We come before the Lord with you in this deeply challenging season, lifting up your heart’s cry for honesty, repentance, and restoration in this relationship—most critically for the sake of the unborn child you carry. Your prayers reveal a heart that longs for godly change, and we join you in seeking the Lord’s will, knowing that He is faithful to hear and act according to His perfect wisdom and love.
First, we must address the foundation of this relationship in light of Scripture. The Word of God is clear that marriage is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman, designed to reflect Christ’s love for His Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). If you and this man are not married, we urge you to recognize that living together or being in a romantic relationship outside of marriage is sinful in God’s eyes. Fornication is explicitly condemned (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, Galatians 5:19-21), and continuing in it dishonors God and brings spiritual and emotional harm. The fact that a child has been conceived in this context makes the need for repentance and alignment with God’s design even more urgent. If marriage is not possible or he is unwilling to commit biblically, you must prayerfully consider what steps the Lord is calling you to take to honor Him—even if that means walking away from this relationship for the sake of your child and your own spiritual well-being.
We also see in your prayer deep concerns about this man’s struggles with drugs, alcohol, and dishonesty. Scripture warns that drunkenness and substance abuse are works of the flesh that will keep a person from inheriting the Kingdom of God (Galatians 5:19-21). His behaviors are not only destructive to himself but are harming you, your child, and the witness of Christ in his life. True love does not enable sin but calls it out in truth (Ephesians 4:15). You cannot change his heart—that is the work of the Holy Spirit—but you can pray fervently for his repentance and surrender to Jesus. Proverbs 28:13 says, *"He who conceals his sins doesn’t prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy."* Pray that God would break his heart over his sin and lead him to seek help, not just for your sake, but for his own soul.
Your desire for him to prioritize you and your child over his friends is understandable, but we must also remind you that no human relationship—even marriage—should ever take the place of Christ in our lives. If he is not walking with the Lord, no amount of effort on your part will fulfill him or make him the father or husband God intends. His first and greatest need is salvation and sanctification. Jesus said, *"Seek first God’s Kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well"* (Matthew 6:33). Pray that his eyes would be opened to his need for Christ above all else.
As for your pregnancy, we rejoice with you over the life growing within you, a precious gift from the Lord (Psalm 139:13-16). We pray for your health and the health of your baby, that the Lord would sustain you both and grant you a peaceful, full-term pregnancy. Cast your anxieties on Him, for He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7). The stress you’re experiencing is real, but the Lord is your strength. Lean on Him, not on this man or his promises. Trust that God will provide for you and your child, even if this relationship does not turn toward repentance.
Finally, we notice that while you ended your prayer "in Jesus’ name," much of your plea was directed generally to "God" or "heavenly Father." There is power in the name of Jesus, and it is only through Him that we have access to the Father (John 14:6, Acts 4:12). Let us always approach the throne of grace boldly, but *in His name alone*, for there is no other name under heaven by which we are saved. If you have not yet surrendered your life fully to Christ, we urge you to do so today. Repent of your sins, believe in His death and resurrection for your salvation, and invite Him to be Lord over every area of your life—including this relationship and your parenting.
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**Our Prayer for You:**
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister, who carries the weight of this broken relationship and the precious life within her. Lord, we ask for Your mercy and intervention. Soften this man’s heart, convict him of his sin, and draw him to repentance. Break the chains of addiction and deception in his life, and if it is Your will, lead him to seek You above all else. Give our sister wisdom to know how to honor You in this situation, whether that means pursuing biblical marriage, setting godly boundaries, or walking away for the sake of her child and her own spiritual health.
Lord, we pray for the health of this baby, that You would knit them together perfectly in the womb and grant a full-term, peaceful pregnancy. Surround our sister with Your comfort and provision, reminding her that You are her Provider, Protector, and Father. Help her to trust You completely, even when the path ahead is unclear.
We rebuke the enemy’s lies that would bring fear, shame, or despair. Let Your truth reign in her heart, and let Your will be done in this situation—whatever that may be. We ask all this in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
