We stand with you in this spiritual battle for your family, lifting your heartfelt cries to the Lord and declaring His truth over this situation. Your love for your children—especially your son with disabilities—and your commitment to biblical principles are evident, and we honor your faithfulness in seeking God’s intervention. This is not merely a conflict between people but a spiritual attack meant to divide, deceive, and destroy what God has ordained. The enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), but we know that *"no weapon that is formed against you will prevail; and you will condemn every tongue that rises against you in judgment. This is the heritage of Yahweh’s servants, and their righteousness is from me,"* says Yahweh (Isaiah 54:17, WEB).
First, we must address the spiritual strongholds at work here. The behaviors you describe—narcissism, manipulation, greed, and division—are not of God but are fruits of the flesh and the enemy’s schemes. The Bible warns us that *"bad company corrupts good morals"* (1 Corinthians 15:33, WEB), and we see this playing out as this young man and his mother sow discord in your family. Proverbs 6:16-19 tells us that God hates *"a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are swift in running to mischief, a false witness who utters lies, and he who sows discord among brothers."* This is exactly what is happening, and we must rebuke it in the name of Jesus. The enemy is using this young man and his mother as tools to create strife, but we declare that their plans will be exposed and thwarted. *"For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places"* (Ephesians 6:12, WEB). We must fight this battle on our knees, armed with the Word of God and the authority of Jesus Christ.
We also want to affirm your wisdom in recognizing that this young man is not a godly match for your daughter. The Bible is clear that believers should not be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14). Even if he claims to be a Christian, his actions do not reflect the fruit of the Spirit—*"love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control"* (Galatians 5:22-23, WEB). Instead, his behavior aligns with the works of the flesh: *"sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures, idolatry, sorcery, hostility, strife, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, factions, envy, drunkenness, carousing, and similar things"* (Galatians 5:19-21, WEB). A relationship built on manipulation, control, and rebellion against godly authority is not from the Lord. We pray that your daughter’s eyes will be opened to the truth—that this young man is leading her away from the Lord and from the family God has given her. Pray that the Holy Spirit convicts her heart and reminds her of the truth she was raised in. *"Do not be deceived: ‘Evil company corrupts good morals’"* (1 Corinthians 15:33, WEB). Ask God to break the emotional and spiritual ties that bind her to this unhealthy relationship and to restore her to a place of submission to His will.
Your pain over the division being sown in your family is understandable, especially as this young man and his mother seek to turn your daughters against their brother and against you. This is a direct attack on the family unit, which God designed to reflect His love and authority. The Bible commands children to *"honor your father and mother,"* which is the first commandment with a promise: *"that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth"* (Ephesians 6:2-3, WEB). The enemy knows that if he can destroy the honor and respect within a family, he can create chaos and open the door to further sin. But we declare that your daughters will remember the truth they were raised in. Pray that God softens their hearts and reminds them of the love and sacrifices you have made for them. Ask the Lord to expose the lies they are being fed and to replace them with His truth. *"The heart of man plans his way, but Yahweh establishes his steps"* (Proverbs 16:9, WEB). Trust that God is working even in this darkness to bring about His purposes.
We also want to address the issue of grace and forgiveness. You mentioned that this young man has a past and has served time, and you extended grace to him. This is commendable, as we are all called to show grace and mercy (Colossians 3:13). However, grace does not mean enabling sin or allowing someone to continue in destructive behavior. True biblical grace is accompanied by repentance and transformation. If this young man were truly repentant, his life would reflect the change that comes from the Holy Spirit. Instead, his actions show a hardened heart and a refusal to submit to godly authority. The Bible tells us, *"If anyone will not welcome you or listen to your words, leave that home or town and shake the dust off your feet"* (Matthew 10:14, WEB). Sometimes, the most loving thing we can do is to set boundaries and remove ourselves—or our loved ones—from toxic influences. You are not being unloving by praying for this young man to be removed from your daughter’s life; you are acting in obedience to God’s call to protect your family from harm.
Now, let us pray together over this situation:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this mother and her family. Lord, You see the pain, the division, and the spiritual attack that is taking place. We ask that You intervene with Your mighty hand and break every scheme of the enemy. Father, we rebuke the spirits of manipulation, control, narcissism, and division that are operating through this young man and his mother. We bind these spirits in the name of Jesus and command them to flee. *"Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you"* (James 4:7, WEB). Lord, expose every lie and bring to light every hidden motive. Let the truth prevail in this situation.
Father, we pray for this mother’s daughters—especially the one entangled in this unhealthy relationship. Open her eyes, Lord, to see this young man for who he truly is. Break the emotional and spiritual ties that bind her to him. Softening her heart to hear Your voice and to remember the truth she was raised in. Lord, restore her relationship with her mother and her brother. Let her see the beauty of Your design for family and the danger of aligning herself with those who seek to destroy it. *"Turn my eyes away from looking at worthless things. Revive me in Your ways"* (Psalm 119:37, WEB).
We pray for the younger daughter as well, Lord. Protect her mind and heart from the poison being sown by this young man and his mother. Remind her of the love she has for her brother and the respect she has for her mother. Do not let the enemy steal the joy and unity that once defined this family. *"Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brothers to live together in unity!"* (Psalm 133:1, WEB). Restore that unity, Lord, and let it be a testimony of Your faithfulness.
Father, we ask that You remove this young man from their lives completely. Close every door that would allow him or his mother to continue influencing this family. If there is any open door through sin, unforgiveness, or rebellion, we ask that You reveal it and give this family the strength to repent and close it. *"Search me, God, and know my heart. Try me, and know my thoughts. See if there is any wicked way in me, and lead me in the everlasting way"* (Psalm 139:23-24, WEB).
We pray for this mother’s strength and peace. Fill her with Your Holy Spirit, Lord, and let her rest in the knowledge that You are fighting this battle for her. *"Yahweh will fight for you, and you shall be still"* (Exodus 14:14, WEB). Give her wisdom to know how to respond to her daughters with love and truth. Let her words be seasoned with grace but firm in righteousness. *"Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one"* (Colossians 4:6, WEB).
Father, we declare Your protection over this family. No weapon formed against them shall prosper. We plead the blood of Jesus over their home, their minds, and their relationships. *"He who dwells in the secret place of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of Yahweh, ‘He is my refuge and my fortress; my God, in whom I trust’"* (Psalm 91:1-2, WEB). Let this family find their refuge in You, Lord, and trust in Your deliverance.
We pray for godly spouses for these daughters—men who love You wholeheartedly and will lead their future families in righteousness. Prepare their hearts, Lord, to recognize and receive the husbands You have for them. Let them not settle for counterfeit love but wait patiently for Your best. *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4, WEB).
Finally, Lord, we thank You for Your faithfulness. We thank You that You hear our prayers and that You are working all things together for the good of those who love You (Romans 8:28). We declare victory, breakthrough, restoration, peace, love, and joy over this family in the name of Jesus. Let this situation be a testimony of Your power and Your goodness. *"Call to me, and I will answer you, and will show you great and difficult things, which you do not know"* (Jeremiah 33:3, WEB). We trust You, Lord, and we give You all the glory.
In the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.
