We come before the Lord with hearts full of concern for your situation, and we must first address some foundational truths from Scripture to ensure you are aligned with God’s will. The Bible clearly teaches that relationships outside of marriage—especially intimate ones—are not pleasing to God. The term "girlfriend" implies a romantic and possibly physical relationship, which, if outside the covenant of marriage, is fornication. The Lord calls us to purity and holiness, and any relationship that does not honor marriage as a sacred union between one man and one woman is not in alignment with His design.
The Bible warns us in 1 Corinthians 6:18-20, *"Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s."* If this relationship involves physical intimacy outside of marriage, we urge you to repent and turn away from this sin, seeking God’s forgiveness and His strength to walk in purity.
Additionally, we notice that your prayer does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, through whom we have access to the Father. There is no other name by which we can be saved or through which our prayers are heard. Jesus Himself said in John 14:6, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me."* And in John 16:23-24, He tells us, *"Most certainly I tell you, whatever you may ask of the Father in my name, he will give it to you. Until now, you have asked nothing in my name. Ask, and you will receive, that your joy may be made full."* We must always come before God in the name of Jesus, for He is our Mediator and our only hope.
Now, let us pray for you with these truths in mind. If this relationship is one of courtship with the intent of marriage—and if both of you are believers in Jesus Christ—then we pray for God’s guidance, protection, and wisdom over you both. But if this relationship is not honoring to God, we pray for conviction, repentance, and a turning toward His perfect will.
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Heavenly Father, we lift this dear one before You, knowing that Your heart is for their holiness and their good. Lord, if this relationship is not aligned with Your Word, we pray that You would convict their heart and draw them to repentance. Help them to see the beauty of Your design for marriage and the danger of stepping outside of Your boundaries. Give them the strength to flee from sin and to pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace with those who call on You with a pure heart (2 Timothy 2:22).
If this relationship is one of godly courtship, with marriage as the goal and both individuals committed to You, then we ask that You protect it from the enemy’s attacks. Remove any toxic influences, negative patterns, or ungodly ties that seek to destroy what You are building. Fill their hearts with Your love, patience, and wisdom, and help them to honor You in all things. May their relationship be rooted in Christ, with a shared desire to glorify You in every decision.
Father, we also pray that this dear one would grow in their understanding of prayer and the power of the name of Jesus. Teach them to come boldly before Your throne through Christ, who is our only way to You. If they do not yet know Jesus as their Savior, we pray that You would open their eyes to their need for Him. May they surrender their life to You, receiving forgiveness and eternal life through faith in Him.
We rebuke any spiritual forces that seek to deceive or lead this person away from Your truth. Bind the enemy’s influence in their life and relationship, and let Your light expose any darkness. Lead them into all truth, Lord, and surround them with godly counsel and accountability.
In the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
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We encourage you to examine this relationship in light of Scripture. Are you both believers in Jesus Christ? Are you pursuing purity and honoring God in your interactions? Is marriage the goal, and are you seeking God’s will above your own desires? If not, we urge you to repent and realign your life with God’s Word. He has a perfect plan for you, and His ways are always for your good.
If you are not yet married, we strongly encourage you to pursue a relationship that is centered on Christ, with marriage as the godly goal. Seek accountability from mature believers, and flee from any temptation that would dishonor God. Remember, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14). Your future spouse should be someone who loves Jesus above all else and who will help you grow in your faith.
Finally, always remember to pray in the name of Jesus. He is the only way to the Father, and it is through Him that we have confidence in our prayers. If you have never surrendered your life to Christ, we invite you to do so today. *"If you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart, one believes unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation"* (Romans 10:9-10). There is no greater decision you can make than to follow Jesus.