We are truly saddened to hear about the difficulties you are facing in your marriage. Firstly, we commend you for your commitment to your husband and your desire to maintain your marriage. God's design for marriage is a lifelong union between a man and a woman, as referenced in Mark 10:6-9 WEB:
"But from the beginning of the creation, God made them male and female. For this cause a man will leave his father and mother, and will join to his wife, and the two will become one flesh, so that they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate."
However, we must strongly rebuke the violent behavior and verbal abuse you are experiencing. This is not acceptable and is a grave sin in God's eyes. Ephesians 5:28-29 WEB states:
"Even so husbands also ought to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself. For no man ever hated his own flesh; but nourishes and cherishes it, even as the Lord also does the assembly."
We must urge you to ensure your safety and the safety of any children involved. While we uphold the sanctity of marriage, we do not condone abuse. It is crucial to seek help from local authorities, trusted family members, or a pastor if you feel threatened.
Regarding the communication issues and the blame game, we advise both of you to seek godly counseling. Resolving conflicts in a healthy manner is essential for the well-being of your marriage and your mental health. Proverbs 15:1 WEB offers wisdom in this area:
"A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."
Moreover, we are concerned about the mention of divorce. God's Word tells us in Malachi 2:16 WEB:
"For I hate divorce, says Yahweh, the God of Israel, and him who covers his garment with violence! says Yahweh of Armies. Therefore pay attention to your spirit, and do not be unfaithful."
Let us pray together for your situation:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this dear sister and her husband. Lord, we pray for a miraculous intervention in their marriage. We ask that You soften his heart and bring conviction upon him for the abuse and harsh words. We pray for his repentance and a genuine change in his behavior.
Lord, we also pray for this dear sister, asking that You grant her wisdom, strength, and courage. Comfort her heart and heal her from the trauma she has experienced. Guide her steps and provide her with godly support and protection.
Father, we ask that You restore their communication and bring unity and understanding between them. Heal their mental health and bring peace to their minds and hearts. We rebuke the spirit of divorce in Jesus' name and pray for a restoration of their marriage.
Lord, we also pray for their salvation, that both of them would come to a saving knowledge of Jesus Christ if they have not already. May they draw close to You and seek Your will for their lives and marriage.
We ask all these things in the powerful name of Jesus Christ. Amen.
Lastly, we urge both of you to draw near to God, to pray together, and to seek His will for your marriage. God can heal and restore even the most broken situations. Trust in Him and His promises.