We hear the deep pain and desperation in your heart, and we want you to know that God sees you, loves you, and is near to the brokenhearted. Your cry for help is not unheard, but we must first address some critical truths from Scripture to align your heart and this situation with God’s will.
First, we notice that while you addressed this prayer to "God" and "Heavenly Father," you did not pray in the name of Jesus Christ, through whom we have access to the Father. Jesus Himself said, *"No one comes to the Father, except through me"* (John 14:6, WEB). It is only by His name that we can approach God’s throne with confidence (Hebrews 4:16). Without faith in Christ, there is no true relationship with God, no salvation, and no assurance of His promises. If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus as Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now. *"If you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved"* (Romans 10:9, WEB). This is the foundation of all hope—eternal and temporal.
Next, we must address the relationship you are praying about. Scripture is clear that intimacy—both physical and emotional—belongs within the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman. *"Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed is undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4, WEB). If you and this man are not married, then the pregnancy occurred outside of God’s design, and this is sin that must be repented of. This does not mean God does not love you or that He cannot redeem this situation, but it does mean that true repentance and a commitment to holiness are necessary. *"For godly sorrow produces repentance leading to salvation, not to be regretted; but the sorrow of the world produces death"* (2 Corinthians 7:10, WEB).
You are praying for this man to "step up," to "be a father," and to "grow up and be a man." While these desires are understandable, we must ask: Is this man a believer in Jesus Christ? Does he walk in obedience to God’s Word? Scripture warns, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). If he is not a believer, then your hope for him to suddenly act righteously—apart from Christ—is misplaced. Only God can change a heart, and we must pray for his salvation above all else. If he is a believer but is walking in disobedience, then he is in sin and needs to repent. *"If anyone doesn’t provide for his own, and especially his own household, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever"* (1 Timothy 5:8, WEB).
You also mentioned his parents’ influence over him. While it is good to desire that he would prioritize his responsibilities, we must remember that *"a man will leave his father and his mother, and will join with his wife, and the two will become one flesh"* (Genesis 2:24, WEB). If he is not your husband, then he is not yet in a position to "leave and cleave." This further underscores the need for marriage if you are to move forward together in a way that honors God.
As for your faith wavering, we understand the weight of feeling abandoned, but we must remind you that faith is not built on circumstances or the actions of others—it is built on the unchanging character of God. *"Now faith is assurance of things hoped for, proof of things not seen"* (Hebrews 11:1, WEB). Even when people fail us, God does not. *"Behold, God is my helper. The Lord is the one who sustains my soul"* (Psalm 54:4, WEB). Your strength must come from Him, not from this man’s actions.
Finally, you asked for a "sign" that things will be okay. But God does not call us to seek signs; He calls us to seek Him. *"An evil and adulterous generation seeks after a sign, but no sign will be given to it, except the sign of the prophet Jonah"* (Matthew 12:39, WEB). Instead of looking for signs, immerse yourself in His Word, pray for wisdom, and trust in His sovereignty. *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6, WEB).
Now, let us pray for you, for this man, and for this child:
Heavenly Father, we lift this precious sister before You, knowing that You are the God who sees her pain, her fear, and her desperation. Lord, we ask that You would draw her closer to Yourself in this time of trial. If she does not know You as her Savior, we pray that You would open her eyes to the truth of the Gospel—that Jesus Christ died for her sins, was buried, and rose again, and that by faith in Him alone, she can be saved. Fill her with Your Holy Spirit and give her the strength to walk in repentance and obedience.
Father, we pray for this man. If he does not know You, we ask that You would convict his heart and bring him to salvation. If he is a believer but walking in disobedience, we pray that You would break him with godly sorrow and lead him to repentance. Give him the courage to take responsibility for his actions, to seek Your will above all else, and to honor You in his decisions. If it is Your will for him to marry this woman and raise this child in a godly home, then we pray that You would make that path clear and remove all obstacles. But above all, let Your will be done, not ours.
Lord, we pray for this unborn child. Knit this little one together in the womb, and grant health and protection. Raise up godly parents—whether together or separately—to nurture this child in the fear and admonition of the Lord. Surround this situation with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding.
Father, we rebuke the spirit of fear, doubt, and despair that is threatening to overwhelm our sister. We declare that You are her Provider, her Protector, and her Peace. Remind her that You have not abandoned her, even when it feels that way. Strengthen her faith, Lord, and help her to trust in You alone.
We ask all these things in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who lives and reigns with You and the Holy Spirit, one God, forever and ever. Amen.
Sister, we urge you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or mature believers in your life. If you are not already part of a Bible-believing church, we strongly encourage you to find one where you can be discipled, supported, and held accountable. You do not have to walk this path alone. *"Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ"* (Galatians 6:2, WEB).
If this man is unwilling to repent, commit to you in marriage, or take responsibility, then you must trust God to provide for you and this child. He is more than able. *"My God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus"* (Philippians 4:19, WEB). Do not place your hope in this man, but in the Lord, who will never leave you nor forsake you.
We are praying for you, and we trust that God will guide you into His perfect will. Stay strong in the faith, and keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, the author and finisher of your faith.
