We grieve with you over the brokenness in your marriage and the deep pain you are carrying—both physically and emotionally. Your suffering is profound, and we acknowledge the toll that chronic illness, trauma, and medication have taken on you and your relationship. Yet even in this valley, we cling to the truth that our God is a God of restoration, redemption, and miracles. He sees your heart, your repentance, and your desire to honor the covenant of marriage He established.
The enemy has sought to exploit your weaknesses, but we stand firmly on Scripture: *"What therefore God has joined together, don’t let man tear apart"* (Matthew 19:6, WEB). Marriage is a sacred covenant before God, and He hates divorce (Malachi 2:16). While your wife’s departure is a painful consequence of the struggles you’ve faced, we must also acknowledge that her choice to leave does not align with God’s design for marriage—especially when one spouse is in a season of trial. The Bible calls us to bear one another’s burdens (Galatians 6:2) and to remain steadfast in love, *"in sickness and in health."* That said, we do not condemn her, for we all fall short, but we pray earnestly for her heart to turn back to the Lord and to the vows she made before Him.
Your battle with chronic pain, PTSD, and depression is real, and the use of narcotics—while sometimes medically necessary—can cloud judgment, alter behavior, and strain relationships. We urge you to seek godly counsel and medical support to manage these challenges in a way that honors God and protects your mind and spirit. *"Don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s"* (1 Corinthians 6:19-20, WEB). If medication has contributed to actions or words that wounded your wife, we encourage you to humbly confess this before the Lord and, if possible, before her as well. True repentance opens the door for healing.
We also recognize that your identity as a preacher does not exempt you from suffering or from the need for humility. In fact, your platform makes it even more critical that you walk in transparency and dependence on Christ. The Apostle Paul spoke of his *"thorn in the flesh"*—a persistent trial God used to keep him humble and reliant on His grace (2 Corinthians 12:7-10). Your pain, while devastating, can become a testimony of God’s sustaining power if you surrender it to Him. He may not remove it, but He will use it for His glory and your refinement.
Now, let us pray over you and your wife with the authority and hope we have in Christ Jesus:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up our brother who is broken in body and spirit. Lord, You are the God who heals—both physically and emotionally—and we ask for Your restoring hand to move powerfully in his life. Touch his fractured back, Lord, and bring relief to his chronic pain. Deliver him from the grip of depression and PTSD, and break any dependency on medication that has harmed his mind, body, or marriage. Fill him with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7) and renew his strength like the eagle’s (Isaiah 40:31).
Father, we plead for his wife’s heart. Soften her, Lord, and remove any bitterness, resentment, or hardness that has taken root. Convict her by Your Holy Spirit of the sacredness of her marriage vows and the call to submit to Your will above her own feelings. *"A man’s heart plans his course, but the Lord directs his steps"* (Proverbs 16:9, WEB)—redirect her steps back to her husband, back to the covenant she made before You. If she has been influenced by ungodly counsel or the lies of the enemy, expose them and replace them with Your truth. Let her see her husband through Your eyes—not as a man defined by his struggles, but as a man You are redeeming.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of division and divorce that has come against this marriage. We bind the enemy’s schemes to destroy what You have joined together, and we loose Your love, forgiveness, and reconciliation over them. *"Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken"* (Ecclesiastes 4:12, WEB)—restore this threefold cord of husband, wife, and Christ in their marriage.
Father, we ask for divine opportunities for our brother to demonstrate repentance, humility, and Christlike love to his wife. Give him wisdom in his words and actions, and let her witness the transformative power of Your grace in his life. If she has filed for divorce, we pray that You would intervene supernaturally—delaying proceedings, softening hearts, and opening doors for restoration. *"With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible"* (Matthew 19:26, WEB), and we trust in Your power to do what seems humanly irreparable.
Lord, we also pray for godly support around this couple—faithful believers who will speak truth, offer accountability, and walk with them through this season. Raise up mentors, counselors, and medical professionals who align with Your Word and can provide wisdom and healing.
Finally, Father, we declare that Your will be done in this situation. If there is unconfessed sin, pride, or idolatry in either of their hearts, expose it and bring them to repentance. Let this trial draw them closer to You, individually and as a couple. *"The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit. A broken and contrite heart, O God, You will not despise"* (Psalm 51:17, WEB). May their marriage become a testament to Your faithfulness and a light to others who are struggling.
We ask all this in the precious and mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Redeemer and Restorer. Amen.
Brother, we urge you to continue seeking the Lord with all your heart. Fast and pray, immersing yourself in His Word. Listen to worship music that lifts your spirit, and surround yourself with believers who will intercede for you. Remember that God’s timing is perfect, and His ways are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:8-9). Even if your wife’s heart seems hardened now, *"The Lord is not slow concerning His promise, as some count slowness; but He is patient with us, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance"* (2 Peter 3:9, WEB). Trust that He is working, even when you cannot see it.
If your wife is willing, we strongly encourage you to pursue biblical counseling together. If she is not, then seek counseling for yourself—both for your emotional and spiritual health and to prepare your heart for reconciliation. *"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly and gave Himself up for her"* (Ephesians 5:25, WEB). Let Christ’s sacrificial love be your model as you fight for your marriage.
Lastly, we leave you with this promise: *"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted, and He saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18, WEB). You are not forgotten. You are not abandoned. Keep your eyes on Jesus, the author and finisher of your faith (Hebrews 12:2), and let Him carry you through this storm. We are standing with you in prayer, believing for a miracle.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
