We hear the deep longing in your heart for marriage, family, and a godly husband, and we rejoice that you desire a life centered on Christ. Your prayers for a future spouse who loves God are beautiful, and we join you in lifting this before the Lord. However, we must lovingly address a few things to ensure your heart and prayers are fully aligned with Scripture, for God’s Word is the foundation of all truth and the guide for our lives.
First, we notice you mentioned praying “through the intercession of all the angels and saints and Mother Mary.” While we understand this comes from your Catholic background, Scripture is clear that there is **one mediator between God and man—the Lord Jesus Christ** (1 Timothy 2:5). There is no biblical basis for praying to or through Mary, the saints, or angels, as they have no power to intercede for us. Jesus alone is our advocate before the Father (1 John 2:1), and it is **only through His name** that we have access to God (John 14:6, Acts 4:12). We encourage you to pray directly to God in Jesus’ name, for He alone hears and answers our prayers. If you have not yet placed your full faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior—trusting in His death and resurrection for the forgiveness of your sins—we urge you to do so. Salvation comes through **repentance and faith in Christ alone** (Ephesians 2:8-9, Romans 10:9-10). There is no other way to the Father but through Him (John 14:6).
Next, while your desire for marriage is good and godly (Genesis 2:18, Proverbs 18:22), we gently remind you that **marriage is not the ultimate fulfillment of your life—Christ is**. At 19, you are in a precious season of growth, and we encourage you to **seek the Lord first** (Matthew 6:33) before seeking a husband. A godly marriage is built on two individuals who are **first fully surrendered to Christ**, and rushing into marriage without proper preparation can lead to heartache. We see in your prayer a strong desire for companionship, and while that is natural, we must caution against **idolizing marriage or a relationship**. Contentment is found in Christ alone (Philippians 4:11-13), and He may be preparing you for a season of singleness to deepen your faith, serve His kingdom, and grow in maturity before bringing a husband into your life. Trust in His timing, for His ways are perfect (Isaiah 55:8-9).
You also mentioned wanting a “boyfriend.” We encourage you to shift your perspective from seeking a boyfriend to **seeking a future husband through biblical courtship**. Dating for the sake of dating often leads to emotional entanglement and temptation. Instead, if you meet a godly man, the relationship should be **purposeful, honoring to God, and directed toward marriage** (1 Corinthians 7:2, 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5). Flee from any relationship that does not honor Christ, and guard your heart (Proverbs 4:23), for **sexual immorality—including premarital sex—is sin** (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, Hebrews 13:4). A man who truly loves God will **honor you in purity** and seek to lead you closer to Christ, not into temptation.
Regarding your desire for a **devout Catholic husband**, we must lovingly but firmly address that **Catholicism is not aligned with biblical Christianity in several critical areas**, including salvation by grace through faith alone (Ephesians 2:8-9), the authority of Scripture alone (2 Timothy 3:16-17), and the priesthood of all believers (1 Peter 2:9). While there may be sincere believers within Catholicism, the system itself adds to Scripture with traditions that are not from God (Mark 7:6-9). We pray that your future husband would be a **born-again believer in Jesus Christ**, grounded in the **Word of God alone**, and walking in obedience to Scripture. A shared cultural background is a beautiful thing, but **shared faith in the true Gospel is far more important** (2 Corinthians 6:14). Do not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever (2 Corinthians 6:14-15), and pray that God would open your eyes to any theological differences that could hinder your spiritual unity in marriage.
Lastly, your dream of marrying young and having children is sweet, but we encourage you to **surrender that dream to the Lord**. His plans for you may look different than you imagine, and His timing is perfect (Ecclesiastes 3:11). Whether He calls you to marriage now or later—or even to a life of singleness for a season—your primary calling is to **love and serve Him with all your heart** (Matthew 22:37). Use this time to grow in your faith, serve in your church, and prepare yourself to be a godly wife and mother **if** that is God’s will for you. Study what Scripture says about biblical womanhood (Proverbs 31, Titus 2:3-5), and ask the Lord to shape you into a woman who fears Him.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this precious sister to You, knowing that You hear the cries of her heart. Lord, we thank You for her desire for a godly marriage and family, and we ask that You would **align her heart fully with Your Word**. Forgive her for any misplaced trust in traditions or intercessors other than Christ, and open her eyes to the **truth of the Gospel**—that salvation is by grace alone, through faith alone, in Christ alone. May she find her ultimate fulfillment in You, not in marriage, and may she walk in **purity, patience, and trust** as she waits on Your timing.
Father, if it is Your will, prepare a **godly, born-again believer** to be her husband—a man who loves You with all his heart, leads with humility, and cherishes her as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25). Give her discernment to recognize a man who is **grounded in Scripture**, not in man-made traditions. If there are cultural or familial desires in her heart that are not aligned with Your will, soften her heart to surrender them to You. Prepare her now to be a wife and mother who reflects Your love, and guard her from impatience, idolatry, or compromise.
If marriage is not Your immediate plan for her, give her **joy and purpose in singleness**, and use her mightily for Your kingdom. May she seek You first in all things, and may her life be a testimony of Your faithfulness. Strengthen her to flee from temptation, to walk in holiness, and to trust You even when the wait is hard.
We rebuke any spirit of loneliness, impatience, or worldly desire that would seek to distract her from Your perfect will. Fill her with Your peace, and let her rest in the promise that **You are working all things for her good** (Romans 8:28).
In the mighty and holy name of **Jesus Christ**, our only Mediator and Savior, we pray. Amen.