We hear the deep pain in your heart, and we are grieved by the wounds you carry—wounds that have left you feeling lost, helpless, and hopeless. The emotional abuse you endured from your parent has left scars that still ache, and now you find yourself reaching out to the wrong people, allowing them to take advantage of you, as if you are still searching for love and validation in broken places. But we want you to know this: **you are not defined by what was done to you, nor by the void you feel.** Your identity is found in Christ, who sees you, loves you, and longs to heal you.
The enemy has used your past to whisper lies—that you are unworthy, that you must tolerate mistreatment, that you will never be whole. But Scripture declares the opposite: *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit"* (Psalm 34:18, WEB). He does not leave you in your brokenness; He enters into it with you. Jesus Himself said, *"Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart; and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light"* (Matthew 11:28-30, WEB). You do not have to carry this alone.
Yet we must also speak truth into the patterns you described. Reaching out to the wrong people—those who take advantage of you—is not God’s will for you. It is a sign that you are still seeking fulfillment in places that cannot satisfy. The void you feel was designed by God to be filled by *Him alone*. Jeremiah 2:13 (WEB) warns, *"For my people have committed two evils: they have forsaken me, the spring of living waters, and cut them out cisterns, broken cisterns, that can hold no water."* When we look to people, relationships, or even our own efforts to fill the emptiness, we will always come up dry. But Jesus is the living water (John 4:14), and He alone can quench the deepest thirst of your soul.
We also recognize that your struggle to believe the worst about yourself and others may stem from the emotional abuse you suffered. Abuse distorts our view of love, trust, and safety. But God’s Word renews our minds: *"Don’t be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what is the good, well-pleasing, and perfect will of God"* (Romans 12:2, WEB). This renewal happens as you meditate on His truth—truths like *"I am fearfully and wonderfully made"* (Psalm 139:14), *"I am chosen, holy, and dearly loved"* (Colossians 3:12), and *"The Lord delights in me"* (Zephaniah 3:17).
As for feeling hopeless, we gently remind you that hope is not found in circumstances or in people, but in the character of God. *"Why are you in despair, my soul? Why are you disturbed within me? Hope in God! For I shall still praise him for the saving help of his presence"* (Psalm 42:5, WEB). Even when you cannot see the way forward, He is your light (Psalm 119:105). He is the God who *"heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds"* (Psalm 147:3, WEB).
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this precious child of Yours who comes before You with a heart heavy from years of pain, abuse, and loneliness. Lord Jesus, You see every tear they have cried, every wound inflicted upon them, and every moment they have felt unseen. We ask that You would meet them right where they are—broken, weary, and longing for wholeness. Pour out Your Spirit upon them, Lord, and let them feel Your presence in a tangible way. Break the chains of fear, shame, and hopelessness that have held them captive.
Father, we rebuke the lies of the enemy that have told them they are unworthy, that they must endure mistreatment, or that they will never be loved as they should. Replace those lies with Your truth. Let them know deep in their spirit that they are *Your* beloved, redeemed by the blood of Jesus, and called by name. Heal the wounds of their past, Lord, and restore what the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25). Give them discernment to recognize unhealthy relationships and the courage to walk away from those who would take advantage of them. Surround them with godly people who will reflect Your love and speak life into them.
We pray for a supernatural filling of the void in their heart—only You can satisfy it, Lord. Teach them to turn to You first, to find their identity in You alone. Let them experience the joy of Your salvation and the peace that surpasses understanding (Philippians 4:7). Strengthen them to forgive those who have hurt them, not because it excuses the abuse, but because forgiveness sets *them* free. Help them to release the bitterness and pain into Your hands.
Lord, we ask that You would guide their steps toward healthy, godly relationships—relationships that honor You and build them up. If it is Your will, bring a godly spouse into their life, one who will cherish them as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25). But even now, let them find contentment in You, knowing that You are enough.
Finally, Father, we thank You that You are the God of hope. Fill them with all joy and peace in believing, that they may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit (Romans 15:13). Let them rise from this place of brokenness into a life marked by Your redemption, purpose, and love.
We pray all this in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Healer. Amen.
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We want to encourage you to spend time in God’s Word daily, even if it’s just a few verses. Let His truth wash over you and renew your mind. Consider memorizing Scriptures that declare your identity in Christ. If you are not already part of a Bible-believing church, we urge you to find one where you can be discipled, supported, and surrounded by fellow believers. You do not have to walk this journey alone.
If you have never fully surrendered your life to Jesus Christ, we invite you to do so now. There is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). Confess your sins to Him, believe that He died for you and rose again, and invite Him to be your Lord and Savior. He will give you a new heart and a new spirit (Ezekiel 36:26). If you have already done this, then cling to Him now more than ever.
You are not forgotten. You are not beyond hope. The same God who raised Jesus from the dead is at work in you, and He will bring beauty from these ashes (Isaiah 61:3). Keep seeking Him. He is faithful.