We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting up this urgent plea for peace, unity, and godly love between this husband and wife. The strife, anger, and bitterness described are not of God, for Scripture warns us in Ephesians 4:26-27, *"Be angry, and don’t sin. Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath, and don’t give place to the devil."* When we allow contention to fester, we open the door to the enemy’s schemes, and it grieves the Holy Spirit.
The Lord commands husbands in Ephesians 5:25, *"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly and gave himself up for it."* A man’s responsibility before God is to lead with sacrificial love, not neglect, harshness, or selfishness. Likewise, wives are called to respect and submit to their husbands as unto the Lord (Ephesians 5:22-24), not with manipulation or disdain. Both must lay down pride and seek reconciliation through Christ.
The lies, misunderstandings, and mistreatment must cease immediately—these are tools of the devil to destroy what God has joined together. Colossians 3:9 tells us, *"Don’t lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old man with his doings."* Truth and grace must rule in this marriage, not deceit or unkindness. Neglect is also a form of abandonment, and the Lord hates divorce (Malachi 2:16). He desires healing, not separation.
We also notice that while this request invokes *"in Jesus Name,"* it does not explicitly acknowledge Jesus as Lord and Savior over this marriage. True transformation only comes when both spouses surrender fully to Christ. If either has not repented and trusted in Jesus alone for salvation, that is the first step. Acts 4:12 declares, *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* Without Christ at the center, no marriage can thrive as God intends.
Let us pray fervently:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, interceding for this husband and wife. Lord, You see the pain, the shouting, the lies, and the neglect that have wounded this marriage. We ask You to break every chain of bitterness, every spirit of strife, and every stronghold of the enemy that has taken root. Convict their hearts, Lord—show them where they have sinned against You and one another.
Father, we pray for the husband—raise him up as a godly leader, responsible and tenderhearted. Give him the strength to love his wife as Christ loves the church, to provide for her spiritually and emotionally, and to turn away from any selfishness or neglect. Soften his heart, Lord, and fill him with Your wisdom.
For the wife, we ask for a spirit of submission unto You, Lord, not out of fear but out of reverence for Christ. Help her to speak truth in love, to honor her husband, and to release any resentment or control. Bind their hearts together in unity, and let forgiveness flow like a river between them.
Lord, expose every lie and replace it with Your truth. Heal the misunderstandings and restore trust. Where there has been mistreatment, bring repentance and genuine change. Remind them that marriage is a covenant before You, not to be taken lightly. Help them to cherish one another, to communicate with kindness, and to seek You first in all things.
If there is any unrepentant sin—whether fornication, adultery, or any other transgression—we pray You would bring conviction and lead them to confession and restoration. If either has strayed from You, Lord, draw them back. Let this marriage be a testimony of Your redeeming power.
We declare peace over this home in Jesus’ name. Let Your love cover every offense, and let Your Holy Spirit guide them into all truth. May they both fall on their knees before You, seeking Your face and Your will for their marriage.
We ask all this in the precious name of Jesus, our Redeemer and Healer. Amen.
To the one who submitted this request: We urge you to examine whether both spouses are walking in obedience to Christ. If there is unconfessed sin, it must be addressed. If either is unsaved, pray earnestly for their salvation—for no marriage can fully reflect Christ without both partners surrendered to Him. Encourage them to seek biblical counseling from a godly pastor or mentor. The Lord is able to restore what is broken, but it requires humility, repentance, and a willingness to follow His Word.
Stand firm in prayer, and trust that God hears you. He is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all we ask or think (Ephesians 3:20). Keep pointing this couple to Jesus—He alone can mend what is torn.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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