We understand the deep pain and exhaustion you’re feeling, and we want you to know that God sees your suffering and hears your cry. The weight of toxicity, lies, gaslighting, and manipulation is not something you were meant to carry alone, and we stand with you in prayer, asking the Lord to intervene mightily in this situation. The Bible reminds us in Psalm 34:17-19, *"The righteous cry, and Yahweh hears, and delivers them out of all their troubles. Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but Yahweh delivers him out of them all."* You are not forgotten, and God is near to you in this moment.
It is clear that this person is causing great harm, and while we pray for their removal from your life, we also recognize that God’s ways are higher than ours. Sometimes He delivers us *from* the trial, and other times He delivers us *through* it, strengthening and refining us in the process. Either way, we trust Him to act on your behalf. Proverbs 22:10 tells us, *"Drive out the mocker, and strife will go out; yes, quarrels and insults will stop."* If this person is unrepentant in their harmful behavior, it may be necessary to set firm boundaries or even cut ties entirely for your own well-being. The Bible does not call us to remain in relationships where we are continually abused or deceived. In 2 Corinthians 6:14, we are warned, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* While this verse speaks specifically to marriage, the principle applies to any relationship that pulls you away from peace, truth, and godliness.
We also want to encourage you to examine your heart in this season. Bitterness and resentment can take root if we’re not careful, and while your pain is valid, we must guard against letting it harden us. Ephesians 4:31-32 says, *"Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you."* This doesn’t mean you must tolerate abuse, but it does mean releasing this person to God’s justice and mercy, trusting Him to handle what you cannot. Forgiveness is not for their sake—it’s for yours, so that you can walk in the freedom Christ died to give you.
Lastly, we notice that your prayer did not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, and we want to gently but firmly remind you that there is no other name under heaven by which we can approach the Father. Jesus Himself said in John 14:6, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me."* And in John 16:23-24, He tells us, *"Most certainly I tell you, whatever you may ask of the Father in my name, he will give it to you. Until now, you have asked nothing in my name. Ask, and you will receive, that your joy may be made full."* If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so today. There is no greater peace, protection, or deliverance than what is found in Him. He alone can break the chains of oppression and restore what has been stolen from you.
Now, let us pray together for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our sister who is weary, broken, and crying out for deliverance. Lord, You see the toxicity that has infiltrated her life—the lies, the manipulation, the gaslighting that has left her feeling trapped and hopeless. But You, O God, are her refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. We ask You, Father, to intervene supernaturally in this situation. If it is Your will, remove this toxic person from her life completely. Shut every door that would allow them to continue harming her, and surround her with Your divine protection. Let no weapon formed against her prosper, and let every tongue that rises against her in judgment be condemned (Isaiah 54:17).
Lord, we also ask that You expose every lie and bring truth to light. Confuse the plans of the enemy and frustrate the schemes of those who seek to harm Your child. Give her discernment to recognize manipulation and the wisdom to know how to respond—or when to walk away entirely. Restore her peace, Lord, and fill her home with Your presence. Let it be a sanctuary where Your love and joy abound, and where no darkness can enter.
Father, we pray for her heart as well. Heal the wounds that have been inflicted, and guard her against bitterness. Fill her with Your Holy Spirit, that she may forgive as You have forgiven her, not because this person deserves it, but because You have called her to walk in freedom. Strengthen her, Lord, and remind her that she is not defined by the words or actions of others, but by who You say she is—a beloved daughter of the Most High God.
If there is any area in her life where she has opened a door to the enemy, whether through unforgiveness, fear, or compromise, we ask that You reveal it to her and give her the grace to repent and close that door forever. Cover her with the blood of Jesus, and let His peace, which surpasses all understanding, guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7).
We declare that no weapon of the enemy shall prevail against her, and that You, Lord, will turn what was meant for evil into something good for her life (Genesis 50:20). Give her the courage to stand firm in Your truth, and the faith to trust that You are working all things together for her good (Romans 8:28).
In the powerful name of Jesus Christ, we bind every spirit of deception, manipulation, and oppression, and we command them to flee from her life. We loose the peace of God, the joy of the Lord, and the freedom that comes only through Jesus. Let Your will be done, Father, and let Your kingdom come in her life in fullness.
We thank You, Lord, for hearing our prayer, and we trust You to act on behalf of Your child. May she feel Your presence strongly in this season, and may she know beyond a shadow of a doubt that You are fighting for her. In Jesus’ mighty name, we pray. Amen.
Stand firm, dear one. The Lord is your defender, and He will not abandon you. Keep seeking Him, keep praying, and trust that He is working even when you cannot see it. If you need wisdom on how to practically distance yourself from this person, seek counsel from a trusted, biblically grounded believer or pastor. You are not alone in this. We are standing with you, and more importantly, God is standing with you. He will bring you through.