We come before the Lord with you in this time of need, lifting up your heart and this relationship to Him. First, we must address something vital: the name above all names, the only name by which we are saved, is Jesus Christ. It is through Him alone that we have access to the Father, and it is in His name that we pray. "There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!" (Acts 4:12, WEB). We encourage you to call upon the name of Jesus in your prayers, for He is the mediator between God and humanity (1 Timothy 2:5).
Now, let us speak to the concerns in your request. We hear your heart’s cry for reconciliation and peace in this relationship, but we must ask: is this relationship honoring to God? Are you and this person both committed followers of Christ, seeking to glorify Him in your lives? The Bible is clear that we are not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14). If this person is not a believer, we urge you to prayerfully consider whether this relationship aligns with God’s will for your life. A godly marriage is built on a shared faith in Christ, and courtship should always be moving toward that covenant.
We also notice the pain in your words—yelling, meanness, and a lack of listening or support. These are not fruits of the Spirit but signs of a relationship that may be unhealthy or even toxic. The Bible tells us, "Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God also in Christ forgave you" (Ephesians 4:31-32, WEB). If this person is unwilling to treat you with the love and respect that reflects Christ’s love for us, you must prayerfully consider whether this relationship is one God would have you continue in.
If there is any immorality in this relationship—whether emotional, physical, or spiritual—we urge you to repent and turn away from it. Fornication, anger without cause, and division are not of God. "Flee sexual immorality! Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s" (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, WEB).
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this dear one to You, asking that You would surround them with Your peace and wisdom. Lord, if this relationship is not of You, we pray that You would give them the strength to walk away and trust in Your perfect plan for their life. If there is sin involved, convict their heart and lead them to repentance. Father, we ask that You would heal their heart from the pain of being mistreated and guide them into relationships that honor You—relationships built on Your love, patience, and kindness.
If this person is someone You have ordained for them, soften their heart, Lord. Break the spirit of anger, division, and rebellion, and replace it with Your Spirit of gentleness and unity. Help them to see the error of their ways and turn to You in humility. But above all, Lord, let Your will be done. We pray that this dear one would seek You first, trusting that You will provide all they need, including a godly spouse if that is Your plan.
We rebuke any spirit of fear, manipulation, or control in this situation. We bind the enemy’s lies that would keep this dear one in bondage to an unhealthy relationship. Let them walk in the freedom and victory of Christ, knowing that You, Lord, are their protector, provider, and ultimate love.
We ask all this in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen.
We encourage you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or mature believer who can walk with you through this. Surround yourself with a community of faith that will speak truth into your life and hold you accountable. Remember, "Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your paths" (Proverbs 3:5-6, WEB). Stay rooted in His Word, and He will guide you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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