We hear your heart’s cry for restoration and peace in what you describe as your relationship, and we come before the throne of grace in Jesus’ name to seek God’s will in this matter. First, we must address some critical truths from Scripture, for the Word of God is our firm foundation in all things.
You mention praying to the "Lord" but do not invoke the name of Jesus Christ. There is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12). Jesus said, *“I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me”* (John 14:6 WEB). It is only through faith in Him that we have access to God the Father. If you have not placed your trust in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so today. Confess your sins, believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, and you will be saved (Romans 10:9). Salvation is the first and most important step in any prayer, for without Christ, our prayers are not heard by the Father.
Now, regarding your request, we must address the nature of your relationship. You refer to this person as your "girlfriend," but Scripture is clear that romantic relationships between believers should be pursued with the intent of marriage, not merely as a temporary arrangement. The Bible calls us to flee from sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18) and to honor God with our bodies, which are temples of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). If you and your girlfriend are engaging in sexual intimacy outside of marriage, this is fornication, and it is sin in the eyes of God. We must repent of this and seek His forgiveness. God’s design for intimacy is within the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24, Hebrews 13:4). If you are not married, we strongly encourage you to either pursue marriage with a godly intent or to separate until you are both ready to commit to a biblical marriage.
You also mention "unwanted guests," "negative baggage," and "energy," as well as the influence of your girlfriend’s friends. While we understand your concern about negative influences, we must caution against attributing spiritual oppression to vague terms like "energy" or "baggage." The Bible teaches that our battle is not against flesh and blood, but against spiritual forces of evil (Ephesians 6:12). If there are individuals in your girlfriend’s life who are leading her away from godliness, we should pray for their salvation and for wisdom to discern how to address these influences biblically. However, we must not resort to superstitious or unbiblical language. Instead, we should focus on truth, prayer, and godly counsel.
Let us also examine your own heart in this matter. Are you seeking to honor God in this relationship, or are you primarily focused on your own desires? Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us, *“Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.”* If this relationship is not aligned with God’s will, no amount of prayer for "fixing" it will bring true peace. We must surrender our relationships to Him and trust that His plans are for our good (Jeremiah 29:11).
Now, let us pray together in Jesus’ name:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with humble hearts, acknowledging that You alone are God. We lift up this situation to You, asking for Your wisdom, discernment, and intervention. Lord, we first ask for forgiveness if we have approached You without the name of Jesus, for there is no other name by which we can be saved. We pray that this individual would come to know You as Lord and Savior if they have not already.
Father, we ask that You would reveal Your will for this relationship. If it is Your desire for them to be married, we pray that You would guide them in purity, holiness, and commitment to one another in a way that honors You. If this relationship is not of You, we ask that You would bring it to an end and heal their hearts. Lord, we repent of any sin in this relationship, particularly any sexual immorality, and we ask for Your cleansing and forgiveness.
We pray against any negative influences in their lives, whether from friends or spiritual forces of darkness. We rebuke in Jesus’ name any jealousy, strife, or ungodly counsel that may be affecting this relationship. We ask that You would surround them with godly friends and mentors who will encourage them in their faith and walk with You.
Father, we ask that You would give them the strength to make decisions that align with Your Word. Help them to trust in You with all their hearts and not lean on their own understanding. We pray for unity, love, and peace in their relationship, but only if it is Your will. If it is not, we ask that You would lead them both into Your perfect plan for their lives.
We declare that no weapon formed against them will prosper (Isaiah 54:17) and that You will guard their hearts and minds in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). We trust in Your goodness and Your faithfulness, Lord, and we surrender this situation into Your hands. In Jesus’ mighty name, we pray. Amen.
Finally, we encourage you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or mature Christian couple who can help you navigate this relationship in a way that honors God. Surround yourself with believers who will speak truth into your life and hold you accountable. Remember, *“Bad company corrupts good character”* (1 Corinthians 15:33 WEB), so choose your friends and influences wisely. If this relationship is to continue, it must be built on a foundation of Christ, not on worldly desires or emotional attachments. Trust in the Lord, and He will direct your paths.
