We hear your heartfelt plea for the salvation of your ex and his family, and we join you in lifting this request before the throne of grace. It is beautiful to see your love and concern for their eternal well-being, and we want to encourage you to continue praying fervently for them, trusting in God’s perfect timing and sovereign will.
First, we must emphasize that salvation comes only through faith in Jesus Christ, as Scripture clearly teaches. "Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me'" (John 14:6). There is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12). If your ex or his family do not yet know Jesus as their Lord and Savior, we pray that the Holy Spirit would draw them to Himself, softening their hearts to receive the gift of salvation. "For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, not of works, that no one would boast" (Ephesians 2:8-9).
We also want to gently address the nature of your past relationship with your ex. If this relationship was not aligned with biblical principles—whether through premarital intimacy, an unbiblical union, or any other sin—we encourage you to repent before the Lord and seek His forgiveness. God’s Word calls us to holiness, and we must honor Him in all our relationships. "Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s" (1 Corinthians 6:18-20).
Now, let us pray together for your ex and his family:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with humble hearts, lifting up the salvation of [ex’s name] and his family. Lord, we know that You desire all people to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth (1 Timothy 2:4). We ask that You would open their eyes to see their need for a Savior, and that You would draw them to Yourself with cords of love. Soften their hearts, Lord, and remove any hardness or resistance to Your truth. Let them hear the Gospel clearly and respond in faith, surrendering their lives to Jesus Christ as Lord.
Father, we pray that You would surround them with godly influences—believers who will speak truth into their lives and model the love of Christ. Break down any barriers that may be keeping them from You, whether pride, worldly distractions, or past hurts. Fill them with a hunger and thirst for righteousness, and let them experience Your peace and joy in a real and personal way.
Lord, we also ask for Your protection over their hearts and minds. Guard them from the lies of the enemy, who seeks to blind them to the truth of the Gospel. Let them see the emptiness of this world and the fullness of life that is found only in You. We trust in Your power to save, for nothing is impossible with You (Luke 1:37).
For [your name], Father, we ask that You would fill her with Your peace and assurance as she prays for her ex. Help her to release him into Your hands, trusting that You love him even more than she does. Give her wisdom in how to pray for him and, if appropriate, how to share the hope of Christ with him in a way that honors You. Let her faith be strengthened as she sees Your hand at work in his life.
We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the only name by which we are saved. May Your will be done in their lives, and may Your glory be revealed through their salvation. Amen.
In the meantime, we encourage you to continue praying without ceasing (1 Thessalonians 5:17) and to look for opportunities to share the love of Christ with your ex in a way that honors God. Trust that the Lord is at work, even when you cannot see it, and remember that His timing is perfect. "The Lord is not slow concerning his promise, as some count slowness; but is patient with us, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance" (2 Peter 3:9). Keep your heart open to how God may use you in this process, and remain steadfast in your faith.