Our hearts ache deeply for the pain and betrayal you are enduring, and we stand with you in this time of heartbreak, crying out to the Lord for His healing, justice, and restoration. The wounds inflicted by your husband’s actions are profound—not only have you been betrayed, but your daughter has been drawn into this sin, which compounds the trauma for both of you. This is not just an attack on your marriage; it is an assault on your family, your dignity, and the innocence of your child. We must address this with the gravity it deserves, for God *hates* what is happening here. His Word is clear: marriage is a sacred covenant, and adultery is an abomination before Him.
Your husband’s actions reveal a heart that has turned away from God’s design for marriage. By introducing this woman to your daughter, he has not only dishonored you but has also sinned against your child, exposing her to emotional confusion and pain. This was not an accident—it was a deliberate choice, one that suggests he is indeed making plans for a future with this woman. The fact that he does not see—or refuses to acknowledge—the depth of your suffering only further reveals the hardness of his heart. Scripture warns us in **Proverbs 6:32-33 (WEB)**, *“He who commits adultery with a woman is void of understanding. He who does it destroys his own soul. He will get wounds and dishonor. His reproach will not be wiped away.”* Your husband’s actions are destroying *his* soul, but they are also tearing apart the lives of those he was meant to protect.
You have every right to demand the truth, but more than that, you have the right to demand *repentance*. If your husband is unrepentant, you must consider the biblical steps for addressing such sin. **Matthew 18:15-17 (WEB)** outlines the process of confrontation, and if he refuses to turn from this sin, the church must be involved. This is not just about your marriage—it is about his soul. **1 Corinthians 6:9-10 (WEB)** leaves no room for ambiguity: *“Or don’t you know that the unrighteous will not inherit God’s Kingdom? Don’t be deceived. Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who have sex with men, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor slanderers, nor extortionists, will inherit God’s Kingdom.”* Your husband is walking a dangerous path, and if he does not repent, he risks far more than the loss of his marriage—he risks eternal separation from God.
As for your healing, we must first acknowledge that what you are experiencing *is* like a death—the death of trust, the death of the marriage you thought you had, and the death of the future you envisioned. Grieving this loss is necessary, but you must not allow bitterness to take root. **Hebrews 12:15 (WEB)** warns, *“Looking carefully lest there be any man who falls short of the grace of God; lest a root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and many be defiled by it.”* Bitterness will only poison *your* soul, and your husband does not deserve that kind of power over you. Instead, we pray that God will replace your pain with His peace, your anger with His righteousness, and your despair with His hope.
Your daughter, too, needs protection and healing. She has been exposed to something no child should ever witness—the breakdown of her parents’ marriage and the introduction of another woman by her father. This is emotional and spiritual abuse, and it must be addressed with wisdom and care. We urge you to seek godly counseling for her, perhaps through your church or a trusted Christian counselor who can help her process this trauma in a way that honors God. **Proverbs 22:6 (WEB)** says, *“Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.”* Right now, she needs to be guided in truth, love, and biblical morality, so that this wound does not distort her understanding of marriage, love, or her own worth.
Now, let us pray together for you, your daughter, and even for your husband, though his sin is grievous:
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**Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this precious sister who is broken, betrayed, and burdened by the sins of her husband. Lord, You see the depth of her pain—the nights spent in tears, the moments of anger and confusion, the fear for her daughter’s heart, and the ache of a marriage that has been violated. We ask that You would be her Comforter, her Healer, and her Strength. Wrap Your arms around her, Lord, and let her feel Your presence in a tangible way.
Father, we rebuke the spirit of adultery that has taken hold of her husband. This sin is an abomination before You, and it has brought destruction into this family. We pray that You would convict him deeply of his sin—that he would see the damage he has caused and repent with a broken and contrite heart. If he refuses to turn from this wickedness, Lord, we ask that You would expose his deeds and bring consequences that lead him to repentance. Do not let him continue in deception, for his soul is at stake.
We pray for this sister’s daughter, Lord. Protect her heart from lasting trauma. Raise up godly mentors and counselors to speak truth and love into her life. Let her see, even in this broken situation, that You are a Father who never leaves nor forsakes His children. Guard her from bitterness, confusion, or a distorted view of marriage. Let this trial draw her *closer* to You, not away.
Father, we ask for wisdom for this sister as she navigates the days ahead. Should she confront her husband with the support of the church? Should she seek legal protection for herself and her daughter? Should she prepare for the possibility that this marriage may not survive? Give her discernment, Lord, and surround her with godly counsel. Let her not be swayed by worldly advice but grounded in Your Word.
We pray for healing—deep, supernatural healing—that only You can provide. Restore what the locusts have eaten, Lord. If it is Your will, redeem this marriage, but only if true repentance and transformation take place. If not, prepare this sister for the path ahead, knowing that You are her Provider, her Defender, and her Everlasting Love.
Finally, Lord, we pray that You would guard her heart from the lies of the enemy. Let her not believe that she is unlovable, that she is to blame, or that her worth is tied to her husband’s choices. Remind her that she is *Yours*—fearfully and wonderfully made, a daughter of the King. Let her find her identity in Christ alone.
We ask all these things in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone can heal the brokenhearted and bind up their wounds. Amen.
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Sister, we urge you to lean heavily on the Lord in this season. **Psalm 34:18 (WEB)** promises, *“Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit.”* He has not abandoned you. We also encourage you to seek support from your church leadership. This is not a burden you should carry alone. If your husband is unrepentant, the church must hold him accountable. You deserve truth, but more than that, you deserve *holiness*—and so does he.
If you have not already, we strongly recommend that you seek legal counsel to protect yourself and your daughter, especially if your husband is making plans that involve this other woman. You must act wisely, not out of fear or vengeance, but out of a desire to honor God and safeguard your family.
Lastly, we want to remind you that your worth is not defined by your husband’s choices. You are *beloved* by God. **Isaiah 43:4 (WEB)** says, *“Since you have been precious and honored in my sight, and I have loved you; therefore I will give people in your place, and nations in exchange for your life.”* Cling to this truth. Let God’s love be the balm that heals your wounds.
We are standing with you in prayer. Do not lose hope—God is still on the throne, and He is able to bring beauty from these ashes. Stay rooted in His Word, and let Him lead you one step at a time.
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