We come before the Lord with you in this time of deep distress, lifting your heart’s cry to the Father who sees all, knows all, and holds all power to deliver and restore. Your plea for protection, healing, and stability is heard by Him who promises to be a refuge in trouble, a very present help in times of need. We stand with you in the mighty name of Jesus, the only name under heaven by which we are saved and through whom we boldly approach the throne of grace. It is only through Christ that we have access to the Father, and it is in His name we pray and find hope.
Your husband’s struggle with alcohol and deception is a heavy burden, one that has left you confused, wounded, and seeking God’s intervention. The Word of God speaks clearly to these struggles, offering both truth and a path forward. First, we must acknowledge that alcohol addiction is a snare that enslaves, and deception is a tool of the enemy to bring destruction. Proverbs 20:1 warns, *"Wine is a mocker, and beer is a brawler. Whoever is led astray by them is not wise."* His actions are not only harming himself but are tearing at the covenant of marriage, which God intended to reflect Christ’s love for the Church—a love that is faithful, sacrificial, and true. Ephesians 5:25-29 calls husbands to love their wives *"even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for her... even as the Lord does the assembly. For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones."* His behavior is a grievous departure from this calling, and it is not of God.
Yet, we do not lose hope, for our God is mighty to save. The same power that raised Christ from the dead can break the chains of addiction and renew a heart of stone. Ezekiel 36:26 promises, *"I will also give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit within you. I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you a heart of flesh."* We pray fervently for your husband’s repentance—that God would convict his heart, shatter the stronghold of alcohol, and replace his deceit with a spirit of truth and humility. May he come to the end of himself and turn to Christ, who alone can set him free.
But we must also speak truth into your situation with clarity and love. The manipulation, control, and lies you describe are not only sinful but abusive. While we pray for your husband’s salvation and transformation, we also urge you to seek safety and wisdom. God does not call you to endure cruelty or remain in harm’s way. Proverbs 22:3 says, *"A prudent man sees danger and hides himself; but the simple pass on, and suffer for it."* If your husband’s behavior is putting you or others in danger, it is wise—and biblical—to seek protection, whether through trusted believers, counselors, or authorities. You are not responsible for his choices, nor can you change his heart—only God can do that. Your responsibility is to honor God in your own life, seek His will, and walk in obedience, even if that means setting boundaries for your well-being.
As for your confusion and the uncertainty of which way to go, we turn to Proverbs 3:5-6: *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* Lean not on your own understanding, but on the Lord, who promises to direct your steps. Spend time in His Word, in prayer, and in the company of wise, mature believers who can offer godly counsel. Psalm 32:8 assures us, *"I will instruct you and teach you in the way which you shall go. I will counsel you with my eye on you."*
We also lift up your need for healing—emotionally, spiritually, and even physically. The stress of this situation has likely taken a toll, but God is your healer. Psalm 147:3 declares, *"He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds."* Rest in His promise to restore you, to give you peace that surpasses understanding, and to provide for your every need. Philippians 4:19 reminds us, *"My God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus."* Trust Him for financial stability, security, and prosperity—not as the world defines it, but as He provides according to His perfect will.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus, lifting up our sister who is weary, confused, and in need of Your mighty hand. Lord, You see the depths of her pain and the brokenness in her marriage. We ask for Your protection over her—spirit, soul, and body. Surround her with Your angels, Lord, and be a shield around her. Deliver her from every scheme of the enemy and give her discernment to recognize truth from lies.
Father, we plead for her husband’s soul. Break the chains of alcohol addiction that bind him, Lord. Convict his heart of sin and lead him to repentance. Soften his heart of stone and replace it with a heart of flesh, one that seeks You above all else. Expose every deception, Lord, and bring him to a place of brokenness before You. May he turn from his wicked ways and surrender to Jesus Christ as his Lord and Savior. Restore what the locusts have eaten in their marriage, if it be Your will, but above all, let Your will be done.
Lord, we ask for wisdom for our sister. Show her the path she should take. If she needs to seek safety, provide the way. If she needs to set boundaries, give her the strength. If she needs to forgive, fill her with Your grace. Guide her steps, Father, and let her not lean on her own understanding but trust in You wholly.
We pray for her healing—emotional wounds, spiritual weariness, and any physical toll this has taken. You are Jehovah-Rapha, the God who heals. Bind up her broken heart and restore her joy. Provide for her financially, Lord. Open doors no man can shut and supply all her needs according to Your riches in glory.
Father, we rebuke the spirit of confusion, manipulation, and addiction in Jesus’ name. We declare that no weapon formed against her shall prosper. We speak peace into her storm and trust into her heart. Let her know, beyond any doubt, that You are with her, You are for her, and You will never leave her nor forsake her.
In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray, believing and trusting in Your power to save, deliver, and restore. Amen.
Finally, we encourage you to stay rooted in the Word of God and in fellowship with believers who can support and guide you. If you are not already connected to a Bible-believing church, we urge you to seek one out. You do not have to walk this path alone. God has placed you in the body of Christ for a reason—let His people come alongside you in prayer, counsel, and support.
If your husband refuses to repent or change, remember that God’s will for you is to live in peace and holiness. 1 Corinthians 7:15 says, *"Yet if the unbeliever departs, let there be separation. The brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us in peace."* Your first allegiance is to Christ, and He calls you to walk in righteousness, even when it is difficult.
Stand firm in faith, dear sister. The Lord is your strength and your song. He will lead you through this valley and into His light. Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, the author and perfecter of your faith. He will not fail you.
