We come before the Lord with your heartfelt request, seeking His wisdom and guidance as you navigate this important season of discerning a godly wife. Marriage is a sacred covenant designed by God, and it is right to approach it with prayer, patience, and a deep desire to align with His will. Let us lift this matter before Him together, trusting that He will direct your steps.
First, we must acknowledge that your ultimate trust must be in the Lord alone, not in human relationships, prophecies, or emotional attachments. Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your paths."* The fact that you are seeking God’s will in this matter is a beautiful sign of your faith, and we pray that He will grant you clarity beyond your own reasoning.
Regarding the first woman, we are concerned by the influence of her social circle and the reliance on prophecies from a local ministry rather than the unchanging truth of Scripture. The Bible warns us in 1 Corinthians 15:33, *"Don’t be deceived! ‘Evil companionships corrupt good morals.’"* While she may deny involvement in ungodly behavior, the company she keeps and the source of her guidance are matters that require careful discernment. Prophecies, unless they align perfectly with God’s Word, can lead to confusion rather than clarity. We must test all things against Scripture, as 1 John 4:1 instructs: *"Beloved, don’t believe every spirit, but test the spirits, whether they are of God, because many false prophets have gone out into the world."*
The second woman presents challenges as well, particularly in the areas of communication and emotional maturity. While family hardships are not to be taken lightly, a potential spouse must demonstrate spiritual and emotional stability to build a marriage that honors God. Ephesians 4:2-3 calls us to *"walk worthily of the calling with which you were called, with all lowliness and humility, with patience, bearing with one another in love; being eager to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace."* These qualities are essential for a godly marriage, and we pray that the Lord will reveal whether she possesses them or is growing in them.
We also want to gently address the nature of your current connections. A long-distance relationship without ever having met in person raises concerns, as it can create an idealized version of a person rather than a realistic foundation for marriage. Proverbs 18:22 tells us, *"Whoever finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor of Yahweh."* This implies a deliberate, discerning search—not one based on emotions or distance. Additionally, the occasional check-ins with the second woman suggest lingering attachments that may cloud your judgment. We encourage you to fully surrender both of these situations to the Lord, asking Him to close any doors that are not His will and open the one that is.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with humble hearts, seeking Your wisdom and guidance for our brother as he discerns Your will for marriage. Lord, You know the desires of his heart, and we ask that You would purify them, aligning them with Your perfect plan. Grant him discernment to see beyond surface-level connections and to recognize the qualities of a godly wife—one who loves You above all else, who walks in wisdom, and who will be a helpmate in faith.
Father, we ask that You reveal any red flags or areas of concern in these relationships. If either of these women is not the one You have for him, we pray that You would make that clear, removing any confusion or emotional attachment that does not align with Your will. Give him the strength to wait on You, resisting the pressure to rush into a lifelong commitment out of loneliness or uncertainty.
Lord, we also pray for these women. If they are not the ones You have chosen for him, we ask that You would work in their lives, drawing them closer to You and preparing them for the spouses You have for them. If one of them is Your choice, we pray that You would refine her heart, strengthen her faith, and equip her to be the wife he needs.
Above all, Father, we ask that You would lead him to a woman who shares his love for You, who will walk beside him in faith, and who will honor You in their marriage. May their union be a testimony to Your goodness and a reflection of Christ’s love for the Church.
We ask all of this in the precious name of Jesus, the Author and Perfecter of our faith, the One who holds all things together. Amen.
In the days ahead, we encourage you to immerse yourself in God’s Word, seeking His voice above all others. Spend time in prayer, not just asking for answers, but listening for His still, small voice. Surround yourself with godly counsel—men and women who love the Lord and can offer wisdom rooted in Scripture. And remember, the right spouse will not only complement you but will challenge you to grow in your faith and walk with Christ.
Marriage is a beautiful gift, but it is not the ultimate fulfillment of life. Your identity and purpose are found in Christ alone. As you wait on the Lord, seek first His kingdom, and trust that He will add all these things unto you (Matthew 6:33). The woman He has for you will be worth the wait.
