We understand the deep longing in your heart for reconciliation, and we join you in lifting this burden before the Lord. First, we must gently but firmly address something critical: your prayer does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, through whom alone we have access to the Father and by whom we are saved. The Scriptures declare, *"There is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5, WEB). It is only through faith in Him—believing in His death, burial, and resurrection for our sins—that we can approach God’s throne with confidence. If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so today, for *"whoever will call on the name of the Lord will be saved"* (Romans 10:13, WEB). Without this foundation, even our deepest prayers lack the power and authority granted to us through Christ.
Now, let us speak truth into your situation with love and clarity. The pain you carry reveals how deeply you care, but we must ask: **Is this relationship one that honors God?** You describe a man whose love for money has torn you apart, pursuing "fast money" rather than the Lord or the commitment of a godly marriage. The Bible warns us starkly about the dangers of loving money: *"For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some have been led astray from the faith in their greed, and have pierced themselves through with many sorrows"* (1 Timothy 6:10, WEB). A heart ensnared by greed is not yet ready for the selfless, sacrificial love required in a Christ-centered marriage. Scripture also commands, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). If this man is not walking with the Lord—if his priorities are earthly wealth over heavenly treasure—then reconciliation as you hope for it may not be God’s will.
We also must address the emotional bond you describe. Your inability to "get him out of your heart and soul" may indicate an unhealthy attachment, especially if this relationship was not grounded in Christ from the beginning. The Lord calls us to guard our hearts, for *"out of it springs the issues of life"* (Proverbs 4:23, WEB). If this relationship involved physical intimacy outside of marriage, we urge you to repent and seek God’s forgiveness, for *"flee sexual immorality! Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but whoever commits sexual immorality sins against his own body"* (1 Corinthians 6:18, WEB). True love—*agape* love—seeks the other’s holiness above all else, and sometimes that means stepping back to allow God to work in their life without our interference.
That said, we will pray earnestly for this man’s soul, that the Lord would break the chains of greed and open his eyes to the eternal wealth found in Christ alone. We pray he would repent, turn from his love of money, and surrender to Jesus as Lord. But we also pray for *you*—that God would heal your heart, redirect your affections toward Him, and prepare you for a spouse who loves the Lord above all else. A godly marriage is built on two people submitted to Christ, not on one person dragging another toward faith.
Here is our prayer for you both:
*"Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. We lift up this sister who is burdened by a broken relationship and a heart that longs for reconciliation. Lord, we ask first that You would draw her closer to Yourself, filling the void in her heart with Your perfect love. Help her to release this man into Your hands, trusting that Your will is good, pleasing, and perfect (Romans 12:2).
Father, we pray for this man’s soul. Break the spirit of greed and idolatry in his life. Open his eyes to see that wealth without You is worthless, but a life surrendered to Christ is eternal treasure. Convict him of sin, draw him to repentance, and save him, Lord, for *"what does it profit a man to gain the whole world and forfeit his soul?"* (Mark 8:36, WEB). Soften his heart to receive Your truth, and if it is Your will, prepare him to be a godly husband—one who loves You first and cherishes his wife as Christ loves the Church (Ephesians 5:25).
But Father, if this relationship is not of You, we ask for the strength to let go. Guard her heart from unhealthy attachments and direct her steps toward a man who is *already* pursuing You with his whole heart. Remind her that Your plans for her are for welfare and not for evil, to give her a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11).
Heal the wounds of the past, Lord. Restore her joy and peace. Teach her to delight in You above all else, for *"delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4, WEB). May she seek first Your kingdom and Your righteousness, trusting that all things will be added to her as You see fit (Matthew 6:33).
We rebuke any spirit of loneliness, desperation, or idolatry in this situation. Let Your Holy Spirit fill every empty place, and let Your will be done—on earth as it is in heaven. We ask all this in the powerful, saving name of Jesus Christ, our Lord. Amen."*
Sister, we encourage you to seek the Lord in fasting and prayer, surrendering this desire fully to Him. Spend time in His Word, especially meditating on passages about godly love, marriage, and contentment (e.g., 1 Corinthians 13, Philippians 4:11-13, Proverbs 31). Surround yourself with a community of believers who can speak truth into your life and hold you accountable. If this man is truly the one God has for you, the Lord will make it clear—but *only* if it aligns with His Word and His will.
Finally, remember: **God’s timing is perfect, and His "no" is always protection.** Trust Him, even when it hurts. *"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted, and saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18, WEB). Lean on Him, and He will carry you through.
