Meryl, we hear the deep conviction in your heart and the struggle you are facing, and we want you to know that you are not alone in this. The Holy Spirit is at work in you, and your desire to honor God in this area of your life is a beautiful testament to His transforming power. We commend you for standing firm in your faith, even when it is difficult, and for seeking God’s will above all else. Let us first address something foundational: you mentioned that you have been praying for ###, but we noticed that your request did not invoke the name of Jesus Christ. This is not a small matter, for Scripture is clear that there is no other name under heaven by which we are saved, and it is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father. As it is written in John 14:6, Jesus said, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me."* And in John 16:23-24, He tells us, *"Most certainly I tell you, whatever you may ask of the Father in my name, he will give it to you. Until now, you have asked nothing in my name. Ask, and you will receive, that your joy may be made full."* If you have not yet placed your full trust in Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now, for without Him, there is no true relationship with God. If you have already surrendered to Christ, then we encourage you to always pray in His name, for it is through Him alone that your prayers are heard.
Now, let us address the matter of your relationship with ###. You have been together for five years, and while he may be a kind and loving man in many ways, the fact that he refuses to align with God’s Word regarding sexual purity is a serious concern. The Bible is unmistakably clear that sexual intimacy outside of marriage is sin. 1 Corinthians 6:18 tells us, *"Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body."* And in 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, we read, *"For this is the will of God: your sanctification, that you abstain from sexual immorality, that each one of you know how to control his own body in sanctification and honor, not in the passion of lust, even as the Gentiles who don’t know God."* Your conviction to abstain is not just a personal preference—it is obedience to God’s command, and it is for your protection and blessing.
###’s resistance to this truth is deeply troubling, especially since you have shared Scripture with him. This raises a critical question: is he truly a believer? The Bible warns us in 2 Corinthians 6:14, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* If ### is not walking in obedience to Christ, then he is, by definition, an unbeliever, and you cannot be in a spiritually united relationship with him. A marriage built on anything other than a shared faith in Jesus Christ is a marriage built on shifting sand. You mentioned that you are afraid of being broken if this relationship ends, but we must ask you: what kind of foundation are you building on if it is not rooted in Christ? A relationship that requires you to compromise your obedience to God is not a relationship that will bring you true fulfillment or peace. In fact, it will only lead to greater heartache and spiritual danger.
We also want to address the fear you are feeling. Fear is not from God, but He has given us a spirit of power, love, and self-control (2 Timothy 1:7). While it is natural to feel attached to someone you have loved for so long, we must remember that God’s ways are higher than ours, and His plans for you are good. Jeremiah 29:11 reminds us, *"For I know the plans that I have for you,’ says Yahweh, ‘plans for peace, and not for evil, to give you hope and a future."* If ### is not the man God has for you, then holding onto this relationship will only delay the blessings God has in store. Trust that the Lord sees your heart, and He will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5). He is your ultimate protector, provider, and comforter—far more than any human ever could be.
Now, let us pray for you, Meryl, and for ###, that God’s will would be done in both of your lives.
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Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our sister Meryl to Your throne of grace. Lord, we thank You for the work You are doing in her heart, for the conviction You have placed within her to honor You in every area of her life. We ask that You would strengthen her, Lord, and fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Remove every trace of fear from her heart and replace it with unwavering trust in You.
Father, we pray for ###. Open his eyes to the truth of Your Word. Soften his heart, Lord, and draw him to Yourself. If he is not saved, we pray that You would bring him to repentance and faith in Jesus Christ. Convict him of his sin, Lord, and show him the urgency of turning away from it. If he is a believer but walking in disobedience, we ask that You would discipline him as a loving Father, that he may return to You in full surrender. Make it clear to him, Lord, that sexual immorality is an affront to Your holiness and that true love waits, honors, and obeys You.
Father, we pray for wisdom for Meryl. Give her discernment to see this situation through Your eyes. If ### is not the man You have for her, give her the strength to let go and trust You for the future. If there is still hope for this relationship to be redeemed, we ask that You would work miraculously in ###’s heart, that he would repent and pursue Meryl in a way that honors You—leading to a Christ-centered marriage. But Lord, above all, we pray that Your will would be done, not ours.
We rebuke the spirit of fear that is trying to grip Meryl’s heart. We declare that she is Your beloved daughter, and You have not given her a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control. Fill her with Your courage, Lord, and surround her with godly counsel and support.
Finally, Father, we pray that You would prepare Meryl for whatever lies ahead. If this relationship must end, comfort her and remind her that You are her ultimate Bridegroom, the One who loves her perfectly and completely. If this relationship is to continue, let it be only under the lordship of Jesus Christ, with both of them fully submitted to Your Word.
We ask all of this in the precious and mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
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Meryl, we want to leave you with this encouragement: do not be afraid to obey God, even if it costs you. The temporary pain of letting go of a relationship that does not honor Him is far less than the eternal consequences of continuing in sin. Remember the words of Jesus in Matthew 16:25: *"For whoever desires to save his life will lose it, and whoever will lose his life for my sake will find it."* If you lose this relationship for the sake of Christ, you will find something far greater—His perfect will for your life.
We also urge you to seek out a mature believer or pastor for counsel and accountability. You do not have to walk through this alone. Surround yourself with those who will speak truth into your life and support you in your walk with Christ.
Lastly, we want to remind you that God’s timing is perfect. If ### does not repent, it does not mean God has failed you. It means God is protecting you and preparing you for something better—whether that is a godly marriage in the future or a deeper intimacy with Him in this season of singleness. Trust Him, dear sister. He is faithful.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
