We join with you in thanking our Heavenly Father for His faithfulness, for the gift of the Trinity in our lives, and for His protection over your family, ###, and our nation. Your heart of gratitude is beautiful, and we echo your praises to the Lord, for He alone is worthy!
Yet we must address several concerns in your request with both truth and love, for God’s Word does not return void, and His commands are for our protection and flourishing. First, we rejoice that you are praying in the name of Jesus, for there is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12), and it is only through Christ that we boldly approach the throne of grace (Hebrews 4:16). Your faith in calling upon His name is foundational, and we encourage you to continue seeking Him above all else.
Now, sister, we must speak plainly about the matters of your marriage and this relationship with another man. The Lord’s design for marriage is clear: *"What therefore God has joined together, don’t let man tear apart"* (Matthew 19:6). Marriage is a covenant before God, not merely a contract to be dissolved when difficulties arise. The Scriptures teach that divorce is permitted *only* in cases of sexual immorality (Matthew 5:32, 19:9) or abandonment by an unbelieving spouse (1 Corinthians 7:15). Even then, reconciliation should be pursued where possible. You have not mentioned either of these exceptions, and we urge you to examine your heart: Is this desire for divorce rooted in hardness of heart, or is there unrepentant sin in your husband that has broken the covenant? If it is the former, we plead with you to seek restoration. The Lord can heal even the deepest wounds if both spouses submit to Him.
As for this man you are communicating with—this is not a godly path. You are still married, and any emotional or romantic attachment to another man is adultery in God’s eyes (Matthew 5:28). Jesus said, *"Everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart."* This applies equally to women. Sending pictures, longing for his attention, and planning for a future together while you are still bound to your husband is a grievous sin. It dishonors your marriage vows, your husband, this man, and—most importantly—our Holy God. *"Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed is undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4).
We also hear the danger in your words: *"I heard a voice say, 'Get a divorce and you will see if he wants to be with you.'"'* Sister, this is not the voice of the Holy Spirit. The Spirit of God will *never* lead you into sin or contradiction of Scripture. Satan, however, is a deceiver (John 8:44) who twists desires into destruction. This relationship is built on rebellion, not righteousness. You are seeking validation from a man rather than contentment in Christ, and that is a snare. *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4)—but those desires must first be surrendered to Him.
Furthermore, this man’s history of failed marriages and his apparent lack of spiritual leadership should be a *warning*, not an encouragement. A man who does not prioritize godly commitment is not one to entrust your heart to. You are asking God to bind you to someone who has already demonstrated unfaithfulness in his past covenants. *"Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?"* (Amos 3:3). A relationship centered on Christ requires *both* parties to be fully submitted to Him—singleness, purity, and a shared pursuit of holiness. What you describe is emotional dependency, not godly courtship.
We also note your focus on his attention—asking him to send pictures, track your daily activities, and introduce you to his family. This reveals a deep longing for affection, but sister, *only Jesus can satisfy the cravings of your soul*. Earthly relationships will always fall short if they are not rooted in Him. *"My soul, wait in silence for God alone, for my expectation is from him"* (Psalm 62:5). Seek His face first. Repent of this idolatry of human love and return to your first Love.
As for your health concerns, we lift up your body to the Lord, asking for His healing touch. *"He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds"* (Psalm 147:3). May He grant you physical restoration as you align your heart with His will.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with broken yet hopeful hearts, lifting up our sister who is tangled in sin and longing. Lord, forgive her for the adultery in her heart and actions, for seeking fulfillment outside of Your perfect design. Soften her heart toward her husband, if it is Your will to restore their marriage. If there is unrepentant sin in him, reveal it clearly and provide godly counsel to navigate this pain. But if this desire for divorce stems from hardness or worldly desires, *convict her deeply*, Lord. Turn her away from this destructive path and back to the cross.
We rebuke the enemy’s lies that have whispered false promises of happiness in this unlawful relationship. Expose the deception, Lord, and replace it with a holy fear of You. Remind her that *"the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord"* (Romans 6:23). Let her taste the bitterness of sin so she may run to the sweetness of Your grace.
Father, we ask for supernatural strength to cut off all ungodly communication with this man. Sever the emotional ties, Lord, and fill the void with *Your* love. Let her find joy in You alone, not in the fleeting affection of man. If this man is not Your will for her life—and Scripture suggests he is not—then *remove him completely*. Do not let her be unequally yoked (2 Corinthians 6:14).
For her health, we ask for Your healing power to remove every cyst and bump. You are Jehovah-Rapha, the God who heals. Restore her body as a temple for Your Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19-20).
Most of all, Father, *draw her closer to You*. Let this season of struggle drive her to her knees in repentance and worship. May she find in You the love, security, and purpose she seeks. Break the chains of sin, and set her free to walk in obedience.
We pray all this in the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ, our Redeemer and King. Amen.
Sister, we implore you: *Stop all contact with this man immediately.* Delete his number, block him if necessary, and confess this sin to a mature believer who can hold you accountable. Seek biblical counseling to address the roots of this struggle—loneliness, dissatisfaction, or unmet expectations. Immerse yourself in Scripture, especially passages on marriage (Ephesians 5:22-33), contentment (Philippians 4:11-13), and the dangers of adultery (Proverbs 6:20-35).
If your marriage is broken, pursue restoration with humility and prayer. If your husband is unwilling, the Lord will be your strength. But do not compound sin with more sin. *"Let marriage be held in honor among all."* (Hebrews 13:4). The path you’re on leads to destruction, but Jesus is calling you back to the narrow way (Matthew 7:13-14). Will you turn to Him? We are praying for you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
