Still in need of prayer for marriage to be restored

[WoMs1997]

My husband needs prayer. He still wants a divorce. I do not. I don't understand I've asked God over and over and over again to let me know. I want to know he's not communicating with me. So I'm asking God who communicates with us all. But I'm not understanding God apparently why my husband is so hateful towards me. He says that he hates me. He doesn't want nothing to do with me anymore. He doesn't love me. He doesn't like me. And when I ask him, the reason why he will not tell me, and I said, listen, when we took a marriage vow, we took marriage counseling before we got married. Years ago, and before I even had a chance to even say anything else, he's like, I don't care about you. I don't give an f I don't give an f he's just cussing at me i said, please look at your heart. Our marriage vows are covenant was in sickness. And in health till death do us part, the man has been sick the whole life We've ever been together. He's been sick. He's got HIV. He's had since I met him. I do not have it, but he does. Past few years, he got kidney failure. I've prayed and I've asked God to heal him and it still as yet has not happened. I still believe that Jesus could still heal him. I don't know why he's so angry at me. It's like after my mom passed away in September. He is hell-bent on leaving me leaving his life of almost 30 years. I mean, is it a midlife crisis? I don't know. I'm asking God over and over again to tell me now I know Jesus talks to us all the time. It's not him. It's me that's not hearing him. I'm in the wrong. I'm not going to palm readers. I'm not going to psychics, I'm going to Jesus Christ and I'm asking him, what is up with my husband because then I'll know how to pray about it, cause the man the way he talks. He hates me okay and he's like whenever I Say the marriage covenant, he's like you never thought about that years ago. He's cheated on me many times and I have forgiven this man 20 years ago. I did a stupid thing and I cheated on him two wrongs. Don't make it right. I understand that I have asked him to forgive me. Why can't he see all The Times he's done stuff to me? I have forgiven this man cause if I didn't. I would have never stayed with him. I had forgiven this man and many things over the years here. Recently, he is found by me hugging and kissing women at work. Okay, that is wrong. He tells me, oh, it's okay. I tell him that i know all about it. It's okay, no, it's not okay. I'm not okay. With my husband telling me hey, while we're at work, you act like you don't know me, that's what he told me for years. I've done what he said. I obeyed my husband which I was wrong to do. But I let him have his way like I always do. That has got to change God, you've known This has been going on for years. Do something about it, Lord. So when I recently a few months ago I told him I said, listen, I'm not okay, was you telling these women that hey, it's okay, my wife knows about it that you hug. And kiss women at work. I'm not okay with it. No one in the right mind would be okay with it. Where do you get off thinking it'd be okay with you? Doing this see, that's where your heart is ###. Your heart is in the wrong place. I told him that months ago. Oh, so now he says, okay, he's angry at me because I told him that I was going to give my mom's trailer away. Her home away, I'm in debt. I'm not going to give a home away when I could use that money and get out of debt. But he wants me to take whatever money I get from it. And pay off his credit card. I don't have a credit card. My husband does. I've never touched the credit card in my life. Okay, I've paid his credit card bills before. I will not use my dead mom's money from her home to pay off his credit card. I will not do it. I need to get out of debt. So I don't know if that's the reason why he's mad at me. I want to know God. I need you to tell me somehow some way. What is causing him? Such bitter and anger towards me. His wife, a few months ago, he and I was at the casino He's on the phone, and I walked up behind him, and I said, who you talking to your girlfriend just joking? And he's like, yeah, yes, it is. Now you know, she's your replacement. Wow, I about fell on the floor and he tells me wow Then, Valentine's Day. Tells me he wants a divorce. He doesn't like me anymore. He doesn't love me anymore. He does not want anything to do with me. I better sign the papers for divorce. I said I will not do it. I will not. I went through divorce before when I was younger. In fact he was the reason why i got the divorce. And I will not break the covenant with God, I will not do it. He's like it, didn't matter when you did it before. So, what does it matter? Now it's because I have a relationship with Christ. Now that I didn't have before, and I thought he did too. He got saved back in 2004 got baptized, but he's always had his way. And I let him have it, I never set up boundaries. And I know what wrong of me Like I said, I'm not going to palm readers or psychics. I'm going to Jesus Christ. I do not want to hold resentment towards my husband. Lord Jesus, help me. I speak blessings over my husband. Then, no weapon formed against our marriage will prosper in Jesus' name. We use that scripture, the scripture of where god has put 2 together, let no man separate. We use that over the years for immigration. He's still waiting on his green card. I don't know what the holdup is. I don't know if that's the reason why he's so angry cause he's scared. I don't know I need to know. I'm not asking much. I want to save this marriage but I can't do it by myself. I've asked god to give him visions. And dreams at night and then let him see himself that he cannot deny it.

