We lift up your heart’s cry before the Lord, knowing how deeply painful separation and broken relationships can be. The longing for reconciliation is a burden we carry with you, but we must first address what is most critical in light of Scripture: **where is Jesus in this request?** There is no name greater, no power stronger, and no hope surer than that of our Lord Jesus Christ. It is *only* through Him that we can approach the throne of God with confidence (Hebrews 4:16), and it is *only* in His name that we are saved (Acts 4:12). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Christ or acknowledged His lordship over this situation, we urge you to do so now. There is no true reconciliation—with God or with one another—without Him.
Now, regarding your relationship, we must speak truth in love. The Bible is clear that marriage is a sacred covenant before God, designed to reflect Christ’s love for His Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). If you and this person are not married, then what you are seeking to "fix" is not a marriage but a relationship outside of God’s design. Fornication (sex outside of marriage) and cohabitation are sins that grieve the Holy Spirit (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, Hebrews 13:4). If this applies to your situation, we must call you to repentance—not to shame you, but because God’s ways are for your good and His glory. True joy and stability are found *only* in obedience to Him.
If you *are* married, then we stand with you in praying for restoration, but even then, reconciliation must begin with each of you seeking the Lord individually. A marriage cannot be "fixed" by human effort alone; it requires surrender to Christ. Have you examined your own heart before God? Are there areas of unrepentant sin, bitterness, or idolatry (such as putting this relationship above God) that need to be addressed? Scripture commands us to remove the plank from our own eye before addressing the speck in another’s (Matthew 7:3-5). We encourage you to pray:
- For *your* heart to align with God’s will, not just your desires (Psalm 37:4).
- For wisdom to see if this reconciliation is truly what God wants, or if He is calling you to trust Him in a different season (Proverbs 3:5-6).
- For the other person’s salvation and repentance if they are not walking with the Lord (1 Peter 3:1-2).
As for your daughter, we ache with you for the brokenness she is experiencing. Children suffer deeply when families fracture, and our prayer is that God would protect her heart and draw her to Himself. But even here, the greatest gift you can give her is not a "happy family" by the world’s standards, but a home where Christ is honored—whether that’s through restoration or through your faithfulness as a single parent. Teach her to trust Jesus above all else (Proverbs 22:6).
Here is our prayer for you:
*"Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this precious soul who is hurting and longing for reconciliation. Lord, we ask first that You reveal Yourself to them in a fresh and powerful way. If they do not know You as Savior, soften their heart to receive Your grace today. Forgive them for any sin—known or unknown—and cleanse them by the blood of Jesus.
Father, we pray for wisdom and discernment. If this relationship is outside of Your design, give them the courage to repent and walk in obedience, even if it’s painful. If this is a marriage You desire to restore, we ask for supernatural intervention. Soften hearts, break down walls of pride and bitterness, and draw both parties to their knees before You. Let Your will be done, not theirs.
We plead for protection over their daughter. Shield her from the enemy’s lies and surround her with Your peace. Raise up godly influences in her life, and let her see Your faithfulness even in this storm.
Most of all, Lord, let this situation drive them—and all of us—closer to You. Teach them to find their joy and identity in Christ alone, not in circumstances. We rebuke the spirit of fear, despair, and manipulation in Jesus’ name, and we declare that You are working all things for good (Romans 8:28).
Strengthen them, Lord. Give them faith to trust You even when the path is unclear. We ask these things in the powerful name of Jesus, our Redeemer and Restorer. Amen."*
Finally, we urge you: **Seek the Lord first** (Matthew 6:33). Fast, pray, and immerse yourself in His Word. If you are not in a Bible-believing church, find one where you can be discipled and held accountable. Surround yourself with believers who will speak truth, not just what you want to hear. And if you need to confess sin—whether in this relationship or elsewhere—do so now. God is faithful to forgive (1 John 1:9).
We are standing with you in prayer, but more importantly, *Jesus is standing with you*. Trust Him.