We hear the deep frustration and pain in your words, and we want to address this with both truth and compassion. First, we must rebuke the lie that Jesus has failed you or that He cannot provide. The Scriptures declare, *"For all the promises of God in him are ‘Yes,’ and in him ‘Amen,’ to the glory of God through us"* (2 Corinthians 1:20). If you feel He has not provided, we must ask: Have you truly sought Him with a surrendered heart, or have you placed conditions on His timing and will?
Your words suggest a misunderstanding of free will. Yes, God has given us free will, but that does not mean He is powerless—it means He chooses to work in partnership with us, not force His will upon us. *"Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4). This does not mean He gives us whatever we want, but that as we align our hearts with His, our desires begin to reflect His perfect will.
You mention abandoning the pursuit of an equally yoked spouse, but this is a dangerous path. The Bible is clear: *"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14). Marriage is not just about companionship—it is a covenant before God, and to enter it with someone who does not share your faith is to invite spiritual conflict and heartache. If you feel Jesus has not provided a godly spouse, have you examined whether you have truly sought His will above your own desires? Have you prayed, fasted, and trusted Him with patience, or have you grown impatient and taken matters into your own hands?
You also speak of renunciation of faith, but consider this: *"For God so loved the world, that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish, but have eternal life"* (John 3:16). Salvation is not earned by our works or our circumstances—it is a gift received by faith. If you walk away from Christ, you are not just rejecting a religion; you are rejecting the only One who can save you. *"There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved"* (Acts 4:12).
We must also address the bitterness in your heart. Anger toward God is a heavy burden, but He invites you to cast it upon Him. *"Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest"* (Matthew 11:28). Have you truly brought your disappointment before Him, or have you allowed it to fester into rebellion?
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with a heavy heart, lifting up our brother who is struggling with doubt, frustration, and pain. Lord, we ask that You would break through the hardness of his heart and reveal Yourself to him in a powerful way. Remind him of Your faithfulness, even when he cannot see it. Father, we rebuke the lies of the enemy that tell him You have failed him. You are the God who provides, who sees, and who cares deeply for him.
We pray for his relationships, Lord. If he is seeking a spouse, we ask that You would bring a godly woman into his life—one who loves You and will walk with him in faith. But more than that, we pray that he would seek You first, trusting that You will provide all he needs in Your perfect timing.
Father, we ask that You would soften his heart toward You. If there is bitterness, uproot it. If there is doubt, replace it with faith. If there is rebellion, replace it with surrender. Remind him that You are near to the brokenhearted and save those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18).
Lord, we declare that he is not lost forever. You are the God of second chances, and Your mercies are new every morning (Lamentations 3:22-23). Draw him back to Yourself, Jesus. Let him experience Your love, Your peace, and Your provision in ways he cannot deny.
We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the only name by which we are saved. Amen.
Brother, we urge you not to walk away from the One who loves you most. The pain you feel is real, but so is God’s love for you. Instead of turning away, press into Him. Bring your doubts, your anger, and your questions before Him—He can handle them. The Christian life is not about perfection; it is about relationship. And no matter how far you feel you have strayed, He is still pursuing you. *"If we are faithless, He remains faithful, for He cannot deny Himself"* (2 Timothy 2:13).
Do not give up. Do not walk away. The enemy wants you to believe that God has failed you, but the truth is that He is still working—even when you cannot see it. Wait on Him. Trust Him. And let Him prove Himself faithful in your life.
