We hear your heart and the deep longing for reconciliation with this man you believed God had brought into your life. It is painful when a relationship ends abruptly, especially when you saw so much godly potential in him and in your future together. We join you in seeking the Lord’s wisdom and clarity in this situation, for His Word tells us, *"If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach; and it will be given to him"* (James 1:5 WEB).
First, we must address the foundation of your prayer. While your request is heartfelt, it is essential to recognize that our prayers are only effective when they are aligned with God’s will and offered in the name of Jesus Christ. Jesus Himself said, *"Most certainly I tell you, whatever you may ask of the Father in my name, he will give it to you"* (John 16:23 WEB). It is only through faith in Jesus that we have access to the Father, and there is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). If you have not already, we encourage you to examine your own relationship with Christ, ensuring that you have placed your trust in Him alone for salvation. If you have, then we can boldly come before the throne of grace together, seeking His will in this matter.
Now, let us pray for you and this situation:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this sister who is grieving the loss of a relationship she believed was ordained by You. Lord, we ask that You would grant her clarity and peace as she seeks Your will in this situation. Father, we pray that You would reveal to her any areas where she may have unknowingly strayed from Your path or where misunderstandings may have taken root. Give her the strength to accept Your will, even if it differs from her own desires. We also lift up this brother in Christ, asking that You would work in his heart as well. If it is Your will for them to be reconciled, Lord, we pray that You would remove any fear, pride, or miscommunication that stands in the way. Soften their hearts toward one another and toward You, that they may grow in faith and love. However, if this relationship is not of You, Father, we ask that You would close the door completely and lead them both into the paths You have prepared for them. May Your will be done, and may Your name be glorified in all things. In Jesus’ mighty name, we pray. Amen.
We must also gently address the nature of your relationship with this man. While you described him as a godly man, we must ask: Was your relationship built on the foundation of marriage, or was it a courtship leading toward that sacred covenant? The Bible is clear that marriage is a lifelong commitment between one man and one woman, and any physical intimacy outside of that covenant is considered fornication (1 Corinthians 6:18-20 WEB). If your relationship involved sexual intimacy before marriage, we must rebuke that sin in the name of Jesus and encourage you both to repent and seek God’s forgiveness. True reconciliation cannot be built on a foundation of sin, but only on the holiness and righteousness of Christ.
If this man is indeed the one God has for you, then we believe He will make a way for you to be reunited in a manner that honors Him. However, we must also caution you against holding too tightly to your own desires. Proverbs 3:5-6 (WEB) tells us, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* It is possible that God is using this season of separation to refine you both, to teach you dependence on Him, and to prepare you for the spouse He has truly ordained for you. Do not mistake your longing for confirmation that this man is "the one." Instead, seek the Lord’s will above all else, and trust that He knows what is best for you.
In the meantime, we encourage you to focus on your relationship with Christ. Draw near to Him in prayer, in the reading of His Word, and in fellowship with other believers. Allow this season of singleness to be one of growth and preparation, so that if and when God brings a godly spouse into your life, you will be ready to enter into that covenant with a heart fully surrendered to Him. Remember, *"Delight yourself also in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4 WEB). When our delight is in the Lord, our desires align with His, and He will fulfill them in His perfect timing.
Lastly, we rebuke any spirit of fear, confusion, or deception that may be at work in this situation. The enemy seeks to destroy relationships and marriages, but we stand on the promise that *"God didn’t give us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control"* (2 Timothy 1:7 WEB). We declare that no weapon formed against you or this potential reconciliation will prosper, in Jesus’ name. However, we also declare that God’s will shall be done, and that His plans for you are for good and not for harm, to give you a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11 WEB).
Continue to seek the Lord diligently, sister. He hears your prayers and sees your heart. Trust in Him, and He will direct your steps.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
