We are deeply grieved to hear of the pain and betrayal you are enduring. The sanctity of marriage is a sacred covenant before God, and what is unfolding here is a direct violation of His design. The Bible is clear in Hebrews 13:4, "Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge." This situation is not only a personal attack on your family but a spiritual assault on the very foundation of what God has joined together.
First, we must address the seriousness of this sin. Your soon-to-be husband is engaged in adultery, and the woman involved, though she may claim to be a Christian, is leading him astray with false teaching and encouraging the destruction of your family. This is not love, it is deception, and it is wickedness. We rebuke the spirit of adultery and deception in Jesus' name. Proverbs 6:32 warns, "He who commits adultery with a woman is void of understanding. He who does it destroys his own soul." This is not just about broken trust; it is about the eternal consequences of sin. We must pray fervently for his eyes to be opened to the truth and for his heart to be turned back to you and to God.
The fact that this woman is twisting Scripture to justify her actions is particularly grievous. Second Timothy 3:13 warns, "But evil men and impostors will grow worse and worse, deceiving and being deceived." She is not acting as a true follower of Christ but as a tool of the enemy. We bind her influence over him in the name of Jesus and command every lie she has planted in his mind to be uprooted. We declare that the truth of God’s Word will prevail in his heart. Psalm 119:130 says, "The entrance of your words gives light. It gives understanding to the simple." May the light of God’s truth expose every deception and draw him back to the path of righteousness.
You are right to pray for strength and fortification of his mind. The enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), but we serve a God who restores and redeems. We stand with you in prayer, asking the Lord to break every chain of deception and to soften his heart toward repentance. We also lift you up, dear sister, for the pain of betrayal is deep, and the enemy would love to see you crushed under the weight of this trial. But God is your refuge and strength (Psalm 46:1), and He sees your tears. We pray that He would comfort you, strengthen you, and give you the grace to endure this season with faith and dignity.
We must also address the fact that you refer to this man as your "soon-to-be husband" and "partner." Scripture is clear that marriage is a covenant between one man and one woman, and sexual intimacy is reserved for that union alone. If you and he are not yet married but have been living together or engaging in sexual relations, this is fornication, and it is sin. We do not say this to condemn you but to call you both to repentance and to honor God’s design for marriage. First Corinthians 6:18-20 says, "Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s."
If you both desire restoration, it must begin with repentance, turning away from sin and turning back to God. This means ending the adulterous relationship immediately, seeking forgiveness, and committing to a path of righteousness. If he is unwilling to repent, you must prayerfully consider what God is calling you to do. You cannot force him to choose rightly, but you can choose to honor God in your own life. We encourage you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or trusted Christian mentor who can walk with you through this difficult time.
We also lift up your two dogs, who are clearly grieving the absence of their beloved human. While we know they are animals and do not have eternal souls, their distress is a reflection of the brokenness in your home. We pray that God would bring comfort to your entire household and that the restoration of your family would be a testimony to His faithfulness.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this sister and her family. Lord, You see the pain, the betrayal, and the brokenness that has entered their home. We ask that You would move mightily in this situation, breaking every chain of deception and adultery. Father, we rebuke the spirit of unfaithfulness and deception in the name of Jesus. We declare that no weapon formed against this family shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we ask that You would restore what has been broken.
Lord, we pray for this sister’s soon-to-be husband. Soften his heart, God. Open his eyes to the truth of Your Word and the severity of his sin. Let him see the destruction that adultery brings, not just to his relationship with his future wife but to his own soul. Convict him, Lord, and lead him to repentance. We pray that he would turn away from this woman and the lies she has fed him, and that he would seek Your face and the restoration of his family.
Father, we also pray for the woman involved. If she truly claims to be a Christian, we ask that You would expose the deception in her heart and lead her to genuine repentance. Let her see the harm she is causing and turn away from this sin. If she is not truly saved, we ask that You would draw her to Yourself, that she may know the truth and be set free.
Lord, we lift up this sister who is hurting. Strengthen her, Father. Give her the grace to endure this trial with faith and dignity. Comfort her in her pain, and let her feel Your presence in a tangible way. Remind her that You are her refuge and strength, and that You will never leave her nor forsake her (Deuteronomy 31:6). Give her wisdom as she navigates this difficult season, and surround her with godly support and counsel.
Father, we also pray for the restoration of this family. If it is Your will, Lord, bring healing and reconciliation. Let their home be a place of peace, love, and obedience to You. We ask that You would bind this family together with cords of love that cannot be broken. And if restoration is not Your will, Lord, give this sister the strength to walk away and trust You for her future.
We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above all names, the only name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). It is by His blood that we have access to You, Father, and it is through His power that we ask for these things. May Your will be done in this situation, and may Your name be glorified. Amen.
