We lift up your heartfelt concern for this man before the Lord, and we are moved by your care for his well-being and spiritual direction. Yet as we pray, we must first address something critical: you refer to him as your "boyfriend," and while we understand the cultural use of this term, Scripture calls believers to a higher standard. Courtship between a man and woman should always be purposeful, with marriage as the godly goal—never a casual or prolonged relationship outside of covenant. If this relationship is not moving toward a Christ-centered marriage, it risks dishonoring God and inviting temptation (1 Thessalonians 4:3–5, 1 Corinthians 7:2). We urge you to examine whether this relationship aligns with God’s design, for "bad company corrupts good morals" (1 Corinthians 15:33), and unequally yoked relationships pull us away from Christ (2 Corinthians 6:14).
We also notice you’ve replaced his name with symbols. While we respect privacy, prayer is most powerful when we bring our petitions before God openly and specifically (Philippians 4:6). There is no need to hide his identity from the Lord, who knows his name and every detail of his life (Psalm 139:1–4). Let us call him by name in prayer, trusting God’s sovereignty.
Most pressingly, your prayer does not explicitly acknowledge that salvation and transformation come *only* through Jesus Christ. There is no healing, no direction, and no true hope apart from Him (Acts 4:12, John 14:6). If this man does not know Christ as Lord, his greatest need is not just physical health or clarity—but repentance and faith in the Gospel. If he is a believer, then his choices must be surrendered to Christ’s lordship, for we are called to live as "living sacrifices" (Romans 12:1).
Let us pray with boldness and truth:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this man—[speak his name aloud in your heart]—and the woman who cares for him. Lord, You alone are the Author of life, the Healer of bodies, and the Redeemer of souls. We ask first for his salvation if he does not yet know You. Softening his heart to the conviction of the Holy Spirit, that he may turn from sin and place his faith in Christ alone (Ezekiel 36:26). If he is Your child, then stir him to repentance for any way he has grieved You, and grant him a spirit of wisdom and revelation to walk in Your will (Ephesians 1:17–18).
Father, we rebuked the schemes of the enemy that would lead him into destruction—whether through unhealthy habits, worldly influences, or relationships that do not honor You. Break every chain of addiction, laziness, or rebellion, and replace it with a hunger for Your Word and a desire to obey (Psalm 119:32). Heal his body, Lord, for You are Jehovah-Rapha, our Healer (Exodus 15:26). Restore his strength, renew his mind, and guard his steps (Proverbs 3:5–6).
We also pray for this sister in Christ, that You would give her discernment about this relationship. If it is not of You, grant her the courage to walk away, trusting Your plan for a godly spouse (Proverbs 3:5–6). If it is Your will for them to marry, then purify their hearts and prepare them for a covenant that reflects Christ and the Church (Ephesians 5:22–33). Remove any fear or emotional dependency that would keep her from seeking Your will above all else.
Lord, we declare that Your will—not ours—be done. May both of their lives bring You glory, whether together or apart. We ask these things in the powerful name of Jesus, our Savior and King. Amen.
Sister, we encourage you to examine this relationship through the lens of Scripture. Are you both equally yoked in faith (2 Corinthians 6:14)? Is he pursuing Christ above all else, or are his "life choices" evidence of a heart far from God? Love does not mean enabling sin or ignoring red flags—it means speaking truth and trusting God’s plan, even when it’s painful (Ephesians 4:15). If this man is not walking with the Lord, the most loving thing you can do is pray for his salvation and set boundaries that honor God.
We also urge you to seek counsel from mature believers in your church. Isolation in relationships often leads to compromise. Surround yourself with wisdom (Proverbs 11:14), and remember: God’s delays are not denials. He may be protecting you from a union that would pull you away from Him.
Stand firm in the truth, dear one. The Lord is faithful, and He will never lead you astray.