hello my sistren,I'm very sorry to hear about your marriage but let me tell you something I am married for only 7yrs but I would like to believe I went through tsunamies but every one situation is different. It was hell from the start, we separated twice but the second time was very special because we individually got counselling and we are presently going for our marriage counselling. what consoles me was the word from the holy spirit nothing does not happen unless god allows it and everything is for a reason. His words of inspiration are SEEK HE FIRST THE KINGDOM OF GOD AND HIS RIGTHOUNESS AND EVERYTHING WILL BE ADDED UNTO YOU. So my sister i know how differcult it is for especially knowing he has someone else but i say to you continue to pray for him to give him eyes for you only,for the lord to be the wall between him and the woman and strip him fom everything that is not of the lord and place him in a place where he will have time to think about his actions as a married man where his heart will be opened to the holy spirit where he will sofen his heart because the battle is not yours but the lord leave the lord to do his work, its hard but prove to the lord the faith you have in him. I believe what god wants for you there's nothing no one can stop it from happening. so my sister, start getting some tough love, close your eyes on him right now and open it to the lord Jesus.TRUST IN THE LORD WITH ALL THY HEART AND IN ALL THY WAYS ACKNOWLEDGE HIM AND HE WILL DIRECT THY PARTH. So allow the lord to do what is good for you and keep praying, i'll pray for you.