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i have been struggling with lust ever since i experienced sexual abuse throughout my younger childhood and pre-teen days. every-time i commit sin, it takes me further away from God. i pray for freedom from the chains of lust and a repaired relationship with God that is more intentional and trustworthy. God has always come through for me and i know that with prayer He will come through for me again, but i am struggling to pray and need support. much love, God bless.
 
We hear your cry for help and want you to know that your honesty and vulnerability before the Lord are already a powerful step toward healing. The pain of sexual abuse is deep, and the enemy often twists that pain into chains of lust, shame, and isolation. But we declare over you right now: you are not defined by your past, nor are you bound to its lies. The blood of Jesus was shed to break every chain, including the ones that feel unshakable. "He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and release to the prisoners" (Isaiah 61:1 WEB). This is your promise.

First, we must address the sin of lust, not to condemn you, but to call it what it is so that the cross of Christ can do its full work. Lust is a counterfeit of love, a distortion that seeks to fill a void only God can satisfy. The enemy wants you to believe that this struggle is too shameful to bring into the light, but Scripture says, "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9 WEB). You are not alone in this battle. Even the apostle Paul cried out, "For the good which I desire, I don’t do; but the evil which I don’t desire, this I practice" (Romans 7:19 WEB). But he also declared victory: "There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus" (Romans 8:1 WEB). The same power that raised Jesus from the dead lives in you, and it is greater than any temptation.

Your abuse was not your fault, and we grieve with you for the ways it has wounded your soul. But we rebuke the lie that you are "damaged goods" or that your worth is tied to these struggles. God sees you as His beloved child, and He longs to restore what was stolen. "The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit" (Psalm 34:18 WEB). He is not distant or disappointed in you, He is fighting for you, even when you can’t feel it.

We also want to gently remind you that your relationship with God is not earned by your performance or your ability to pray "perfectly." The fact that you are reaching out right now proves that His Spirit is already at work in you. "Likewise the Spirit also helps in our weaknesses. For we don’t know how to pray as we ought. But the Spirit himself makes intercession for us with groanings which can’t be uttered" (Romans 8:26 WEB). You don’t have to have it all together to come to Him. In fact, He invites you to come as you are, broken, weary, and in need of His grace.

Let us pray with you now:

Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our brother, lifting up his pain, his struggle, and his heart’s cry for freedom. Lord, You see the wounds of his past and the chains that have bound him. We ask that You would break every stronghold of lust, shame, and fear in his life. Pour out Your healing balm on the places that were violated, and replace every lie with Your truth. Remind him that he is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), that he is washed clean by the blood of Jesus (1 John 1:7), and that no weapon formed against him will prosper (Isaiah 54:17).

Holy Spirit, we ask that You would fill him with a fresh hunger for Your Word and a deeper intimacy with You. Teach him to take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ (2 Corinthians 10:5) and to flee from temptation (1 Corinthians 6:18). Surround him with godly men who can walk alongside him in accountability and prayer. Strengthen his prayer life, Lord, and help him to trust that You are working even when he can’t see it.

Jesus, we thank You that You are our Great High Priest who sympathizes with our weaknesses (Hebrews 4:15). You were tempted in every way, yet without sin, so that we could run to You for mercy and grace in our time of need. We declare that our brother is not a slave to sin but a son of God, set free by Your sacrifice. May he walk in that freedom daily, knowing that You are making all things new (Revelation 21:5).

We rebuke every spirit of lust, shame, and condemnation in Jesus’ name. We declare that the enemy has no hold on him, for he belongs to You. Fill him with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7) and with the assurance that nothing can separate him from Your love (Romans 8:38-39).

Lord, we ask that You would restore his relationship with You to be even stronger than before. Help him to trust You with his whole heart and to lean not on his own understanding (Proverbs 3:5). May he find his identity in You alone, and may his life bring glory to Your name. In Jesus’ mighty name we pray, Amen.

Now, dear brother, here are some practical steps to help you walk in freedom:

1. Accountability: Find a trusted, godly man (or a group of men) with whom you can be honest about this struggle. James 5:16 says, "Confess your offenses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed." You were not meant to fight this battle alone.

2. Flee Temptation: If there are specific triggers (websites, social media, certain environments), take radical steps to remove them from your life. Jesus said, "If your right eye causes you to stumble, pluck it out and throw it away from you" (Matthew 5:29 WEB). This doesn’t mean literal self-harm, but it does mean taking drastic action to protect your heart.

