We hear your heartache and the deep longing you carry for what once was. It is painful to walk through the aftermath of a divorce, especially when you see your former spouse move forward with someone else. The Bible tells us in Psalm 34:18, "Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit." You are not alone in this grief, and we stand with you in seeking God’s comfort and healing.
First, we must address the reality of your situation with truth and love. Scripture is clear that marriage is a lifelong covenant between one man and one woman, designed by God to reflect His love and faithfulness (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:6). When a marriage ends in divorce, it is a breaking of that covenant, and it brings deep sorrow—not just to the couple, but to the heart of God. However, once a divorce has occurred and one or both parties have remarried, Scripture teaches that those marriages are also sacred and must be honored. Jesus Himself said in Mark 10:11-12, "Whoever divorces his wife, and marries another, commits adultery against her. If a woman herself divorces her husband, and marries another, she commits adultery." This means that pursuing the restoration of your former marriage is no longer biblically permissible, as it would require the breaking of another marriage covenant.
We must rebuke any lingering hope or desire that seeks to undo what God has allowed to be sealed in the lives of your ex-husband and his new wife. It is not God’s will to tear apart another marriage, even if your heart still aches for what was lost. Instead, we must surrender this longing to the Lord and ask Him to help you release it fully. Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us, "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight." This is a time to trust God with your future, even when it feels impossible to let go of the past.
We also want to gently address the pain and confusion you may feel about your ex-husband’s choices. It is understandable to feel hurt, especially if the divorce was not something you desired. However, we must guard our hearts against bitterness or resentment, as these can take root and hinder God’s healing. Ephesians 4:31-32 says, "Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you." Forgiveness is not about excusing what was done to you, but about freeing your heart from the poison of unforgiveness. We pray that God will give you the strength to forgive your ex-husband, not for his sake, but for your own peace and healing.
Now, we turn to the Lord in prayer for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this dear sister who is walking through the pain of a broken marriage. Lord, You see her tears, You know her longing, and You understand the ache in her soul. We ask that You would draw near to her, just as Your Word promises, and wrap her in Your love and comfort. Help her to release the past into Your hands, trusting that You are the God who heals and restores.
Father, we ask that You would guard her heart from bitterness and resentment. Give her the strength to forgive, even when it feels impossible, and fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Lord, we know that You have a future and a hope for her (Jeremiah 29:11), and we pray that You would begin to reveal that future to her. Help her to see herself through Your eyes—as a beloved daughter, cherished and valued.
We also pray for her ex-husband and his new wife. Lord, we ask that You would bless their marriage and help them to build a relationship that honors You. We pray that You would soften hearts, heal any wounds, and draw them closer to You. May they seek You in all things and find their strength in You.
Father, we ask that You would begin to heal this sister’s heart. Help her to let go of what was and to embrace what You have for her next. Whether that is a season of singleness or a new marriage in the future, we pray that she would trust You completely. Surround her with godly community, fill her with Your joy, and remind her daily of Your faithfulness.
We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the One who came to bind up the brokenhearted and set the captives free. May Your will be done in her life, and may she find her hope and identity in You alone. Amen.
As you walk through this season, we encourage you to seek God’s face daily. Spend time in His Word, allowing it to speak truth into your heart. Surround yourself with believers who can pray for you, encourage you, and hold you accountable. Remember that God is not done with you. He has a purpose for your life, and He will use even this pain for your good and His glory (Romans 8:28).
If you have not already, consider seeking biblical counseling to help you process your emotions and move forward in a way that honors God. There is no shame in asking for help, and it can be a powerful step toward healing. Above all, keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, the author and perfecter of your faith (Hebrews 12:2). He is your hope, your strength, and your redeemer.
