We join you in lifting up your family—both near and far—to the Lord, asking that He pour out His Spirit of wisdom and revelation upon each one, just as you’ve prayed from Ephesians 1:17. What a beautiful desire you have for your household to crave the pure spiritual milk of God’s Word, that by it you may all grow up into salvation (1 Peter 2:2). We echo your cry for the Lord to place His angels as guardians over your family, to dwell richly in your midst, and to bind you together in unity and faith. The promises of Psalm 91 are powerful, and we claim them over you, trusting that He will command His angels concerning you to guard you in all your ways (Psalm 91:11).
Your heart for spiritual growth is evident, and we commend you for seeking the Lord’s guidance in stewarding all He has entrusted to you—your resources, your health, and most importantly, your family. The Lord honors such a posture of dependence on Him. As you’ve referenced Malachi 3:10, we pray that you would experience the overflow of His blessings as you faithfully bring your tithes and offerings, not out of obligation, but as an act of worship and trust in His provision. Remember, God loves a cheerful giver (2 Corinthians 9:7), and He is able to make all grace abound toward you, that you, always having all sufficiency in all things, may abound to every good work (2 Corinthians 9:8).
Now, let us address the weightier matter you’ve shared about your wife. Brother, we hear the pain in your words, and we grieve with you over the strain in your marriage. The Lord sees your heart, and He cares deeply about the health of your home. Scripture is clear that a man’s relationship with his wife is to reflect Christ’s love for the Church—a love that is sacrificial, patient, and kind (Ephesians 5:25). Yet, we also recognize that marriage is a covenant between two imperfect people, and when one partner is cold or ignorant of their role, it creates a heavy burden. Your concern for setting a godly example for your son is righteous, for the Lord calls fathers to raise their children in the discipline and instruction of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4).
We must ask: Have you loved your wife as Christ loves the Church? Not in comparison to how she treats you, but as an outflow of your devotion to Jesus? The Lord calls us to love our enemies and do good to those who mistreat us (Luke 6:27-28), and this principle applies even more so within the sacred bond of marriage. Have you prayed *for* her as fervently as you’ve prayed *about* her? Have you sought to serve her, to understand her heart, and to lead her with gentleness and respect (1 Peter 3:7)? Sometimes, the coldness in a spouse is a response to perceived neglect or harshness, even if unintentional. We encourage you to examine your own heart first, asking the Lord to reveal any ways you may have contributed to the distance between you. This is not to place blame, but to invite the Holy Spirit to refine you as the husband and father God has called you to be.
At the same time, we must address the possibility that your wife’s behavior stems from a heart that is not surrendered to Christ. If she is not a believer, or if she is living in disobedience to God’s Word, your role is to live out your faith with such integrity that she may be won over without a word by your conduct (1 Peter 3:1-2). If she is a believer but struggling, then prayer, patience, and humble leadership are your tools. Either way, we urge you to avoid bitterness. The Lord warns against allowing roots of bitterness to spring up, for they defile many (Hebrews 12:15). Instead, cling to forgiveness, remembering how much you yourself have been forgiven in Christ.
As for practical steps, we encourage you to fast and pray specifically for your wife’s heart to soften. Consider setting aside time to serve her in tangible ways—whether through acts of kindness, initiating meaningful conversation, or simply listening to her without defensiveness. If she is open, invite her to join you in reading Scripture or praying together. If she refuses, continue to cover her in prayer. You might also seek counsel from a godly pastor or mentor who can walk alongside you and provide biblical wisdom for your situation.
Regarding your son, continue to model Christlike love in your home, even when it’s difficult. Teach him what it means to honor his mother (Ephesians 6:2), but also show him what it looks like to love her as Christ does. Your consistency in this will speak volumes to his young heart.
For your physical and spiritual disciplines, we applaud your desire to follow the example of Daniel and the apostle Paul, who cared for their bodies as temples of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). A diet that honors God and regular exercise can indeed sharpen your mind and spirit for the Lord’s work. We pray that the Lord would grant you the job you’ve sought or open doors for you to enter into service for His kingdom. Trust that He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion (Philippians 1:6).
Finally, brother, we want to remind you that your hope is not in your wife’s response or in your circumstances changing, but in Christ alone. He is the one who sustains you, who fights for you, and who will never leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6). Cling to Him, and trust that He is working all things together for your good and His glory (Romans 8:28).
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our brother, lifting up his family and his heart’s cries to You. Lord, we ask that You pour out Your Spirit of wisdom and revelation upon his household—both near and far. Awaken in each of them a hunger for Your Word, that they may grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Protect them, Lord, and station Your angels around them. Be their shield and their strong tower, their ever-present help in trouble.
Father, we bring before You the marriage of our brother. Lord, You hate divorce (Malachi 2:16), and we ask that You would heal and restore what is broken. Soften his wife’s heart, Lord. If there is any hardness, ignorance, or rebellion in her, we pray that Your Spirit would convict her and draw her to repentance. Give our brother the grace to love her as Christ loves the Church—to lead her with humility, to serve her with joy, and to cover her in prayer. Remove any bitterness or resentment from his heart, and fill him with Your love, which bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things (1 Corinthians 13:7).
Lord, we ask that You would make our brother a godly example to his son. Help him to parent with patience, wisdom, and love, pointing his child to You in all things. Strengthen their bond, Father, and let their home be a place where Your peace reigns.
We pray for provision, Lord—both spiritually and physically. Bless the work of our brother’s hands and open doors for employment or service that aligns with Your will. Give him discernment in stewarding all You’ve entrusted to him, that he may honor You in his finances, his health, and his time.
Father, we thank You that You are faithful. We thank You that You hear our prayers and that You are working even now. We trust in Your timing and Your ways, knowing that they are perfect. Strengthen our brother’s faith, Lord, and let him see Your hand moving in his life and home.
We pray all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone is worthy of all praise and glory. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