 

[Articles]

We hear your heartache, your confusion, and your unwavering commitment to the covenant you made before God. Your marriage is under severe attack, and the enemy seeks to destroy what God has joined together. We stand with you in prayer, lifting up your husband and your marriage to the Lord, who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all we can ask or think.

First, we must address the sin that has taken root in this marriage. Your husband’s infidelity—his repeated unfaithfulness, his emotional and physical betrayal—is a grievous violation of the marriage covenant. Scripture is clear: *"Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4 WEB). His actions are not just against you; they are against God. Yet, you have chosen forgiveness, as Christ calls us to do. But forgiveness does not mean tolerating ongoing sin or enabling destructive behavior. You are right to set boundaries, and we commend you for refusing to accept his justification of these actions.

His hatred toward you, his refusal to communicate, and his demand for divorce are not of God. The Bible warns, *"For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work"* (James 3:16 WEB). His bitterness and anger are fruits of a heart that is not surrendered to Christ, no matter what profession of faith he once made. We rebuke the spirit of division, hardness of heart, and deception that has blinded him. We declare that his eyes will be opened, and his heart will be softened by the Holy Spirit.

You mentioned that your husband has been sick, both with HIV and kidney failure. We pray for his healing, believing that Jesus is the same yesterday, today, and forever (Hebrews 13:8 WEB). We ask the Lord to touch his body, restore his health, and use this trial to draw him back to Himself. But we also recognize that physical healing is not always God’s immediate will, and we trust His sovereignty even in suffering. We pray that his illness would not be an excuse for sin but an opportunity for repentance and dependence on God.

Your husband’s demand for you to use your mother’s inheritance to pay his debts is manipulative and unfair. Scripture teaches that a husband is to love his wife as Christ loves the Church (Ephesians 5:25 WEB), not to exploit her or demand her resources. You are right to stand firm in wisdom and stewardship of what God has entrusted to you. We pray that the Lord would provide for your needs and release you from debt in His perfect way.

We also must address the spiritual warfare at play here. The enemy has been at work for years, sowing seeds of discord, bitterness, and unfaithfulness. But we declare that no weapon formed against your marriage will prosper (Isaiah 54:17 WEB). We bind every spirit of adultery, deception, and hardness of heart in Jesus’ name. We loose the spirit of repentance, reconciliation, and restoration over your husband. We pray that God would give him dreams and visions, as you have asked, so that he cannot deny the truth of what he is doing.

You have asked God repeatedly to speak to you, and we believe He is. The fact that you are still standing, still fighting for your marriage, still choosing forgiveness—this is God at work in you. His silence does not mean He is absent; it often means He is working in ways we cannot yet see. We encourage you to keep seeking Him, to keep praying, and to keep trusting. *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your paths"* (Proverbs 3:5-6 WEB).

We also want to gently challenge you in one area: your past submission to your husband’s sinful demands. While Scripture calls wives to submit to their husbands (Ephesians 5:22 WEB), it does not call them to submit to sin or enable ungodly behavior. You recognized this when you said, *"That has got to change."* We agree. Godly submission is not blind obedience; it is a posture of respect that aligns with God’s Word. You are not wrong for setting boundaries or refusing to be complicit in sin.

Now, we pray:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this marriage to You. Lord, You see the pain, the betrayal, and the brokenness. You also see the faith of this wife, who refuses to let go of the covenant she made before You. We ask that You would move mightily in this situation.

Father, we rebuke the spirit of division and hardness of heart that has taken hold of this husband. We declare that his eyes will be opened, and he will see the destruction he is bringing upon his own life and marriage. We pray that You would convict him of his sin—not with condemnation, but with Your loving correction. Bring him to repentance, Lord. Let him remember the vows he made before You, and let him turn back to You with his whole heart.

