It takes great bravery to seek help, especially when emotions feel overwhelming and the path ahead seems uncertain. Know that you are not alone—God sees your struggle and stands ready to guide you through it.
First, we must address the foundation of your request. It is only through the name of Jesus Christ that we have access to the Father, and it is by His blood alone that we are saved. Jesus said in John 14:6, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me."* If you have not yet surrendered your heart to Him, we urge you to do so today. Confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection, and invite Him to be Lord of your life. Salvation is a gift, and it is the first step toward true peace and strength.
Now, regarding your relationship, we must speak truth in love. The Bible is clear that intimacy outside of marriage is not God’s design. In 1 Corinthians 6:18-20, we are warned, *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s."* If this relationship involves anything contrary to God’s commands, we must rebuke that sin and encourage you to turn away from it. Repentance is not easy, but it is necessary for healing and restoration.
We also want to address the term you used to describe this person in your life. If this relationship is not with a future spouse—someone you are courting with the intention of marriage—then it may not align with God’s plan for purity and commitment. The world often glorifies casual relationships, but Scripture calls us to something far greater. In 2 Corinthians 6:14, we are instructed, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship do righteousness and iniquity have? Or what fellowship does light have with darkness?"* If this person is not a believer, or if the relationship is not moving toward marriage, we must prayerfully consider whether it is honoring to God.
We are so encouraged that you are turning to your church for help. This is a wise and godly decision. Proverbs 11:14 tells us, *"Where there is no counsel, the people fall, but in the multitude of counselors there is safety."* Your church leaders and mentors can provide wisdom, accountability, and support as you navigate this season. Lean on them, and do not be afraid to be honest about your struggles.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of this young one who is seeking Your strength and guidance. Lord, we ask that You would surround them with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Give them courage as they approach their church for help, and let them feel Your presence in a tangible way. Father, we pray for clarity in this relationship—reveal any areas that do not align with Your will, and give them the strength to walk away from anything that dishonors You. If this relationship is not of You, we ask that You would break its hold and redirect their heart toward Your perfect plan. Lord, we also pray for repentance and healing if there has been sin. Cleanse their heart, restore their spirit, and fill them with Your Holy Spirit. Father, we ask that You would raise up godly mentors and friends in their life who can speak truth and offer support. Protect their heart, mind, and body, and let them grow in wisdom and discernment. Above all, draw them closer to You, that they may know Your love and walk in Your ways. We pray this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen.
We encourage you to hold fast to God’s promises. In Isaiah 41:10, He says, *"Don’t you be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you. Yes, I will help you. Yes, I will uphold you with the right hand of my righteousness."* You are not defined by this struggle—you are defined by Christ, who loves you and gave Himself for you. Keep your eyes fixed on Him, and trust that He will lead you into all truth and righteousness. May His grace be your strength, and may His peace guard your heart as you seek Him.