3. Renew Your Mind: Fill your mind with Scripture that speaks truth over your struggle. Memorize verses like:
- "No temptation has taken you except what is common to man. God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted above what you are able, but will with the temptation also make the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it" (1 Corinthians 10:13 WEB).
- "Create in me a clean heart, O God. Renew a right spirit within me" (Psalm 51:10 WEB).
- "But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, for its lusts" (Romans 13:14 WEB).

4. Prayer and Fasting: Consider setting aside time to fast and pray specifically for freedom from this struggle. Fasting is a way to humble yourself before God and seek His face with intensity (Joel 2:12).

5. Counseling: If the wounds of abuse are still deeply affecting you, we strongly encourage you to seek biblical counseling. A godly counselor can help you process the trauma in a way that brings healing, not just coping. "The Spirit of the Lord is on me, because he has anointed me to preach good news to the poor. He has sent me to heal the brokenhearted, to proclaim release to the captives, recovering of sight to the blind, to deliver those who are crushed" (Luke 4:18 WEB).

6. Worship and Gratitude: When you feel tempted, shift your focus to worship. Play worship music, sing praises to God, or write down things you’re grateful for. This redirects your heart toward God and away from the lies of the enemy.

Remember, this is a battle, but it is not one you have to fight alone. God is with you, and He is for you. "The Lord will fight for you. You need only to be still" (Exodus 14:14 WEB). Every time you choose to turn away from lust and toward God, you are taking back ground the enemy has stolen. Victory is not the absence of struggle, but the presence of God in the midst of it.

We are standing with you in prayer, believing that God is doing a mighty work in your life. Keep pressing into Him, even when it’s hard. His grace is sufficient for you, and His power is made perfect in your weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9). You are loved, you are valued, and you are called to walk in freedom. May the Lord bless you and keep you; may He make His face shine on you and be gracious to you; may He lift up His countenance on you and give you peace (Numbers 6:24-26). In Jesus’ name, Amen.
 
We hear how heavy this is, the abuse you never should have endured, and the way it still presses into your life now as patterns you desperately want to leave behind. That kind of pain doesn't just wound the body; it teaches lies about who you are and what love looks like. When lust shows up, it can feel like the abuse still has a voice. But it doesn't get to define you, and it doesn't get the last word on your relationship with God.

You're not alone in feeling that prayer has become hard. Trauma often freezes parts of us, making intimacy, even with God, feel confusing or unsafe. The fact that you're still reaching out, even weakly, says so much about the faith that's still alive in you. God isn't standing at a distance, tapping His foot. He's near, and He knows the difference between the wound and the wound-driven response.

One grounded, practical step that often helps: find a Christian counselor or a support group specifically for sexual abuse survivors. Healing from childhood trauma isn't just a matter of willpower against lust, it's about slowly unlearning the shame and distorted beliefs that abuse planted. You don't have to sort this out alone, and leaning on wise, trained people can make prayer feel possible again.

We're so glad you're here and that you asked for prayer.

Jesus, we bring our friend before You right now. You see the little child they were and the pain that still echoes today. Break the chains of lust off their life, not by shame, but by Your deep, healing love. Quiet the lies that say they're far from You. Help them find safe people to walk with them, and restore a sense of Your trustworthy presence. In Jesus' name, amen.
 
May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.


🙏Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so
. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

Heal Me Lord Jesus Spirit, Soul, And Body

 
You have declared your ways, and the Lord has heard the groaning of a troubled heart. The evil that was done to you in your childhood was a deep wound, and the enemy of souls delights to keep such wounds festering, but the Great Physician stands ready to bind up the broken-hearted and to set the captive free. Yet you must deal honestly with God in the matter of your present lust. God is light, and in him is no darkness at all; he cannot hold fellowship with iniquity. Dissembling will only increase your misery. Come to God as you actually are, and ask him to deal with you, in Christ Jesus, according to your real condition. Confess that you have no power of yourself to break these chains, and that every relapse takes you further from him. But know this: if you confess your sins, he is faithful and just to forgive you your sins and to cleanse you from all unrighteousness. He will not deal with you according to your deservings, but according to his own merciful nature, because he has pledged his faithfulness in the covenant of grace. The blood of Jesus Christ, God’s Son, cleanses from all sin, even the sin that seems to spring from the mire of a polluted past.

You say you are struggling to pray, and that is a sore trial. Yet a prayer that has no sense in it, a prayer that reels to and fro because the suppliant is at his wit’s end, such a prayer God will hear. The Lord’s ear is not deaf to the bleating of a lamb that has been torn by the wolf. Call upon him in the day of trouble, even if your cry is but a stammering whisper. And let that cry be mingled with thanksgiving. How can you thank him in such a plight? Thank him that you are still upon praying ground, that you are not cast into hell, that you have a Mediator at the right hand of the Majesty on high. Thanksgiving silvered over the pinions of prayer gives them strength to mount. Has the Lord not come through for you before? Remember his past deliverances and let that memory sweeten your present plea. The God who has delivered will deliver yet again; he is the same yesterday, today, and forever.

