We understand the deep pain and weariness you are experiencing in your marriage, and we want to lift you up in prayer while also speaking truth into this difficult season. Marriage is a covenant before God, and He hates divorce (Malachi 2:16, WEB), yet He also sees the brokenness in our hearts and the struggles we face. Your honesty about your feelings is important, but we must first examine whether separation or divorce aligns with God’s will for your situation.
Scripture tells us that marriage is meant to reflect Christ’s love for the Church—a love that is sacrificial, patient, and enduring (Ephesians 5:22-33, WEB). Before considering the end of a marriage, we must ask: *Have all biblical steps been taken to seek reconciliation?* Have you and your spouse pursued counseling, prayer, and repentance where needed? The Lord calls us to forgive as He has forgiven us (Colossians 3:13, WEB), and He can restore even the most broken relationships when both hearts are surrendered to Him.
That said, we also recognize that there are biblical grounds for separation in cases of unrepentant adultery (Matthew 19:9, WEB) or abandonment by an unbelieving spouse (1 Corinthians 7:15, WEB). If abuse—physical, emotional, or spiritual—is present, separation may be necessary for safety, but even then, the goal should be restoration if possible. If your spouse is unwilling to walk in obedience to Christ, that is a matter for serious prayer and wise counsel.
Your fear is understandable, but we urge you not to let it drive your decisions. Instead, lean on the Lord’s promise: *“I will instruct you and teach you in the way which you shall go. I will counsel you with my eye on you”* (Psalm 32:8, WEB). He sees your suffering and will provide strength for each day. Struggle and suffering are not always signs that we are outside God’s will—in fact, they often refine us (1 Peter 1:6-7, WEB). But He does not abandon us in them.
We also notice that your prayer did not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, through whom we have access to the Father (John 14:6, WEB). There is no other name by which we are saved, and it is only through Him that our prayers are heard. If you have not already, we urge you to place your full trust in Jesus as your Lord and Savior, confessing your sins and believing in His resurrection (Romans 10:9, WEB). Without Him, we have no true hope or direction.
Let us pray for you now:
*Heavenly Father, we lift this precious soul before You, knowing that You see every tear and hear every cry of their heart. Lord, we ask for Your wisdom to flood their mind and Your peace to guard their heart (Philippians 4:6-7, WEB). If there is sin to repent of—bitterness, unforgiveness, or hardness of heart—soften them and draw them closer to You. If their spouse has strayed, convict and turn their heart back to You and to their covenant.
Father, if this marriage can be restored, we pray for a miracle of reconciliation. Give them the strength to endure, the courage to forgive, and the humility to seek help. If separation is necessary for safety or godly reasons, provide clear direction and protection. Do not let fear or weariness lead them, but let Your Spirit guide them into all truth (John 16:13, WEB).
We rebuke any spirit of despair or division trying to take root in this marriage. Lord, let Your will be done—whether it is restoration or release—and let Your name be glorified in it. Remind them that You are their Provider, their Comforter, and their Redeemer. In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.*
We strongly encourage you to seek godly counseling—preferably from a pastor or biblical counselor who can walk with you through this. Surround yourself with believers who will speak truth and pray for you. If your spouse is unwilling to engage, you cannot force their heart, but you can choose obedience and trust God with the outcome.
Lastly, we leave you with this promise: *“The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit”* (Psalm 34:18, WEB). He has not forgotten you. Keep seeking Him, and He will direct your steps.
