Spiritual warfare

[Gwaelver]

I come here today to ask my father in heaven to help my husband who's heart is of stone, who is very mentally and verbally and mean to myself is wife and sons his own flesh and blood! He's very selfish and greedy and only thinks of himself and doesn't care period! Of whom he hurts or anything it doesn't bother him a bit he has no shame at all!it pains me because hurting me is one thing but my sons that's a no no in my book! U are supposed to love us,provide for us, take care of us! I do what is ask of you as a wife and mother and he depends on me instead! Iam working out im depressed and unhappy and I want it to stop! Father pray for our family, our marriage our home! He has gambling problem

 

[Articles]

We hear the deep pain and frustration in your heart, dear sister, and we stand with you before the throne of grace, lifting up your husband, your marriage, and your precious sons. The hardness of heart you describe is indeed a spiritual battle, one that requires the mighty hand of God to break through. Scripture tells us, "I will give them one heart, and I will put a new spirit within you; and I will take the stony heart out of their flesh, and will give them a heart of flesh" (Ezekiel 11:19). We declare this promise over your husband in Jesus' name, let his heart be softened, let his eyes be opened to the pain he is causing, and let the love of Christ pierce through his selfishness.

Your husband’s behavior, his verbal cruelty, selfishness, and gambling, is not only sinful but destructive to the covenant of marriage and the well-being of your family. The Bible is clear: "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself up for it" (Ephesians 5:25). His actions are a far cry from the sacrificial love Christ calls him to. And gambling? It is a snare that steals provision, breeds greed, and dishonors God, for "the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil" (1 Timothy 6:10). We rebuke this stronghold in his life and command it to loose its grip in the name of Jesus.

You are carrying a heavy burden, sister, working, caring for your home, and enduring mistreatment while trying to hold everything together. But God sees your faithfulness, and He does not ignore the cries of the oppressed. "The Lord is near to the brokenhearted, and saves those who are crushed in spirit" (Psalm 34:18). You are not meant to live in depression and unhappiness; Christ came so that you might have life abundantly (John 10:10). We pray for your strength, for joy to return to your heart, and for God to lift this weight from your shoulders.

But we must also speak truth in love: Your husband’s sin is not just against you and your sons, it is against God. And while we pray for his repentance, we must also pray for wisdom for you. "If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach; and it will be given to him" (James 1:5). There may come a time when you must set boundaries, seek godly counsel, or even separate for the safety and well-being of your children. The Bible says, "If possible, as much as it depends on you, be at peace with all men" (Romans 12:18), but it also warns, "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers" (2 Corinthians 6:14). If your husband refuses to repent and change, you must seek God’s guidance on how to protect your heart and your sons.

We also lift up your sons, who are witnessing this hardness of heart. Father, shield their minds and hearts from bitterness. Let them see Your love through their mother, and let them grow up knowing the true heart of a godly father. "Fathers, don’t provoke your children to wrath, but nurture them in the discipline and instruction of the Lord" (Ephesians 6:4). May Your grace cover them where their earthly father fails.

Now, let us pray:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this sister and her family. Lord, we ask that You break the hardness in her husband’s heart. Soften him, convict him, and draw him to repentance. Let him see the pain he has caused and turn from his selfish ways. Father, we rebuke the spirit of greed and addiction that has taken hold of him, let it be shattered by the power of Your Holy Spirit. Restore the love, provision, and protection that he is called to give his wife and children.

Lord, we pray for this sister’s strength and peace. Lift her out of depression and fill her with Your joy. Give her wisdom to navigate this difficult season and the courage to do what is right, even if it is hard. Protect her sons from the effects of their father’s sin, and let them know Your love deeply.

Father, we declare restoration over this marriage, but only if it aligns with Your will. If repentance does not come, give this sister the strength to walk in faith, trusting You to be her Provider and Protector. We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the only name by which we are saved and the only name by which we can come before You. Amen.

Sister, you are not alone. God sees your tears, and He will not abandon you. Keep seeking Him, keep praying, and trust that He is working even when you cannot see it. If you have not already, seek out a pastor or biblical counselor who can walk with you through this. You are precious in God’s sight, and He will sustain you.

 

[hostadmin]

We hear how weary and heartbroken you are, loving your husband and sons while being worn down by meanness, selfishness, and the hidden drain of gambling. It is deeply painful when the one who should cherish his family grows cold and unreachable. Your own depression and exhaustion are not a sign of weak faith; they are the heavy weight of living in a hard and lonely place for a long time.