Above all, fix your gaze upon Jesus Christ, the Word of God sent for the healing of sin-sick souls. He lived for sinners, he died for sinners, he rose again for sinners. In him, God is with us, not against us, but with us. If God is for you, who can be against you? He has justified you if you are in Christ, and the righteousness of Christ wraps you about so that the accusations of the law are silenced. Is not this a grand truth to lay hold of? When the temptation surges, hide yourself in the clefts of the Rock. Tell the tempter that you are dead to sin and alive unto God through Jesus Christ our Lord. You have no power of your own, but you have power with God through prayer and simple faith. A man who has power with God has power over the lusts that war against the soul.

Now, take heed how you hear the Word. When the Scriptures are opened, listen for yourself. Do not let the sermon pass by like a pleasant song; receive it as a personal message from the Lord. God has appended the blessing of faith to hearing, and the blessing of salvation to faith. Therefore, give a large measure of earnest attention, that he may give a large measure back to you. Let the truths of the gospel wash over your soul until you feel the conscious calm, the divine serenity that is the peace of God. That peace is not the product of prayer alone, but of prayer with thanksgiving.

The way back to intentional and trustworthy fellowship is the way of continual return to the cross. You are not called to repair your own relationship, Christ has already made peace by the blood of his cross. Your part is to abide in him, to declare your ways before him daily, and to let his statutes be your delight. The Holy Spirit is the Spirit of holiness, and as you yield to him rather than to the flesh, the chains of lust will fall. They may not fall in a single moment, but the warfare will be won inch by inch, for he who is in you is greater than he that is in the world. Remember, a true child of God loves a chastening God, and the very pain of your struggle is a sign of the life within. The ungodly care nothing for purity, but your grief over sin is the work of the Comforter. Take courage, then. The best of all is God with us, and since God is with you, be you with God. Let not the shame of the past or the feebleness of the present keep you from the throne of grace. The Man of Sorrows is touched with the feeling of your infirmities; he was tempted in all points like as we are, yet without sin. In him you have a High Priest who can have compassion on the ignorant and on those who are out of the way. Venture everything upon his finished work, and you shall prove that where sin abounded, grace does much more abound.
 
Do not let the memory of past afflictions become an excuse for present sloth. The sins committed against you in childhood were grievous indeed, and God shall judge those who harmed you. But the lust that now wars within your members is a fire you must yourself fight to quench, lest it consume you. You cry out that every fall takes you further from God; such pain is itself a mercy, for the hard-hearted sinner feels no distance at all. Recognize that your very grief is the Spirit entreating you not to receive the grace of God in vain. He has already brought you through so much; will you now let the enemy claim the victory by keeping you from the one weapon that routs every tempest? You say you struggle to pray. That is precisely the hour to pray with violence. The blind men on the roadside did not wait for eloquent words; they cried out all the more, "Lord, have mercy," until Jesus stopped. Do likewise. Throw yourself down, groan, weep, and if no words come, let your silence be a cry. The tongue is the hand that grasps God's knees; do not defile it with despair, but stretch it out even in weakness.

You must understand that your healing rests not on past abuse being undone, but on your present conversion and purification. The harlots entered the Kingdom not because they remained harlots, but because they believed, repented, and were washed clean. So it is with you. Christ's blood is mightier than your wounds and your lusts together. Do not merely lament the sin; hate it, cut it off, and run to confession, both to God and, where possible, to any you have wronged. Alms, fasting, and earnest prayer are the medicines for the soul. And if you cannot pray alone, cling to the prayers of the Church, but know that you must also rouse yourself. Paul needed the prayers of the saints, and so do you. But do not sleep expecting others to win the battle for you. The Lord often withdrew to solitary places to pray; seek out your own garden where you can be alone with Him, even if for five minutes before the day's storm. Morning prayer is a fortress; rush to it before the market-place temptations arise.

The Kingdom requires your cooperation. God is not in need, but your salvation passes over to you if you will lay hold of it. He who said, "At an acceptable time I heard you," has not grown deaf. His ear is bent toward the broken; only cease excusing the sin and begin waging war with a firm hope. Trust that He who brought you out of that childhood darkness will perfect His work, if you do not grow weary and if you keep crying out for mercy with whatever strength you have, however small.
 

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