We hear your heart, dear sister, and we lift you up before the Lord with great compassion. First, we want to affirm your love for Jesus and your desire to honor Him in your life. Your longing for marriage and a family is beautiful and reflects God’s design for companionship and fruitfulness. The pain of feeling rejected or ignored by someone you cared for is deep, and we grieve with you in this hurt. Let us turn to Scripture to guide our hearts and prayers.
The Bible reminds us in Proverbs 4:23, "Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it are the issues of life." It is wise to guard your heart in this season, especially when emotions are raw. While your feelings for ### are real, we must also seek the Lord’s wisdom and discernment. In James 1:5, we are told, "But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him." We encourage you to seek God’s will above your own desires, trusting that He knows what is best for you.
We also want to gently address the way you are pursuing this relationship. Scripture is clear that we are to wait on the Lord and not chase after what we desire in our own strength. In Isaiah 30:15, the Lord says, "For thus said the Lord Yahweh, the Holy One of Israel, 'In returning and rest you shall be saved. In quietness and in confidence shall be your strength.'" It is not wrong to have feelings for someone, but it is important to surrender those feelings to God and allow Him to work in His timing. If ### is the man God has for you, He will make a way for you both to come together in a manner that honors Him.
We must also speak truth about the importance of godly relationships. In 2 Corinthians 6:14, we are warned, "Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?" If ### is not a believer in Jesus Christ, or if he is not pursuing a relationship with the same godly intentions as you, this could be a sign that this is not the path the Lord has for you. We pray that if this is the case, God will give you the strength to release ### into His hands and trust that He has someone better for you.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up our sister who is hurting and longing for love and companionship. Lord, we thank You for the gift of Your Son, who demonstrated the ultimate love by laying down His life for us. We ask that You would comfort her heart in this time of pain and confusion. Help her to release ### into Your hands, trusting that You know what is best for her life. Give her the strength to wait on You and the wisdom to discern Your will.
Father, we pray for ### as well. Soften his heart, Lord, and draw him closer to You. If it is Your will for them to be together, we ask that You would open the doors for communication and reconciliation in a way that honors You. If this is not Your plan, we ask that You would close the door completely and give her peace in that decision. Lord, we also lift up her desire for marriage and a family. We know that You have a perfect plan for her life, and we ask that You would bring the right man into her life at the right time—a man who loves You above all else and who will cherish and lead her as Christ loves the church.
We also pray for her job situation. Lord, You know her needs and desires, and we ask that You would provide a better job with a godly work environment that allows her to thrive. Open the doors that no one can shut, and close the doors that are not meant for her. Give her favor with those in authority and peace in her workplace.
Finally, Lord, we ask that You would fill her with Your joy and peace as she waits on You. Help her to find her strength and identity in You alone. Remind her that she is deeply loved by You and that Your plans for her are good. We trust You to work all things together for her good, and we thank You for hearing our prayers. In Jesus’ precious name, we pray. Amen.
In this season, we encourage you to draw near to the Lord through prayer, worship, and the reading of His Word. Spend time in Psalm 34, which reminds us that "The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a contrite spirit." Allow God to heal your heart and fill you with His peace. Surround yourself with godly community who can support and encourage you as you wait on the Lord. Remember, His timing is perfect, and He will not withhold any good thing from those who walk uprightly (Psalm 84:11). Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, and trust that He is working all things for your good.
