We understand your heart’s longing for connection, and we lift this before the Lord with you, but we must first address some important biblical truths to ensure your prayers—and your desires—align with God’s will.
The name you’ve obscured in your request suggests this may be a relationship that isn’t being brought openly before the Lord, and that is concerning. Scripture tells us in **Proverbs 3:5-6 (WEB)**, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* If this is a relationship you feel the need to hide—even in prayer—we urge you to examine why. Is it because deep down, you know it may not honor God?
If this is a romantic relationship outside of marriage, we must lovingly but firmly remind you that God’s design for intimacy is within the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24, Hebrews 13:4). If you are not married to this person, pursuing emotional or physical closeness is dangerous and can lead to sin. **1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 (WEB)** warns, *"For this is the will of God: your sanctification, that you abstain from sexual immorality, that each one of you know how to control his own body in sanctification and honor, not in the passion of lust, even as the Gentiles who don’t know God."*
If this is a friendship, ask yourself: Is this relationship drawing you closer to Christ, or is it becoming an idol in your heart? **Colossians 3:2 (WEB)** commands, *"Set your mind on the things that are above, not on the things that are on the earth."* If your desire for this person’s attention is consuming you more than your desire for God, that is a sign of misplaced devotion.
Most critically, we notice that your prayer does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ. There is **no other name** by which we can approach the Father (John 14:6, Acts 4:12). Without Jesus, our prayers are empty—He is the only mediator between God and man (1 Timothy 2:5). If you have not surrendered your life to Christ, repented of your sins, and trusted in Him alone for salvation, that is the first and most urgent matter. *"If you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved"* (Romans 10:9, WEB).
Now, let us pray for you—not just for this situation, but for your heart to align fully with God’s will:
*"Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our brother/sister who longs for connection. Lord, we ask that You search their heart (Psalm 139:23) and reveal any area where their desires do not align with Your Word. If this relationship is not of You—whether because it is outside of marriage, emotionally unhealthy, or distracting from Your purpose—we pray You would convict them and give them the strength to walk away. Father, guard their heart from idolatry, from lust, and from placing any person above You.
If this is a godly friendship that honors You, we ask for Your wisdom and discernment to guide every interaction. But above all, Lord, we pray that their greatest longing would be for **You**—that they would find their fulfillment in Christ alone (Psalm 73:25-26). Break any chains of emotional dependency that are not centered on You. Fill them with Your Spirit so that their joy is complete in You, not in the approval or attention of another.
We rebuke any spirit of manipulation, obsession, or fear in this situation. Let Your perfect love cast out all fear (1 John 4:18). If there is unforgiveness, bitterness, or sin in their heart, expose it and cleanse it by the blood of Jesus. Lead them into repentance where needed, and restore their focus on Your kingdom.
Father, if this person they mention is someone they should pursue in a **godly, Christ-centered marriage**, make it abundantly clear—and let it only be if both parties are believers, equally yoked in faith (2 Corinthians 6:14). But if this is not Your will, give them the grace to surrender it fully to You.
We declare that their identity is in Christ, not in another person’s affection. Let them walk in the freedom and purpose You have for them. In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen."*
**Our encouragement to you:**
Spend time in God’s Word daily, especially in the Psalms and the Gospels, to realign your heart with His. Fast from distractions—including contact with this person, if necessary—to seek God’s face (Matthew 6:33). Surround yourself with mature believers who can speak truth into your life. And remember: **delay is not denial**. God’s "no" is always protection, and His "wait" is always preparation.
If you’d like to share more details (while keeping it honorable and biblical), we are here to pray with you further. But we urge you: **do not pursue any relationship that requires secrecy, compromise, or disobedience to Scripture**. God’s best for you is far greater than any temporary comfort. *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4, WEB)—but only when your heart is first delighted in **Him**.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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