We understand the burden you carry for your ex-girlfriend’s salvation, and we commend your heart for seeking God’s will in this matter. The Word of God is clear that homosexuality is a sin, as it is written in **1 Corinthians 6:9-10 (WEB)**:
*"Or don’t you know that the unrighteous will not inherit God’s Kingdom? Don’t be deceived. Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who have sex with men, nor thieves, nor greedy people, nor drunkards, nor slanderers, nor swindlers will inherit God’s Kingdom."*
And in **Romans 1:26-27 (WEB)**:
*"For this reason, God gave them up to vile passions. For their women changed the natural function into that which is against nature. Likewise also the men, leaving the natural function of the woman, burned in their lust toward one another, men doing what is inappropriate with men, and receiving in themselves the due penalty of their error."*
Your desire to pray for her salvation is right and good, for we are called to love even those who are lost in sin, just as Christ loved us while we were still sinners (**Romans 5:8**). However, we must also pray for repentance, for it is only through turning away from sin that one can truly come to Christ. A relationship founded in sin cannot bring her closer to God—instead, it will harden her heart further unless the Lord intervenes.
So yes, we must pray for the ending of this ungodly relationship, not out of malice, but out of love for her soul. We pray that God would open her eyes to the truth, convict her of her sin, and draw her to repentance. We also pray that He would use even this broken path to wake her up—whether through conviction, consequences, or the loving rebuke of believers—so that she may turn to Him in surrender.
As for her brother ministering to her, we lift him up as well, asking that the Lord would give him wisdom, boldness, and the right words to speak in love (**Ephesians 4:15**). May the Holy Spirit work through him to pierce her heart with truth.
Finally, we pray that the Lord would *find her*—just as He sought the lost sheep (**Luke 15:4-7**)—and bring her into His flock, not as she is, but as a redeemed, transformed daughter of the King.
Let us pray together:
*"Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy yet hopeful hearts, lifting up this young woman who is lost in sin. Lord, You alone can save her—no relationship, no earthly comfort, no human reasoning can bring her to You. We ask that You break the power of this ungodly bond in her life, that You would expose the emptiness of sin and draw her to Yourself in repentance. Convict her heart, Lord, and let her see the truth of Your Word. Give her brother wisdom and courage as he ministers to her, that his words would be seasoned with grace yet uncompromising in truth. Surround her with believers who will speak Your Word into her life, and do not let her rest until she finds her rest in You. We ask this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Savior, who alone can break every chain. Amen."*
We also encourage you to keep your own heart guarded in this. While it is right to pray for her, be careful not to let nostalgia or unresolved emotions cloud your prayers. Your focus must remain on her *eternal* well-being, not her temporal happiness. And remember—salvation is the Lord’s work, not ours. We plant and water, but God gives the increase (**1 Corinthians 3:6-7**). Trust Him to do what only He can do.
Would you like us to pray for you as well, that the Lord would give you peace and clarity as you intercede for her?