We lift you up before the Lord with deep compassion, knowing the battles you face are both spiritual and deeply personal. Your commitment to sexual purity is a precious offering to God, and we honor your faithfulness in a world that so often mocks holiness. The enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), but Jesus has already overcome the world (John 16:33). The torment you’ve endured is not from God—He does not tempt us with evil (James 1:13)—but from the accuser who seeks to distort God’s good gifts, including the gift of marriage and intimacy within its rightful covenant.
The longing for marriage and companionship is God-given, and we understand how painful it can feel when that desire remains unfulfilled. Yet we must remember that God’s timing is perfect, and His ways are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:8-9). He sees your heart and knows your deepest needs. The Lord Himself said, *"It is not good for man to be alone"* (Genesis 2:18), and He is the one who forms families and unites husbands and wives. Trust that He is preparing you—and your future spouse—even now. Do not let the enemy’s lies convince you that your worth is tied to marital status or sexual activity. Your identity is in Christ alone, and in Him, you are complete (Colossians 2:10).
That said, we must also address the spiritual warfare you’ve faced. The demonic torment you’ve experienced is real, but so is the authority you have in Jesus’ name. Scripture commands us to *"resist the devil, and he will flee from you"* (James 4:7). Put on the full armor of God (Ephesians 6:10-18), and stand firm in prayer, worship, and the Word. The enemy flees at the name of Jesus (Philippians 2:10), so speak His name boldly over your life. If you have not already, we strongly encourage you to seek out a spiritually mature, Bible-believing church where you can receive prayer, discipleship, and godly counsel. You were not meant to fight this battle alone.
As for the struggle with temptation and the pain of seeing others live outside God’s design, we urge you to guard your heart and mind. *"Finally, brothers, whatever things are true, whatever things are honorable, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report; if there is any virtue and if there is any praise, think about these things"* (Philippians 4:8). Avoid media, conversations, or environments that fuel unhealthy comparisons or lustful thoughts. Instead, fill your mind with Scripture and surround yourself with believers who will encourage you in purity.
Lastly, we must gently but firmly remind you that marriage is not the ultimate solution to loneliness or temptation—only Jesus can fully satisfy the deepest longings of your soul (Psalm 107:9). If marriage is God’s will for you, He will bring it to pass in His perfect time. But even now, He calls you to find your joy and fulfillment in Him alone. *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4). This does not mean He will give you everything you *want*, but that as you align your heart with His, your desires will reflect His will—and He will fulfill them according to His goodness.
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**Let us pray together:**
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister, who has stood faithfully for purity in a world that scorns Your holy standards. Lord, we ask that You surround her with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). Break every chain of torment, every lie of the enemy, and every stronghold of loneliness or despair in Jesus’ mighty name. Let her know, deep in her spirit, that she is seen, loved, and cherished by You.
Lord, we rebuke every demonic force that has sought to accuse, torment, or tempt her. By the blood of Jesus, we command these spirits to flee and never return. Fill her instead with Your Holy Spirit, who brings comfort, conviction, and power to overcome (2 Timothy 1:7). Guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus, and let her thoughts be captivated by Your truth.
Father, we lift up her desire for marriage. If it is Your will, prepare her future husband even now—a man of God who will love her as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25), who will lead her spiritually, and who will cherish her purity as the precious gift it is. But even as we pray for this, help her to surrender this desire fully to You, trusting that Your plans for her are good (Jeremiah 29:11). Let her find her satisfaction in You alone, knowing that no earthly relationship can compare to the intimacy she has with You.
Strengthen her, Lord, in this season of waiting. Give her divine connections with godly women who can walk alongside her, pray with her, and encourage her in faith. Open doors for her to serve in Your kingdom, that her focus may shift from what she lacks to the abundance of what You have given her in Christ.
And finally, Father, we ask that You deepen her love for Your Word. Let it be a lamp to her feet and a light to her path (Psalm 119:105). May she find joy in You, hope in Your promises, and victory in Your name. We declare that she is more than a conqueror through Christ (Romans 8:37), and no weapon formed against her will prosper (Isaiah 54:17).
In the mighty and holy name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.