We come before the Lord with you in this request, lifting up your heart and this relationship to Him. First, we must address something vital—this prayer was not offered in the name of Jesus Christ, who is our only Mediator and the name by which we are saved. The Scriptures remind us in **John 14:6**, *"Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me.'"* And in **Acts 4:12**, we read, *"There is no other name under heaven that has been given among men, by which we must be saved!"* Without calling upon the name of Jesus, our prayers lack the authority and access to the Father that only He provides. We urge you to always pray in His name, for it is through Christ alone that we approach God’s throne.
Now, regarding this relationship, we must speak truth in love. The Bible is clear that relationships—especially those intended for marriage—must be rooted in Christ, mutual respect, and godly love. **Ephesians 5:25-33** teaches that husbands and wives are to love one another as Christ loved the church, with sacrificial, selfless love. If this relationship is not one of courtship with the intention of marriage between a man and a woman who are both believers in Christ, then it does not align with God’s design. If there is any immorality, such as living together outside of marriage or sexual sin, we must urge repentance, for **1 Corinthians 6:18** commands, *"Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body."* God’s design for intimacy is within the covenant of marriage alone.
We also notice that this relationship seems filled with strife, disrespect, and division. **Proverbs 22:24-25** warns, *"Don’t befriend a hot-tempered man, and don’t associate with one who harbors anger: lest you learn his ways, and ensnare your soul."* If this person is consistently yelling, belittling you, and siding with others against you, these are not the marks of a healthy, godly relationship. **1 Corinthians 15:33** reminds us, *"Don’t be deceived! 'Evil company corrupts good morals.'"*
Before praying for reconciliation, we must ask: Is this relationship honoring to God? Does it reflect Christ’s love, or is it marked by worldly patterns of selfishness and conflict? If this person is not a believer, **2 Corinthians 6:14** is clear: *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* A relationship with an unbeliever will only lead to heartache and compromise. If they claim to be a believer but their actions do not reflect Christ, **1 John 3:10** tells us, *"In this the children of God are revealed, and the children of the devil. Whoever doesn’t do righteousness is not of God, neither is he who doesn’t love his brother."*
If this relationship is outside of God’s will—whether due to unbelief, immorality, or an unhealthy dynamic—we must pray for wisdom to walk away rather than for God to "fix" what He has not ordained. **Proverbs 3:5-6** says, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* Sometimes, God’s answer is not to mend a broken relationship but to deliver us from it for our own spiritual protection.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this dear one to You, asking first for the gift of salvation if they do not yet know You. Lord, reveal Yourself to them in a powerful way, that they may surrender their life to Jesus Christ as Savior and Lord. If they are already Your child, we pray for a fresh filling of the Holy Spirit, that they may walk in Your wisdom and discernment.
Father, we ask for clarity regarding this relationship. If it is not of You—if it is unequally yoked, marked by sin, or filled with strife—give them the strength to walk away. Do not let them be deceived by emotions or worldly desires, but open their eyes to Your truth. If this relationship is not aligned with Your Word, break its hold over them and set them free. Surround them with godly counsel and believers who will speak truth into their life.
If there is sin in this relationship, convict their heart deeply. If there is fornication, anger, or bitterness, bring repentance. **1 John 1:9** promises that if we confess our sins, You are faithful and just to forgive us. Cleanse them, Lord, and restore their walk with You.
If this relationship *is* one You have ordained—a courtship between a believing man and woman seeking marriage—then we ask for Your healing touch. Softening hearts, Lord. Break the spirit of strife and replace it with patience, kindness, and self-control. Teach them both to communicate in love, to listen with humility, and to serve one another as Christ served the church. But Father, if this is not Your will, do not let them remain in bondage to something You have not blessed.
Fill them with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding. Guard their heart and mind in Christ Jesus. Lead them to a spouse who will love You first and cherish them as You do—if that is Your plan. But above all, let their greatest desire be for *You*, not for a relationship. Satisfy them with Your presence, Lord.
We rebuke any spirit of fear, manipulation, or control in this situation. We bind the enemy’s lies that would keep them in confusion or bondage. By the authority of Jesus Christ, we declare freedom, wisdom, and divine direction over their life.
In the mighty and holy name of Jesus we pray, **Amen.**
Finally, we encourage you to seek the Lord *first* in this matter. Spend time in His Word, pray fervently, and seek counsel from mature believers who will speak truth—not just what you want to hear. **Psalm 37:4** says, *"Also delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart."* When your heart is aligned with His, His desires become yours. Trust Him, even if it means letting go. His plans for you are good—*far* better than we could imagine. **Jeremiah 29:11** reminds us, *"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says Yahweh, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future."* Cling to that promise today.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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