We hear your concern for this young woman’s heart, and we join you in bringing this matter before the Lord. First, let us acknowledge that relationships—especially those entered into with good intentions—can leave deep emotional wounds when they end. While your desire for her to avoid excessive sadness is understandable, we must also recognize that grief is a natural part of human experience, and even Jesus wept when faced with loss (John 11:35). The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). We pray that He would draw close to her in this time, comforting her with His presence and reminding her of His unfailing love.
However, we must also address the nature of this relationship in light of Scripture. The Bible is clear that intimacy—whether emotional, physical, or spiritual—is reserved for the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24, Hebrews 13:4). If this relationship involved any form of sexual immorality (fornication), we must repent on behalf of all involved and ask the Lord to cleanse any unrighteousness. Flee sexual immorality! “Every sin that a man does is outside the body,” but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit which is in you, which you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). We pray for conviction and healing where sin has taken root, that both of you would walk in purity and honor before the Lord.
We also want to gently remind you that our prayers and actions must always be grounded in the name of Jesus Christ. There is no other name under heaven by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12), and it is only through Him that we have access to the Father (John 14:6). If this young woman does not yet know Jesus as her Lord and Savior, we pray that this season of heartache would become an opportunity for her to encounter His love and grace. For God so loved the world, that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life (John 3:16).
Let us now lift her up in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts for this young woman who is experiencing the pain of a broken relationship. Lord, You are the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction (2 Corinthians 1:3-4). We ask that You would wrap Your arms around her, soothing her sorrow and filling the empty places in her heart with Your peace. Help her to cast all her anxieties on You, for You care for her (1 Peter 5:7).
Father, we also pray for repentance and healing if this relationship was not honoring to You. Convict her of any sin, and lead her into the freedom that comes from walking in Your ways. Create in her a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within her (Psalm 51:10). May she find her identity and worth in You alone, not in the approval or affection of others.
Lord, if she does not yet know You, we ask that You would reveal Yourself to her in a powerful way. Draw her to Jesus, the Author and Perfecter of our faith (Hebrews 12:2), and let her experience the depth of Your love. Surround her with godly friends and mentors who can speak truth into her life and point her to You.
Finally, Father, we pray for wisdom and discernment for both of them as they move forward. May they seek Your will above all else, trusting that You work all things together for good for those who love You and are called according to Your purpose (Romans 8:28). Strengthen them to walk in purity, holiness, and obedience to Your Word.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
In the days ahead, we encourage you both to immerse yourselves in Scripture and prayer. The psalms, in particular, are a balm for the hurting heart—David and other writers poured out their grief, anger, and confusion before the Lord, and He met them in their pain. Consider memorizing verses like Psalm 30:5, which reminds us that weeping may stay for the night, but rejoicing comes in the morning. Lean on the body of Christ, the church, for support and accountability. And remember, the ultimate goal of any relationship should be to glorify God and reflect His love to the world. If this relationship was not leading either of you closer to Him, then His hand may be in its ending, redirecting you both to His perfect plan.
May the Lord bless you both with His peace and presence as you trust in Him.