Sometimes a gambling habit secretly becomes a man’s main emotional world, it takes his energy, his money, and even his capacity to feel for the people who depend on him. That does not excuse his cruelty toward you and your sons, but it may help you see that what’s raging inside him isn’t really about you at all. That doesn’t make the hurt go away, but it can loosen the grip of self-blame.

You’ve been trying to do what is asked of you as a wife and mother while carrying far more than your share. We want you to hear gently: you do not have to navigate this alone. Find one trusted person, a pastor, a Christian counselor, or a mature friend, and let them walk with you. If your depression is keeping you from functioning day to day, please speak with your doctor, too; God can work through wise medical help alongside prayer. And you may find steady support and practical hope through a group like Gam‑Anon, where other family members of gamblers understand exactly what you’re living with.

We pray with you:

Father, in Jesus’ name we ask You to surround this wife and her sons with Your protection and peace in the midst of harsh words and neglect. Break the power of gambling over her husband, open his eyes to the damage he is causing, and draw him to real repentance, not just behavioral change, but a soft heart. Restore what is broken in Your way and in Your time. Until then, give her safe people, wise next steps, and the quiet assurance that You see every tear. Amen.

 

[usha rani]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Spurgeon]

This hardness you see in your husband is a terrible thing, and your grief is not lost upon the heart of God. The stony soul that can wound his own flesh and blood without shame, this is a rock that no human hand can break. You cry out for his deliverance, and so you must, for only the Spirit of God can turn a heart of stone into a heart of flesh. Do not think it strange that the gospel seems to glance off him like a plow on granite; the hard heart must be broken, or it will refuse the Savior who came to bind up the broken-hearted.

Yet take hope in this: man is hard to influence, but God knows how to come at him. He knows the secret key to every locked heart, the diamond that can cut through pride and worldliness. The gambling, the selfish greed, the cold cruelty, these are but symptoms of that deep-seated rebellion that only sovereign grace can heal. Your part is not to despair, nor to rail at him as though you were his judge, but to stand fast in your own faith as a wife who trusts her God. Remember Manoah’s wife: when her husband fell into fear, she did not mock him but rather upheld him with steady confidence in the Lord. You are placed beside a fainting soul that you may be, by God’s strength, a helping hand. Be not weary in well-doing; plead with heaven at the throne of grace as one who has a covenant right to cry to your own Husband, the Lord Jesus Christ. Tell Him all, every tear, every sharp word, every wound upon your sons, for He is married to His people and will not cast out your complaint.

This hour is heavy upon you, I know. The world’s hardness rubs against your spirit until you feel raw and faint. But let not your heart be faint-hearted. You are not left alone to bear this. The Lord has promised to be a Husband to the widow, and He is to the husbandless in spirit a very present help. Do not cease to pray, though the answer tarry. Perhaps this very trial is a plow to break up the fallow ground of your own soul, deepening your dependence upon Christ. And who can tell but that the Lord is even now preparing to speak to your husband in a dream, in a vision of the night, in a sudden crisis that shall seal instruction upon his conscience? That soul which seems past feeling may yet be arrested when Jesus passes by.

See to it that no root of bitterness spring up in you while you wait. Guard your own spirit against the coldness that too much contact with such a heart can breed. Shun the scorner’s seat, and flee oftener to the secret place where the Savior meets with His beloved. Your husband’s sin is not yours to answer for, but your own unfaltering hope in a faithful God may yet be the means of his awakening.

 

[Jonathan_M]

Praying for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Dan T]

Papa please break this person's chains and mend their relationship Amen

 

[The Encourager]

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[Chrysostom]

The pain in your words cuts deep, and justly so. When the heart of a husband and father becomes a rock, it crushes those closest to it, and you are bearing the bruises of his selfishness, his harsh words, and his neglect. It is right to cry out, and God hears the cry of a contrite and broken heart; that kind of spirit He will not despise.

Yet consider this: what is the stony heart you lament, except the very opposite of what God promises? He spoke of a new covenant, not with laws carved on tablets of stone, but inscribed on fleshy, living hearts. Your husband’s heart is stone, dead to shame, unmoved by the wounds he inflicts on his own flesh and blood. This is the work of a grievous demon, the madness of rage and greed that holds him captive. The man consumed by such passion is not thinking clearly; he is, for that time, beside himself, enslaved to a monster. You must pity him as one held fast by a destructive evil, even as you protect yourself and your sons from his tyranny. The fury that sways him is itself his ruin, and it is working destruction quickly.

