We come before the Lord with you in this time of deep longing, lifting your heart’s cry to the Father who hears and answers prayer. Your request reveals a heart that still hopes in God’s power to restore, and we join you in seeking His will for this situation. However, we must first address some foundational truths from Scripture to ensure we are praying in alignment with God’s Word, for His will—not our own desires—must be our highest aim.
First, we notice that you refer to this man as your "partner" of nine years. Scripture does not recognize long-term cohabitation outside of marriage as honorable before God. In fact, the Bible clearly teaches that sexual intimacy and a shared life of this nature are reserved for the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman (Hebrews 13:4, 1 Corinthians 7:2). If you and this man have been living together outside of marriage, we urge you to repent and turn from this sin, for it is fornication in God’s eyes. The Lord calls His people to holiness, and living together without marriage is not His design (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5). True restoration cannot happen without repentance and obedience to God’s Word. The Lord may be using this separation to call both of you to surrender this area of your lives to Him.
Additionally, we do not see the name of Jesus lifted up in your request. This is not a small matter, for Scripture declares that there is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved, and it is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father (Acts 4:12, John 14:6). Without faith in Christ and submission to His lordship, our prayers are empty. If you have not surrendered your life to Jesus as your Savior and Lord, we implore you to do so now. Believe in Him, repent of your sins, and receive His forgiveness and new life (Romans 10:9-10). Apart from Christ, there is no true hope for restoration—of this relationship or of your soul.
Now, let us turn to Scripture to guide our prayers. The Lord is a God of restoration, but His restoration always leads us to righteousness, not to our own comfort or desires. Joel 2:25-26 reminds us that God can restore what has been lost, but His priority is the restoration of our hearts to Him first. Psalm 51:10 says, *"Create in me a clean heart, O God. Renew a right spirit within me."* If this relationship is to be restored, it must be built on the foundation of Christ, with both of you fully submitted to His will. Proverbs 3:5-6 instructs us to *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* This means surrendering this relationship—and your future—to God’s wisdom, not your own longing.
We also must consider whether this man is a believer. Scripture warns against being unequally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14). If he does not share your faith in Christ, then no amount of prayer for reconciliation will align with God’s will, for how can two walk together unless they are agreed (Amos 3:3)? A marriage—or any relationship—cannot thrive if it is not centered on Christ. If he is not a believer, your prayers should shift to his salvation, not just his return. The greatest love you can show him is to pray for his eternal soul.
With these truths in mind, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You now, lifting up our sister and this situation to Your throne of grace. Lord, we ask first and foremost that You would draw her—and this man—closer to Yourself. If there is sin in their lives, especially the sin of living together outside of marriage, we pray for conviction and repentance. Father, Your Word says that if we confess our sins, You are faithful and just to forgive us and cleanse us from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9). Grant them both the courage to turn from anything that displeases You and to walk in obedience.
Lord, we ask that You would work in this man’s heart. If he is not walking with You, we pray for his salvation—that You would open his eyes to the truth of the Gospel and draw him to Yourself (John 6:44). If he is a believer but has strayed, we pray for his repentance and return to You first, knowing that only then can there be true restoration in this relationship. Softening his heart toward You, Lord, is far more important than softening it toward her.
Father, we pray for wisdom and discernment for our sister. If this relationship is not Your will—if it is built on compromise or unequally yoked faith—give her the strength to release it to You. Help her to trust that Your plans for her are good, even if they look different from what she desires (Jeremiah 29:11). If it *is* Your will for them to be reconciled, then we ask that You would restore this relationship in a way that honors You. Let it be built on the foundation of Christ, with marriage as the godly commitment if that is Your plan.
Lord, we rebuked any spirit of division, confusion, or deception that may be at work in this situation. We declare that Your will—whatever it may be—will prevail. Give our sister peace that surpasses understanding as she waits on You (Philippians 4:6-7). Remind her that You are her ultimate portion and satisfaction, even in singleness (Psalm 73:26).
We pray all these things in the mighty and holy name of Jesus, the only name by which we can approach Your throne. May Your will be done, not ours. Amen.
Finally, we encourage you to seek the Lord earnestly during this time. Spend time in His Word, pray without ceasing, and surround yourself with a community of believers who can speak truth and wisdom into your life. If this relationship is to be restored, it must be done God’s way—not the world’s. And if it is not to be restored, trust that God has something better for you, even if it feels painful now. His ways are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:8-9), and His love for you is deeper than any human love.
May the Lord grant you peace, clarity, and a heart fully surrendered to Him.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
