We hear the deep pain in your heart, and we grieve with you over the wounds left by your mother’s words and the broken relationship that has caused such lasting hurt. The betrayal of a parent’s love is one of the most profound sorrows a person can endure, and we want you to know that your feelings are valid before God. He sees every tear you’ve cried, every sacrifice you made in vain to earn love that was withheld, and every scar left by words that cut deeper than a sword. The Lord does not dismiss your suffering—He collects your tears in His bottle (Psalm 56:8) and promises to bind up the brokenhearted (Psalm 147:3).
The enemy has sought to use these wounds to distort your identity, to make you believe the lie that you were not enough—that your worth was tied to your mother’s approval or her cruel words. But the truth of Scripture declares otherwise: *"See how great a love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God! For this cause the world doesn’t know us, because it didn’t know him."* (1 John 3:1). You are not a mistake. You are not a disappointment. You are a beloved child of the Most High God, fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), redeemed by the blood of Jesus, and chosen for His purposes. Your mother’s words do not define you—God’s Word does.
It is right that you are seeking healing, for the Lord calls us to *"cast all your worries on him, because he cares for you"* (1 Peter 5:7). But we must also address something critical: forgiveness is not optional for the believer. Jesus said, *"If you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you don’t forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses."* (Matthew 6:14-15). Forgiveness does not mean what your mother did was right or that the pain didn’t matter. It means releasing her to God’s justice and refusing to let bitterness take root in your heart. Unforgiveness is a poison that harms *you* far more than the one who hurt you. It builds a wall between you and the healing God wants to give you.
We also recognize that the patterns of control and sacrifice you described often lead to deep-seated struggles with boundaries, people-pleasing, and even idolatry—where the approval of man becomes more important than the approval of God. If this resonates with you, we urge you to ask the Lord to reveal any ways you may still be seeking validation from others instead of resting in His acceptance. *"Am I now seeking the favor of men, or of God? Or am I striving to please men? For if I were still pleasing men, I wouldn’t be a servant of Christ."* (Galatians 1:10).
As for the damage done, we pray the Lord restores what was stolen from you—the years of joy, the confidence, the ability to trust. He is the God of restoration: *"I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten, the great army worm, the caterpillar, and the palmer worm—my great army, which I sent among you."* (Joel 2:25). But this restoration requires your cooperation. You must actively renounce the lies you’ve believed (e.g., "I am unlovable," "I must earn love," "I am worthless") and replace them with God’s truth. This may require counseling with a biblical, spirit-filled counselor who can help you walk through this process. There is no shame in seeking help—wisdom cries out for it (Proverbs 8:1-4).
Lastly, we notice you closed with *"in Jesus name,"* and we praise God for this! There is no other name under heaven by which we are saved (Acts 4:12), and it is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father (John 14:6). Your faith in Him is your anchor in this storm.
Now, let us pray over you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up your beloved child before You, the One who sees every wound, every rejection, every moment of heartbreak they endured. Lord, You are the Father to the fatherless (Psalm 68:5), and we ask You to reveal Yourself to them in a profound way—as the perfect Parent who will never reject them, never withhold love, and never demand they earn what You freely give.
We rebuke the spirit of rejection, shame, and worthlessness that has tormented them. By the authority of Jesus Christ, we break every curse, every lie, and every stronghold that was formed through their mother’s words and actions. Lord, uproot the bitterness, the resentment, and the pain that has festered for too long. Fill them instead with Your peace that surpasses understanding (Philippians 4:7) and the assurance that they are *yours*—adopted, beloved, and sealed with Your Holy Spirit (Ephesians 1:5, 13).
Give them the grace to forgive, not in their own strength but through the power of Your Spirit. Remind them that forgiveness is not excusing sin but releasing their mother—and themselves—from its grip. Heal their heart, Lord, and restore their soul. Teach them to set godly boundaries, to love without losing themselves, and to find their identity in You alone.
We pray for divine connections—godly mentors, friends, or a counselor who can walk with them through this healing journey. Surround them with Your love through Your people. And if there are areas where they have carried their mother’s sins into their own life (such as control, manipulation, or fear), expose them and break their power, Lord.
Most of all, we ask that You would encounter them in a tangible way. Let them *feel* Your presence, hear Your voice, and know beyond doubt that You are their Good Father. May they experience the truth of Zephaniah 3:17: *"The Lord, your God, is among you, a mighty one who will save. He will rejoice over you with joy. He will calm you in his love. He will rejoice over you with singing."*
We declare that their story is not over. You are making all things new (Revelation 21:5), and we trust You to turn their pain into purpose, their mourning into dancing (Psalm 30:11). In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Healer and Redeemer, we pray. Amen.
Child of God, we urge you to spend time in the Psalms—David’s raw, honest cries to God will help you process your grief. Memorize Scriptures about your identity in Christ (e.g., Ephesians 1:3-14, Romans 8:14-17) and declare them over yourself daily. And if you haven’t already, surrender this pain fully to Jesus. He is waiting to carry it for you. *"Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest."* (Matthew 11:28). You don’t have to walk this road alone. We are standing with you in prayer.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
