Revive my marriage

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When is God going to grant my wishes and requests? I cannot take it any longer……….my heart is exhausted and I cannot bear it anymore…

My name is ###. I am in desperate need of help in prayer. I don't know how long I can endure this pain...I really wish God will help me. I have been with my husband ### for 14 years (11 years married). I have been suffering from a sexless marriage. I have been suffering from anxiety disorder and OCD (intrusive thoughts) since 2 years before marriage. I would often repeatedly ask him for assurance and if he still loved me or if he was still attracted to me - it might have been a turning point where it gradually pushed my husband away from me - my husband stopped yearning physical intimacy with me since 1 year before marriage. The lack of physical and emotional intimacy, and lack of affection from my husband worsened after marriage. My anxiety disorder also worsened as I kept getting rejected by my husband when I wanted intimacy. Thus I kept asking him repeated ridiculous questions and repeatedly asked him for assurance, and often asked him for affection. This in turn pushed my husband away further. It has been a vicious cycle. My husband has become emotionally avoidant and shut down. He would stonewall me and freeze whenever I talked to him about our marriage and emotional issues. In general, we seldom quarrel, and live a normal routine life without much activities together and without him putting much efforts in making our marriage loving or healthy. He also plays PC or handphone games frequently especially when he feels stressed or when he is emotionally shutdown or avoidant. Then recently I found out that he had been visiting paid sex services either alone or with his friends. I felt my world came crashing down when I realised that he would rather pay and have sex with other girls than to have physical intimacy with me. But I still love him, and am unable to let go or give up on our marriage even though we do not have kids. Please pray for me...I am not a good or obedient Christian. And I sometimes have suicidal thoughts due to my anxieties, fear and hopelessness. But I really hope God will restore my marriage. Please pray for me and my husband, please pray that my husband will put in more active efforts to rebuild our marriage with me, to book and attend marriage counselling sessions regularly with me. Please pray for my husband to rise and step out of emotional shutdown and avoidance, to stop escaping, to step up for me and our marriage, and come closer to me emotionally and physically. Please pray for my husband to love me truly and deeply. Please pray that God restores my marriage very soon - where my husband values me as his wife, puts in effort to be close to me, stays loyal, and shares emotional and physical connection enough for us to feel like true husband and wife again — where I feel wanted, loved, respected, and safe. Also please pray for me to be healed completely from anxiety disorder, OCD and depression soon. Thank you

 

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We hear the deep anguish in your heart, and we are grieved by the brokenness you and your husband are experiencing. Your pain is real, and we want you to know that God sees every tear you have shed, every moment of rejection, and every cry of your heart. He is not distant from your suffering—He is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). Yet we must also speak truth in love, for God’s Word is the lamp to our feet and the light to our path (Psalm 119:105). Let us address what is before us with both compassion and biblical clarity, for your well-being and the glory of God.

First, we must acknowledge that your husband’s actions—particularly his use of paid sexual services—are not only a betrayal of your marriage covenant but a grievous sin before God. The Scriptures are clear: *"Don’t you know that your bodies are a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s"* (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). His involvement in sexual immorality is a violation of the sacred bond of marriage, which God intended to be a reflection of Christ’s love for His Church (Ephesians 5:25-33). This is not merely a "mistake" but a pattern of rebellion that must be repented of. We will pray earnestly for his repentance, for *"if we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9). Without true repentance—turning away from sin and toward God—there can be no restoration. You cannot force this, but you can pray for it, and we will join you in doing so.

We also see how your own struggles with anxiety, OCD, and intrusive thoughts have contributed to the cycle of pain in your marriage. Your repeated pleas for assurance, while born out of deep insecurity, have pushed your husband further away. This is not to blame you, but to recognize that both of you are trapped in patterns that are destructive. The Bible tells us, *"Don’t be anxious for anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus"* (Philippians 4:6-7). Your worth and security must be found in Christ alone, not in your husband’s affections or assurances. We will pray for your healing, that God would deliver you from the torment of anxiety and intrusive thoughts, and that you would experience the perfect love of Christ, which *"casts out fear"* (1 John 4:18).

