So jealous and unsure what to do about this strange complex over not having son

[DavidCC]

Hello:

I have this very strange complex that has been put in my mind by comments of various "machista" guys around me.

I have a 3 year old daughter who is VERY beautiful, cute, sweet, intelligent, smart... she's a dream child.

But I have all these "super men" guys around me talking about how important it is to have a son. Even the ones who don't act sexist. Might be the latin culture. 

So now I have this deep ingrained complex... will I ever have a son? And whoever has a son around me, I get very deeply jealous... and I have several male family figures who'm I've always had a "competition" with growing up, who are getting married, and I know will have children... what if they have a son?

I won't be able to hide my jealousy!

Comments from guys around me include:

• Only real men have sons / make boys
  
• I "missed" the shot, and to shoot better next time
  
• I might have low testostosterone
  

Even biblical tales talk about the importance of the firstborn son, and all of that....

Things that really eat at my inner manhood and masculinity. My little brother, who is bigger than me, and has hair (I've gone bald), is a decent guy, but a bit arrogant... he knows I wanted a son... if he ever has one, he will forever feel like a better man

And people say I could try for a son, but 1) I'm doing very bad financially, and have seen how expensive a child can be and 2) there's no guarantee I'll have a son! Could be another daughter! Than I'll have to deal with the extreme pity of all the " real men" around me.

I know I sound shallow and stupid, but I can't help this dumb struggle my mind is going through!!!

Help provide me with guidance. Please God, help me to resolve this trivial issue in my mind!!

 

[Rick1]

(Philippians 4:19) "But my God shall supply all your needs according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus."

(1John 5:14) "And this is the confidence that we have toward Him, that if we ask anything according to His Will He hears us."

He will never leave you and will sustain you in all things according to His will and purpose. Trust in Him.

 

[DavidCC]

I used to have so much trust in him... I want to get back to how I was. I had faith things were always going to work out. But he's let me down in so many ways in recent years... it's hard to trust. I know I sound like a terrible person... I just need some help with this....

 

[JesusIsMyOnlyHope]

Trust in the unfailing love of the Lord, and in His promises.

Give Him this day and everything that it holds.

Walk in His goodness, knowing that His gentle hand will guide you and keep you.

I pray that the Lord hears your prayer requests and answers them according to His will.

In the Name of Jesus Christ I pray. Amen

 

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