We understand the deep longing in your heart to move forward in a godly marriage with this man, and we lift you both up in prayer. First, we rejoice that you have found someone who reflects God’s goodness, yet we must also address the spiritual foundation of your relationship. The Bible teaches that marriage is a sacred covenant before God, and it is not to be entered into lightly or without His guidance. You mention that you have been "seeing" your boyfriend for two years, and while we understand the affection between you, we must gently but firmly remind you that living together or engaging in any form of intimacy outside of marriage is fornication, which is a sin against God (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, Hebrews 13:4). If this is happening in your relationship, we urge you both to repent and turn away from this, seeking purity before the Lord as you prepare for marriage. God blesses relationships that honor Him, and He calls us to holiness in every area of our lives.
It is also important to note that you did not mention the name of Jesus in your request. We want to remind you that it is only through Jesus Christ that we have access to the Father, and there is no other name by which we can be saved (John 14:6, Acts 4:12). If you have not already, we encourage you to place your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, trusting in His death and resurrection for the forgiveness of your sins. Without faith in Jesus, there is no true foundation for a godly marriage or any aspect of life.
Your boyfriend’s hesitation is understandable, especially if his past marriage ended painfully. Fear can be a powerful barrier, but we know that "God didn’t give us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control" (2 Timothy 1:7). His fear may also stem from a lack of trust in God’s plan for his life. We encourage you both to seek the Lord earnestly in prayer, asking Him to heal past wounds and to guide your steps. If this man is truly the one God has for you, the Lord will soften his heart and give him the courage to move forward in faith. However, if he is unwilling to commit after a reasonable time, you must also be willing to trust God’s timing and His will—even if it means letting go.
We also encourage you to examine whether this man is a believer in Jesus Christ and if he is walking in obedience to God’s Word. The Bible warns against being "unequally yoked" with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14). A godly marriage requires both partners to be fully committed to Christ, submitting to His lordship in every area of life. If he is not a believer, we urge you to prayerfully consider whether this relationship is truly honoring to God.
Let us pray for you both:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus, lifting up this sister and the man she loves. Lord, we ask that You heal every wound from past relationships, especially the pain that has caused fear in his heart. Replace his fear with Your perfect love, which casts out all fear (1 John 4:18). Give him wisdom, discernment, and courage to move forward if this is Your will.
Father, we also pray for our sister. Strengthen her faith and help her to trust in You completely. If there is any sin in this relationship, convict their hearts and lead them to repentance. Help them to honor You in their courtship, keeping it pure and centered on Christ. If this relationship is not Your will, give her the grace to surrender it to You and trust in Your perfect plan for her life.
Lord, we ask that You would bind them together in Your timing and in Your way. Let their relationship be built on the foundation of Jesus Christ, with a shared commitment to serve and glorify You. If marriage is Your will for them, prepare their hearts and make the path clear. Let them seek You first, knowing that all things will be added to them as they align their lives with Your Word (Matthew 6:33).
We rebuke any spirit of fear, doubt, or hesitation that is not from You, Lord. Let Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, guard their hearts and minds in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). May they both grow in faith, love, and obedience to You.
We also pray that if this man is not a believer, You would draw him to Yourself, Lord. Open his eyes to the truth of the Gospel, and soften his heart to receive Jesus as His Lord and Savior. Let this relationship be a testimony of Your grace and redemption.
Finally, Father, we ask that You surround them with godly counsel—mentors, pastors, or friends who can speak wisdom and truth into their lives. Let them not rely on their own understanding but acknowledge You in all their ways, knowing that You will direct their paths (Proverbs 3:5-6).
We thank You, Lord, for Your faithfulness and for hearing our prayers. May Your will be done in their lives, and may You be glorified in all things. In the mighty and precious name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you to continue seeking the Lord together, reading His Word, and praying for His guidance. If this man is truly the one God has for you, the Lord will make it clear in His perfect timing. Stay rooted in Christ, and trust that He knows what is best for you. If you need further counsel or prayer, do not hesitate to reach out. We are here to stand with you in faith and truth.