We pray for healing—physical, emotional, and spiritual—for both of them. Heal this husband’s body, Lord, and heal his heart. Remove the bitterness, the anger, and the hardness. Replace it with Your love, Your peace, and Your truth. Heal this wife’s heart as well, Lord. Comfort her in her pain, strengthen her in her faith, and give her wisdom as she navigates this trial.

We declare that no weapon formed against this marriage will prosper. We speak restoration, reconciliation, and renewal over this union. Lord, You are the God who makes all things new. We ask that You would do a new work in this marriage, something so powerful that it can only be explained by Your hand.

We pray for protection over this wife’s heart. Guard her from bitterness, resentment, and despair. Fill her with Your peace, Your joy, and Your hope. Give her the strength to stand firm, to set godly boundaries, and to trust You even when the outcome is uncertain.

Father, we ask that You would speak to this husband in ways he cannot ignore. Give him dreams, visions, or encounters with Your truth that break through the deception in his heart. Let him see the destruction his choices are bringing, and let him turn back to You.

We also pray for wisdom for this wife as she seeks to honor You in this situation. Give her discernment to know when to speak and when to be silent, when to stand firm and when to extend grace. Surround her with godly counsel and support.

Lord, we know that You hate divorce (Malachi 2:16 WEB), and we stand on Your Word that what You have joined together, let no man separate (Matthew 19:6 WEB). We ask that You would intervene in this marriage, that You would soften this husband’s heart, and that You would bring restoration in ways that only You can.

We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name, the name by which we are saved and through which we have access to the Father. There is no other name under heaven by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12 WEB), and we declare that this marriage will be saved, restored, and renewed by the power of Jesus Christ.

In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.

 

[hostadmin]

I'm really sorry to hear about the pain and struggle you're going through in your marriage. I want you to know that you're not alone, and there are many of us praying for you and your husband. Here's a prayer for you both:

Dear Heavenly Father,

We come before You today, lifting up the marriage of [###] and her husband. Lord, we know that You hate divorce, and we believe that You can restore and heal what has been broken. We ask that You would move mightily in this situation.

Father, we rebuke the spirit of division, bitterness, and hardness of heart that has taken hold of [###]. We declare that his eyes will be opened, and he will see the destruction he is bringing upon his own life and marriage. We pray that You would convict him of his sin, not with condemnation, but with Your loving correction. Bring him to repentance, Lord. Let him remember the vows he made before You, and let him turn back to You with his whole heart.

We also pray for healing - physical, emotional, and spiritual - for both [###] and [###]. Heal [###]'s body, Lord, and heal his heart. Remove the bitterness, the anger, and the hardness. Replace it with Your love, Your peace, and Your truth. Heal [###]'s heart as well, Lord. Comfort her in her pain, strengthen her in her faith, and give her wisdom as she navigates this trial.

We declare that no weapon formed against this marriage will prosper. We speak restoration, reconciliation, and renewal over this union. Lord, You are the God who makes all things new. We ask that You would do a new work in this marriage, something so powerful that it can only be explained by Your hand.

We pray for protection over [###]'s heart. Guard her from bitterness, resentment, and despair. Fill her with Your peace, Your joy, and Your hope. Give her the strength to stand firm, to set godly boundaries, and to trust You even when the outcome is uncertain.

Father, we ask that You would speak to [###] in ways he cannot ignore. Give him dreams, visions, or encounters with Your truth that break through the deception in his heart. Let him see the destruction his choices are bringing, and let him turn back to You.

We also pray for wisdom for [###] as she seeks to honor You in this situation. Give her discernment to know when to speak and when to be silent, when to stand firm and when to extend grace. Surround her with godly counsel and support.

Lord, we know that You can do exceeding abundantly above all we can ask or think. We trust in Your sovereignty, and we believe that You can restore this marriage. We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name, the name by which we are saved and through which we have access to the Father. There is no other name under heaven by which we can be saved, and we declare that this marriage will be saved, restored, and renewed by the power of Jesus Christ.

In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

 

[bobr69]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Cinu]

Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

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