We join you in lifting up thanksgiving to our Heavenly Father for His faithfulness in your life and the lives of your family. It is a beautiful thing to see your heart for Jerusalem, Israel, and America, crying out for the people to turn back to God. We echo your prayers for repentance and revival, for it is only through Christ that nations can find true peace and restoration. *"If my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves, pray, seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, will forgive their sin, and will heal their land."* (2 Chronicles 7:14, WEB)
Now, let us address the matter of your friendship with this man. We hear the longing in your heart, the deep connection you felt, and the pain of being blocked without explanation. It is clear that this relationship has stirred strong emotions in you, even to the point of dreaming about him and feeling as though you are in love. But we must pause and examine this through the lens of Scripture, for God’s Word is a lamp to our feet and a light to our path (Psalm 119:105).
First, we commend you for your care and concern for this man, especially given his experiences in the military. Trauma and the weight of what he has witnessed are not small things, and it is right to pray for his healing and peace. *"Cast all your worries on him, because he cares for you."* (1 Peter 5:7, WEB) We pray that God would surround him with His comfort and bring godly people into his life who can walk alongside him in truth and grace.
However, we must gently but firmly address the nature of your relationship with him. You describe a deep emotional attachment, long conversations, and a desire to know him fully—even speaking of love. Yet, from what you’ve shared, it does not appear that this relationship is grounded in the pursuit of a godly marriage. Instead, it seems to be an intense emotional bond with someone you are not committed to in a biblical sense. This is dangerous territory, sister. The Bible warns us to guard our hearts, for *"out of it springs the issues of life"* (Proverbs 4:23, WEB). Emotional intimacy without the covenant of marriage can lead to idolatry, where a person begins to take the place of God in our affections and priorities.
Moreover, if this man is not a believer, or if he is not walking in obedience to Christ, we must ask: is this a relationship you should be pursuing at all? Scripture is clear: *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). A relationship with someone who does not share your faith will pull you away from the Lord, not draw you closer to Him. If he is a believer, then the question must be asked: why is this relationship not moving toward marriage, if that is where your hearts are leading? Lingering in emotional intimacy without commitment is not honoring to God and can lead to sin, whether in thought, word, or deed.
We also notice that you mention he blocked you after you didn’t text him one morning. This raises concerns about control, insecurity, or emotional manipulation in the relationship. A godly relationship should be marked by patience, kindness, and self-control—not by blocking someone over a missed message. *"Love is patient and is kind; love doesn’t envy. Love doesn’t brag, is not proud, doesn’t behave itself inappropriately, doesn’t seek its own way, is not provoked, takes no account of evil; doesn’t rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things."* (1 Corinthians 13:4-7, WEB) If this man’s actions do not reflect these qualities, it is a sign that this relationship may not be what God intends for you.
Lastly, we must address your repeated use of "please" as though you are begging God to change this man’s heart or force him to unblock you. While it is good to bring our desires to the Lord, we must submit them to His will, trusting that He knows what is best for us. *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart."* (Psalm 37:4, WEB) This does not mean God will give us whatever we want, but that as we delight in Him, our desires will align with His, and He will fulfill them in His perfect timing and way. If this man is not part of God’s plan for you, no amount of pleading will change that—and thankfully, God’s plans for you are far greater than you can imagine.
Let us pray together for you and this situation:
Heavenly Father, we lift our sister up to You, knowing that You see her heart and the longing within it. Lord, we ask that You would guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus, protecting her from emotional entanglements that are not of You. If this relationship is not Your will for her, we pray that You would give her the strength to let go completely, trusting in Your goodness and sovereignty. Remove any unhealthy attachment or idolatrous affection, and fill the void with more of Yourself.
Father, if this man is not walking with You, we pray that You would draw him to repentance and faith in Christ. But if he is not the spouse You have for her, we ask that You would close this door permanently and redirect her affections to You alone. Give her wisdom to recognize any red flags or ungodly patterns in this relationship, and grant her the courage to walk away if necessary.
Lord, we pray for her future spouse, whoever and wherever he may be. Prepare him to be a man after Your own heart, one who will love her as Christ loves the church. Give her patience to wait for Your perfect timing, and fill her with joy and contentment in You alone during this season of singleness.
We rebuke any spirit of fear, control, or manipulation in this situation, and we declare that Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, will guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). Give her the grace to forgive this man if he has hurt her, and release her from any bitterness or resentment.
Finally, Father, we thank You that she knows to pray in the name of Jesus, for it is only through Him that we have access to Your throne. Strengthen her faith and remind her daily that her worth and identity are found in Christ alone, not in the approval or affection of any man.
In the mighty and precious name of Jesus we pray, Amen.
Sister, we encourage you to take some time to fast and seek the Lord about this relationship. Ask Him to reveal any sin in your heart, any idolatry, or any way you may be stepping outside of His will. Surround yourself with godly counsel—perhaps a pastor, mentor, or trusted believer who can speak truth into your life. And remember, God’s plans for you are good, even when they don’t look the way you expected. *"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you,’ says Yahweh, ‘thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future."* (Jeremiah 29:11, WEB)
Stay rooted in the Word, and let it be your guide in all things. If you need to step back from this relationship for a season (or permanently), trust that God will give you the grace to do so. He is faithful, and He will never leave you nor forsake you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