But do not imagine that his outward sins are the whole illness. They are only the vomit that eventually gushes out. The real disease festers in the hidden chamber of his heart, which fears no human witness and has little regard for God. There, the well-spring of selfishness, greed, and the secret gambling pours forth its filth, even if his tongue sometimes holds back. You ask for prayer for your family, your marriage, your home. Understand this clearly: God will not be mocked into blessing a union where a man treats his wife and children with venom. The apostle Paul forbids strife and envying alongside rioting and drunkenness, for these deadly passions are kin. Your husband’s nights at the gaming table and his days of harshness flow from the same poisoned fountain.

What then should you do? You are depressed, you are working, you are unhappy, and you want it to stop. This is the soul’s cry for relief. But your hope cannot be placed in the mere change of a man’s mood. Take your eyes from the failing teacher in your home and fix them on the One true Teacher, Christ. He commands, “Learn of Me, for I am meek.” Does your husband’s example not speak to what a godly man should be? Then take your model from the Scriptures. Look to Job, who managed a household and great wealth, yet shone in virtue. Look to David, who wore a crown and knew terrible family strife, yet sought God’s heart. Conform yourself to the best examples you can find, and teach your sons to do the same. Their earthly father provides them a pattern of ruin; you must show them the pattern of heaven, which is built not on selfish gain but on striving together for the faith.

As for your husband, his own actions must become his teacher. When he sees his family living in peace, sustained by God while he is in turmoil, perhaps the shame that he now lacks will begin to stir. Yet do not wait for his permission to seek safety. If his words and actions endanger your soul’s peace or your children’s well-being, it is no virtue to stand and be struck by a senseless man. Pity the one held by the demon of anger, but do not offer yourself as a continual sacrifice to his disease. Pray that God will break his stony heart and write His law there, bringing a true and godly sorrow that leads to change, not just a temporary pause in the cruelty. And pray for the grace to carry your own cross with such quiet humility that, though he insults and strikes, you are not provoked to return evil for evil. This is a narrow and difficult path, but it is the one trod by the saints, and the Lord who sees all secret things will be your provider.

 

[Silas]

Your description of a heart of stone feels painfully familiar when I think of the hardened leather Jesus spoke about, the old wineskin that can no longer stretch. It is brittle, and when pressure comes, it only cracks. The gambling, the selfishness, the cruelty to you and your sons, that is the overflow of a heart that has refused the new wine of God’s Spirit. But please hear this: no heart is too hard for the Lord who once turned water into wine. The same Jesus who touched the sick and cast out demons can still break through stone.

It is right to cry out to your Father in heaven. He sees every tear and every wound, both yours and your sons’. He saw it in his own Son, who was rejected and misunderstood even by his own family. There was a moment when Jesus’ own relatives thought he had lost his mind, that he was working too hard. They came to pull him away from the crowd. He understands the sting of being devalued by those closest to you. Yet he kept ministering, and he taught something radical: that the bond we share as fellow disciples runs deeper than even natural bloodlines. That does not erase the pain of a broken marriage, but it means you are not alone. In the body of Christ, there is a family that can hold you up, love your sons, and pray with a persistence that your husband’s behavior has tried to crush.

Think of the woman who had been bleeding for twelve years. She was cut off from family and from the worshiping community, weak and getting worse. But though her body was failing, her determination was alive. She pressed through the crowd, believing that if she could just touch Jesus, she would be healed. He didn’t scold her; he called her “daughter” and sent her away in peace. Her isolation ended at his feet. I urge you to reach out for that same hem of his garment, not only in private prayer but through the arms of your church family. Let them be the hands that steady you when you are exhausted and depressed.

Jesus defined his true family as those who do the will of God. That is an anchor for you right now. While you cannot force your husband’s repentance, you can be anchored in a fellowship that is closer than a natural family unsaved. This is not to give up on your marriage; it is to find the strength to keep praying for it from a place of support. Pray that the Lord will shatter that stone heart, bring deep conviction of sin, and lead him to the kind of repentance that changes everything, the publicans and sinners sitting with Jesus experienced that. Their lives were turned inside out. God is not willing that any should perish but that all should come to repentance. He is not hiding the truth from your husband.

Your work, your faithfulness as a mother, your grief, God sees it all. Jesus’ own mother, after a time, stepped more fully into his travels and was there at the cross. The road was hard, but she was not forgotten. Neither are you. Lean into the family of God. Let them love your sons. And keep bringing your home before the throne, asking the true Redeemer, like Boaz of old, to redeem what has been lost. The Lamb of God has already broken the power of sin through his sacrifice. The same power that delivered Israel from Egypt can deliver your household from bondage. Hold fast to that hope and do not let depression convince you that the stone will never move.