Now, let us speak plainly about the state of your marriage. A marriage without intimacy—emotional, spiritual, *or* physical—is not the marriage God designed. The Song of Solomon celebrates the beauty of marital love, and 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 instructs husbands and wives to fulfill their marital duties to one another, lest Satan tempt them through lack of self-control. Your husband’s refusal to engage with you physically while seeking fulfillment elsewhere is a profound injustice. However, we must also caution you: your desire for physical intimacy, while natural and godly within marriage, must not become an idol. If your hope, joy, and identity are tied to your husband’s affection, you will always be vulnerable to despair. Only Christ can satisfy the deepest longings of your soul.

You mentioned feeling unable to let go of this marriage, even though it has brought you such pain. This is understandable, for marriage is meant to be a lifelong covenant (Matthew 19:6). Yet we must ask: *Is this marriage honoring to God in its current state?* A marriage marked by unrepentant sin, emotional abandonment, and betrayal is not what God intends. While we pray for restoration, we must also prepare you for the possibility that your husband may harden his heart further. Jesus Himself said, *"Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it has not been so"* (Matthew 19:8). We are not suggesting divorce, but we are acknowledging that God’s will may unfold in ways we do not expect. Your primary calling is to seek God’s kingdom first (Matthew 6:33), whether that leads to restoration or a different path.

We are deeply concerned by your mention of suicidal thoughts. Sister, your life is precious to God. Satan is a liar and a thief who comes to *"steal, kill, and destroy"* (John 10:10), but Jesus came to give you life abundantly. Suicidal thoughts are not from God—they are attacks from the enemy to keep you in bondage. We rebuke these thoughts in the name of Jesus and declare that *"no weapon that is formed against you will prevail"* (Isaiah 54:17). You are not alone in this battle. Reach out to a trusted pastor, counselor, or believer who can walk with you through this darkness. If you are in immediate danger, please seek help without delay.

Now, let us pray together for you and your husband, lifting this broken situation before the throne of God, who is able to redeem what seems impossible.

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**Heavenly Father,**

We come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our sister who is crushed beneath the weight of betrayal, loneliness, and despair. Lord, You see the depths of her pain—the rejection, the anxiety, the longing for love and connection that has been withheld. You know the exhaustion of her soul, the nights spent weeping, the days spent wondering if she can endure another moment. Father, *meet her in this place*. Be her Comforter, her Healer, her Strong Tower. Remind her that she is *Yours*—bought with the precious blood of Jesus, beloved by the King of kings. Let her find her worth in You alone, not in the affections of a man who has failed her.

Lord, we cry out for her husband. His heart has grown cold, his actions have been unfaithful, and his silence has spoken volumes. Father, *convict him* of his sin. Let him see the destruction he has caused—not just to his wife, but to his own soul. Break the chains of lust, avoidance, and hardness of heart that have bound him. Bring him to true repentance, that he may turn from his wickedness and seek Your face. Softens his heart toward You, Lord, and toward his wife. Raise him up as the husband You’ve called him to be—one who loves sacrificially, leads spiritually, and cherishes his wife as Christ loves the Church.

We pray for supernatural intervention in this marriage. If it is Your will, restore what the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25). Rebuild the walls of trust that have crumbled. Renew their love, their intimacy, their commitment to one another *and to You*. But Father, we also surrender this to Your sovereignty. If this marriage is beyond restoration due to unrepentant sin, give our sister the strength to walk the path You have for her—whether that means separation, divorce, or a season of singleness devoted to You. Guard her from bitterness, and let her heart remain tender toward You.

Lord, we bind the spirits of anxiety, OCD, depression, and suicidal thoughts that have tormented her. We declare that *"the Spirit of the Lord is upon [her], because he has anointed [her] to preach good news to the poor. He has sent [her] to heal the brokenhearted, to proclaim release to the captives, and recovering of sight to the blind, to deliver those who are crushed"* (Luke 4:18). Father, *set her free*. Heal her mind, renew her thoughts, and fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Let her sleep without torment, wake without dread, and live without the suffocating grip of fear.

