Silas
Beloved Servant
The weight you are carrying is heavy, and the pain of feeling erased from your children’s lives is a deep wound. When you say the devil isn’t kind, you are speaking truth. The enemy loves to use loss and rejection to convince a man he has no place, no identity left. But what the enemy means for destruction, God can meet with a grace that holds you steady even when everything feels torn away.
Consider the relationship between the Father and the Son in the Scriptures. Jesus repeatedly declared that He did nothing of Himself, but only what He saw the Father doing. The Father and the Son exist in perfect, unbreakable unity. The works Jesus did testified that He was sent, loved, and never alone. In the same way, your standing as a father is not ultimately determined by court orders, remarriage, or the present emotional distance of your children. Your identity as their dad was sealed the moment God gave you those lives. That reality remains, regardless of what others do to obscure it.
It may seem right now that your children are being pulled so far away that they will forget you entirely. The false restraining order, the full custody, the new husband in the picture, it all feels designed to make you believe the lie that you are nothing to them anymore. But remember what Jesus said: no one can come to Him unless the Father draws them. The Father is the one who moves hearts. He knows exactly how to draw your children, to preserve their memory of you, and to bring truth to light in His time. You may feel powerless, but the Father who loves you is actively at work in ways you cannot see.
When Jesus prayed, He committed those He loved into the Father’s keeping, saying, “Holy Father, keep through your own name those whom you have given me.” That prayer was for their protection, their identity, and their future. You can do the same with your youngest who still comes but acts strangely. You can bring that child, and the two you have not seen, before the Father who Himself loves you because you have believed in His Son. You do not need an earthly mediator or someone else’s permission to approach the throne of grace. You go straight to the Father and pour out your heart.
Marriage was designed so that two become one flesh, and when that bond is severed by sin and broken trust, the damage is real and lasting. What has happened to your former marriage is a failure to reach the divine ideal, yet Jesus also taught that not everyone can receive every hard saying. The pain of divorce and remarriage on the other side does not define your worth or your eternal standing. You are not beyond hope, and walking away as if you never mattered is not the answer. The enemy wants you to surrender your voice and your prayers; Christ calls you to keep entrusting yourself and your children to the One who judges righteously.
You asked why you constantly have to go through pain. The Son was sent into the world to do the Father’s will, and He was despised, rejected, and misunderstood by many. If you belong to Him, suffering is not a sign of His absence but an invitation to cling more tightly to the One who promised to be with you always. He knows what it is to be betrayed. He knows what it is to have people walk away. Yet He lived by the Father, and He invites you to do the same.
Keep praying for your children. Ask the Father to protect them, to speak to their hearts, and to break through any lie that erases you. When your youngest visits, be present, be steady, and let your love plant seeds that time cannot uproot. The despair says you are forgotten, but you are not forgotten by the Father, and you are not abandoned by the Son who intercedes for you. Do not sign away what God has given you. Stand still and see the salvation of the Lord, even if that deliverance is a slow unfolding over years. The enemy is not kind, but Jesus is mighty to save, and He keeps those who are His.
Consider the relationship between the Father and the Son in the Scriptures. Jesus repeatedly declared that He did nothing of Himself, but only what He saw the Father doing. The Father and the Son exist in perfect, unbreakable unity. The works Jesus did testified that He was sent, loved, and never alone. In the same way, your standing as a father is not ultimately determined by court orders, remarriage, or the present emotional distance of your children. Your identity as their dad was sealed the moment God gave you those lives. That reality remains, regardless of what others do to obscure it.
It may seem right now that your children are being pulled so far away that they will forget you entirely. The false restraining order, the full custody, the new husband in the picture, it all feels designed to make you believe the lie that you are nothing to them anymore. But remember what Jesus said: no one can come to Him unless the Father draws them. The Father is the one who moves hearts. He knows exactly how to draw your children, to preserve their memory of you, and to bring truth to light in His time. You may feel powerless, but the Father who loves you is actively at work in ways you cannot see.
When Jesus prayed, He committed those He loved into the Father’s keeping, saying, “Holy Father, keep through your own name those whom you have given me.” That prayer was for their protection, their identity, and their future. You can do the same with your youngest who still comes but acts strangely. You can bring that child, and the two you have not seen, before the Father who Himself loves you because you have believed in His Son. You do not need an earthly mediator or someone else’s permission to approach the throne of grace. You go straight to the Father and pour out your heart.
Marriage was designed so that two become one flesh, and when that bond is severed by sin and broken trust, the damage is real and lasting. What has happened to your former marriage is a failure to reach the divine ideal, yet Jesus also taught that not everyone can receive every hard saying. The pain of divorce and remarriage on the other side does not define your worth or your eternal standing. You are not beyond hope, and walking away as if you never mattered is not the answer. The enemy wants you to surrender your voice and your prayers; Christ calls you to keep entrusting yourself and your children to the One who judges righteously.
You asked why you constantly have to go through pain. The Son was sent into the world to do the Father’s will, and He was despised, rejected, and misunderstood by many. If you belong to Him, suffering is not a sign of His absence but an invitation to cling more tightly to the One who promised to be with you always. He knows what it is to be betrayed. He knows what it is to have people walk away. Yet He lived by the Father, and He invites you to do the same.
Keep praying for your children. Ask the Father to protect them, to speak to their hearts, and to break through any lie that erases you. When your youngest visits, be present, be steady, and let your love plant seeds that time cannot uproot. The despair says you are forgotten, but you are not forgotten by the Father, and you are not abandoned by the Son who intercedes for you. Do not sign away what God has given you. Stand still and see the salvation of the Lord, even if that deliverance is a slow unfolding over years. The enemy is not kind, but Jesus is mighty to save, and He keeps those who are His.
