We join you in lifting up your marriage before the Lord, standing in agreement that He is the God of restoration, healing, and miracles. Your heart’s cry for reconciliation, love, and forgiveness is one that aligns with His will, for He hates divorce and desires marriages to reflect His covenant love and faithfulness. Scripture tells us in Malachi 2:16, *"For I hate divorce," says Yahweh, the God of Israel, "and him who covers his garment with violence!" Therefore watch yourselves carefully, and don’t be unfaithful.* Your marriage is worth fighting for, and we commend you for seeking God’s intervention rather than giving up.
The pain you’re experiencing is real, and we acknowledge how deeply this trial is affecting you. But take heart, for the Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). He sees your tears, hears your prayers, and is able to do far more than you could ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20). This season of struggle can become a testimony of God’s redemption if both of you surrender to His work in your hearts.
First, we encourage you to examine your own heart before the Lord. Have you fully surrendered your pain, bitterness, or any resentment to Him? Forgiveness is not optional for the believer—it is a command and a pathway to freedom. Jesus said in Mark 11:25, *"Whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone; so that your Father, who is in heaven, may also forgive you your transgressions."* Forgiveness doesn’t mean what happened was okay; it means you release the offense to God and trust Him to bring justice and healing. Ask the Lord to help you forgive your husband completely, just as Christ has forgiven you.
We also urge you to pray for your husband’s heart to be softened. The enemy seeks to destroy marriages, but God desires to restore them. Pray that the Holy Spirit would convict him of any sin, hardness of heart, or ungodly influences in his life. Ask God to remove any barriers—spiritual, emotional, or relational—that are hindering your reconciliation. Remember, *"The king’s heart is in Yahweh’s hand like the water courses. He turns it wherever he desires"* (Proverbs 21:1). Your husband’s heart is not beyond God’s reach.
At the same time, we must address the reality that restoration requires *both* of you to be willing to submit to God’s work. You cannot force your husband to change or to love you again, but you can trust God to move in his heart. Your role is to focus on being the wife God has called you to be—full of grace, respect, and godly love, as described in 1 Peter 3:1-2: *"In the same way, wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; so that, even if any don’t obey the Word, they may be gained by the behavior of their wives without a word; seeing your pure behavior in fear."* This doesn’t mean tolerating abuse or sin, but it does mean reflecting Christ in your attitudes and actions.
If there has been infidelity, emotional distance, or any form of betrayal, we strongly encourage you to seek biblical counseling—either together or individually. A godly counselor can help you both navigate the roots of your struggles and provide tools for rebuilding trust. Hebrews 12:15 warns, *"Looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and many be defiled by it."* Bitterness will only poison your heart and hinder restoration. Guard against it by continually releasing your pain to the Lord.
We also want to remind you that love is not just a feeling—it is a *choice* and a commitment. The kind of love that sustains marriage is the *agape* love described in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7: *"Love is patient and is kind; love doesn’t envy. Love doesn’t brag, is not proud, doesn’t behave itself inappropriately, doesn’t seek its own way, is not provoked, takes no account of evil; doesn’t rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things."* Ask God to fill you with this kind of love for your husband, even when your emotions don’t align.
Finally, we want to speak life over your marriage. The Lord is able to restore what has been broken. Joel 2:25 declares, *"I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten."* What the enemy has stolen, God can redeem. He can turn your mourning into dancing and your sorrow into joy (Psalm 30:11). But this requires *both* of you to humble yourselves, repent of any sin, and seek Him wholeheartedly.
Now, let us pray together for you and your husband:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this precious sister and her marriage. Lord, You are the God who heals, restores, and redeems. We ask that You would move powerfully in this situation, bringing reconciliation where there has been division, love where there has been coldness, and trust where there has been brokenness.
Father, we pray for this wife’s heart—comfort her in her pain and fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Guard her mind from despair and her heart from bitterness. Help her to forgive as You have forgiven her, and give her the strength to love her husband with Your supernatural love. Remind her that her worth is found in You, not in her circumstances.
Lord, we pray for her husband. Soften his heart, Lord. Convict him of any sin, pride, or hardness that is keeping him from You and from his wife. Draw him to Yourself, Father, and let him encounter Your love in a way that transforms him. Break any strongholds of the enemy in his life—whether it be lust, distraction, unforgiveness, or worldly influences. Restore his love for his wife and his commitment to this marriage.
Father, we rebuke the spirit of division and destruction that seeks to tear this marriage apart. We declare that no weapon formed against this union shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Let Your healing power flow through every wound, every misunderstanding, and every broken place. Restore their friendship, their intimacy, and their unity in You.
We ask for divine appointments—godly counselors, mentors, or friends who can speak truth and wisdom into their lives. Surround them with a community that will uphold them in prayer and accountability.
Lord, we believe that You are able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think. We trust You with this marriage, and we declare that You will receive all the glory as You restore what has been broken. Let this testimony bring honor to Your name.
In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
Sister, we want to encourage you to keep praying, keep trusting, and keep seeking the Lord. This battle is not yours to fight alone—God is fighting for you. Stand firm in faith, and do not lose heart. *"Let’s not grow weary in doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we don’t give up"* (Galatians 6:9). We are standing with you in prayer, believing for a miracle in your marriage. Keep your eyes on Jesus, and trust that He is working even when you cannot see it. May the Lord strengthen you and fill you with His hope as you wait on Him.