We pray for wisdom for her—wisdom to know when to speak and when to be silent, when to pursue and when to wait, when to confront and when to release. Give her discernment to recognize Your voice above the noise of her emotions. Surround her with godly counsel, with friends who will point her to You, with a community that will uphold her in prayer.

Finally, Lord, we ask that You would draw her closer to Yourself through this trial. Let her know You as her Husband (Isaiah 54:5), her Provider, her Redeemer. May this season of suffering drive her to her knees, where she finds You faithful, even when her earthly husband has not been.

We ask all this in the mighty name of **Jesus Christ**, our Savior, our Healer, our Hope. Let Your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Amen.

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Sister, we urge you to take practical steps alongside prayer:
1. **Seek biblical counseling**—not just secular therapy, but counseling rooted in Scripture. Your anxiety and OCD are real battles, but they are not insurmountable with God’s help. A wise counselor can help you break free from the cycles that have harmed your marriage.
2. **Set boundaries**—while we pray for restoration, you must protect your heart. If your husband refuses to repent or seek help, you may need to take steps to separate yourself from further harm. This is not unloving; it is wise (Proverbs 4:23).
3. **Immerse yourself in God’s Word**—let the truth of Scripture renew your mind (Romans 12:2). Memorize verses that declare God’s love for you, His promises, and His power to redeem.
4. **Find a support system**—you were not meant to walk this alone. Connect with a local church, a small group, or trusted believers who can pray with you and hold you accountable.
5. **Forgive, but do not enable**—forgiveness is commanded (Colossians 3:13), but it does not mean tolerating sin. If your husband does not repent, you are not obligated to remain in a destructive situation.

We will continue to pray for you, sister. Do not lose heart. *"Let us not grow weary in doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we don’t give up"* (Galatians 6:9). God is at work, even when you cannot see it. Trust Him. Cling to Him. He will never leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6).

 

[Umaeg]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[hostadmin]

We're here for you, dear friend. We feel your pain and we want you to know that you're not alone. We're standing with you in prayer, believing for a miracle in your marriage.

Firstly, we want to encourage you to keep seeking God's face. In times like these, it's easy to focus on the problem, but let's fix our eyes on Jesus, who is our hope and our strength. He sees you, He loves you, and He's working behind the scenes, even when you can't see it.

We also want to remind you of God's heart for marriage. He hates divorce (Malachi 2:16) and He wants to restore your marriage, not just for your sake, but for His own name's sake (Ezekiel 36:22). So, let's keep believing for a miracle, even as we're wise and take practical steps to protect your heart.

Here are a few things we want to pray with you:

1. **For your husband's heart to be softened and turned towards God and you.** We pray that God would convict him of his sin, break the chains of lust and hardness of heart, and bring him to true repentance. We ask that God would raise him up as a husband who loves sacrificially, leads spiritually, and cherishes you as Christ loves the Church.

2. **For your own healing.** We pray that God would deliver you from the torment of anxiety, intrusive thoughts, and suicidal thoughts. We declare that you are free from the grip of fear, and that you would experience the perfect love of Christ, which casts out fear.

3. **For wisdom and discernment.** We pray that God would give you wisdom to know when to speak and when to be silent, when to pursue and when to wait, and when to confront and when to release. We ask that God would surround you with godly counsel and a community that will uphold you in prayer.

4. **For God to draw you closer to Himself.** We pray that this trial would drive you to your knees, where you would find God faithful, even when your earthly husband has not been.

We're believing with you for a miracle, dear friend. Keep trusting God, keep seeking His face, and let's watch Him work.

 

[Naliogate]

Praying for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[marls]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Cinu]

Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

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Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)

Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)

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[The Encourager]

I prayed that God in Jesus' name will answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

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