We come before the Lord with heavy hearts after reading your request, for we hear the deep pain, fear, and confusion in your words. First, we must address something of great importance: you closed your prayer with "in Jesus' name," and for this, we give thanks, for it is only through the name of Jesus Christ that we have access to the Father. As Scripture declares, *"There is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5, WEB). It is by His name alone that we are saved, heard, and redeemed. If you have not yet surrendered your life fully to Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so, for *"if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved"* (Romans 10:9, WEB). Without this foundation, prayers can feel empty, and faith can waver, as you’ve expressed. We encourage you to examine your heart and ensure your trust is placed wholly in Christ, for He is faithful even when our feelings suggest otherwise.
Now, we must speak truth in love about the relationship you’ve described. What you are experiencing is not love—it is abuse, both verbal and emotional. The words ### uses—the cursing, degradation, and threats—are not the fruits of a heart submitted to God. Scripture is clear: *"Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but only what is good for building others up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear"* (Ephesians 4:29, WEB). A man who loves as Christ loves does not tear down, intimidate, or instill fear. Instead, *"love is patient and is kind; love doesn’t envy. Love doesn’t brag, is not proud, doesn’t behave itself inappropriately, doesn’t seek its own way, is not provoked, takes no account of evil; doesn’t rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things"* (1 Corinthians 13:4-7, WEB). What you are enduring is the opposite of this. It is sinful, destructive, and dangerous.
We must also address the nature of your relationship. You refer to ### as your "partner," but Scripture does not recognize such a term for romantic relationships outside of the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman. If you are not married, then what you are in is not a partnership but a courtship that should be honorable, pure, and directed toward the goal of a Christ-centered marriage—or, if that is not possible, separation for the sake of holiness. *"Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body"* (1 Corinthians 6:18, WEB). If there is any physical intimacy outside of marriage, this is fornication, and it must be repented of, for *"the body is... for the Lord, and the Lord for the body"* (1 Corinthians 6:13, WEB). A relationship built on disobedience to God cannot thrive, for *"can two walk together, unless they are agreed?"* (Amos 3:3, WEB).
Moreover, your fear of ###’s threats and his volatile behavior is a serious warning. A relationship that leaves you "scared to communicate" is not of God. *"There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear has punishment. He who fears is not made perfect in love"* (1 John 4:18, WEB). If ### is a believer, his behavior must be confronted with truth, and he must repent. If he is not a believer, then you are unequally yoked, and Scripture commands, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). A man who does not submit to Christ cannot lead you in a way that honors God.
You have prayed for this situation for a while and feel unheard, but we assure you: God hears. His silence is not absence. Sometimes, His answer is to deliver us *from* a situation rather than changing the situation itself. Consider that God may be calling you to safety, to freedom, and to a life no longer bound by fear. *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit"* (Psalm 34:18, WEB). He sees your tears, and He is not indifferent to your suffering.
Our prayer for you is this:
*"Heavenly Father, we lift up your daughter before You, knowing that You are a God who sees, hears, and acts on behalf of Your children. Lord, we ask that You would open her eyes to the truth of Your Word and the reality of her situation. Give her the courage to see that what she is enduring is not love, nor is it Your will for her life. Father, we rebuke the spirit of fear that has taken hold of her and declare that You have not given her a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7).
Lord, if ### is not a believer, we pray that You would convict his heart and draw him to repentance—but not at the cost of her safety or spiritual well-being. If he claims to know You, then expose the sin in his life and bring him to true repentance. Soften his heart, yes, but more than that, protect her from his anger and cruelty. Father, if this relationship is not of You, give her the strength to walk away, even if it is painful. Surround her with godly counsel, with sisters in Christ who can support her, and with the resources she needs to break free from this cycle of abuse.
Lord, we pray that You would restore her faith in You. Remind her that You are good, that You are just, and that You have not abandoned her. Heal the wounds in her heart and renew her mind with Your truth. If she has strayed from Your path, convict her gently and lead her back to You. If she is in sin, grant her repentance and a hunger for righteousness.
Father, we ask that You would make a way where there seems to be no way. If this relationship is to end, let it be with clarity, peace, and Your divine protection. If there is hope for redemption, let it be built on Your Word and Your will, not on empty promises or worldly desires. Above all, let Your will be done in her life, for Your glory.
We pray these things in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who came to set the captives free. Amen."*
Our advice to you is this: seek safety first. If ###’s behavior is escalating, do not wait for it to get worse. Reach out to a trusted pastor, a Christian counselor, or a domestic violence hotline. You do not have to endure this alone. Secondly, examine this relationship through the lens of Scripture. Is it honorable? Is it pure? Does it point both of you to Christ? If the answer is no, then you must prayerfully consider whether this is a relationship worth fighting for—or one you need to surrender to God for His intervention.
If ### is unwilling to change, unwilling to seek God, or unwilling to treat you with the love and respect you deserve as a daughter of the King, then you must ask yourself: is this the life God wants for you? *"Don’t be deceived! ‘Evil companionships corrupt good morals’"* (1 Corinthians 15:33, WEB). You are worth more than fear, more than degradation, more than a love that leaves you broken.
Lastly, we urge you to immerse yourself in Scripture and in prayer. *"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6, WEB). God’s ways are higher than ours, and His plans for you are good—even when the road is hard. Cling to Him, and He will never let you go.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
